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Featured Terrified of working full-time

Discussion in 'Requests for Christian Advice' started by pinkjess, Mar 8, 2018.

  1. pinkjess

    pinkjess There she goes...at the speed of sound

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    I am sitting here nearly on the verge of tears as I contemplate the idea of giving up my free time and having to work 40+ hours a week just to survive and have a place to live.

    I currently work 27 hours a week doing data entry for an appliance parts store and make about $240 per week. It's good but not enough to buy my own apartment and pay bills. My dad will be selling our house sometime within the next year or so and that means I will be on my own, which also means I will have to start working longer hours to support myself.

    I have severe social anxiety and mild situational depression from my misophonia (they all kind of tie in together). It takes everything in me to "adult" and be a functional person. With my current schedule I get so tired of doing the same old grind and coming home with only 6 hours to make dinner, take a bath and hit the hay. And that's only working three days a week. I can't imagine how I will fare working full-time.

    I don't want to lose my sanity and free-time to work 9 hours a day somewhere I don't want to be, doing things that cause me more anxiety.

    Don't get me wrong, it's not that I want to be a bum or mooch off my dad for the rest of my life (trust me) it's just...losing so much free time and having to exhaust my efforts to be able to afford a place to live that I will never get to enjoy because I will always be at work doesn't appeal to me. Like at all. I value my alone time as an introvert and even more so as a person who deals with anxiety. I need time to pursue my hobbies and passions in order to have a balanced life. I feel like once I work full time the scale will tip and I will get overwhelmed.

    I am trying to find work from home jobs so that way I can still be home and still make money. But most of them are scams. LOL.

    Is there anyone else who feels like me?
     
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    My only consolation to you is that old age security is something to look forward to. I couldn't afford a cup of coffee before that kicked in.
     
  3. Long Island Pilgrim

    Long Island Pilgrim Active Member Supporter

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    Yes...I can relate. I'm 53 years old now but when I was in my late teens and early twenties I felt just like you do in all the ways you mentioned. But I also had PTSD from a very chaotic childhood. It's feels extremely vulnerable especially these days because the world seems so fragmented and lacking in local communities. But if you are Christian this is an excellent opportunity to build your trust and faith in God and spend more time in prayer sharing your concerns and asking for guidance. He will lead you. My only other advice is to do your best to solve problems but try not to focus on the "what if's" because that will hold you back. Just take one day at a time. I commend you for doing such a good job on taking your adult responsibilities seriously.
     
  4. Willie T

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    Welcome to the world of the rest of us. And we ALL live with an alphabet of things also wrong with us.
     
  5. joshua 1 9

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    The word for nations or pagans is also translated gentiles.
    Matthew 6:33 "Do Not Worry
    …32 For the pagans pursue all these things, and your Heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.…

    Luke 12:31 Do Not Worry
    …30 For the nations of the world strive after all these things, and your Father knows that you need them. 31 But seek His kingdom, and these things will be added unto you.
     
  6. Rhamiel

    Rhamiel Member of the Round Table

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    I know how you feel
    the working world kinda sucks most of the time

    maybe try to find a job that inspires you more?
     
  7. pinkjess

    pinkjess There she goes...at the speed of sound

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    I grew up sheltered so this is all so new to me. I feel like I have no one to show me how do adult things. :\
     
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  8. Kit Sigmon

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    A lot of people don't want to work but necessity compels, so off to work they go.
    My husband be one of them...and he works on a farm part time.
    He also has a neurological problem and a learning disability...his job can't be too complex nor require anything more than basic math.

    Breaking things down a bit, Each week has a 168 hours...hypothetical situation...let's say full time work hours per week for Jane Doe be 45 hours,
    that leaves roughly 123 hours...less travel time to/from work.

    At this time you work 27 hours...leaving you with 141 hours.
    I'm guessing you sleep/relax 8 hours each day...that's 56 hours,
    subtract that from 141 and that leaves 85 hours left to spend of your week.

    What are your hobbies and or passions?
    Can they be converted into ways you can make a living from them?




     
  9. pinkjess

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    I love to write stories. But I'm not sure if I can make income from it unless I'm a New York best author lol
     
  10. Celticroots

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    How sheltered were you? Were you never raised with the expectation that you would one day have to live on your own and support yourself? Unfortunately, working full time (unless a disability prevents one from doing so) is part of adult life.

    If it's any consolation, I do know how it can be scary to assume adult responsibilities. Because of a disability, I'll never be able to live fully independently (full time job, pay bills, drive, deal with a mortgage, etc), but I know I will have to make my way with support, doing what I am capable of doing. I am anxious, even scared a little of that.

    Is there anyone you can talk to about your concerns?

    It's very difficult to make a living off of writing. The majority of people can't do so. I am not saying this to be a jerk; I am just relaying what I've read on the subject of making a living off of writing.

    And, with the help of a therapist who has experience treating different anxiety disorders, social anxiety is treatable. So is depression with a combination of coping skills and, sometimes, medication.
     
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  11. deusartemlux

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    I'm working somewhere around 40 hours a week between two jobs. As a thinking type of introvert it can be hard at times loosing "down time" to think, write, and read not to mention being around people for a better part of my day. I can imagine the things you mentioned would make it hard to cope on top of the rough and tumble of a long work week. All I can say is remember to stay tough, remember that you are definitely not alone (MOST of us peoples work--ALOT), relish in the fact you can be financially independent (your entering adulthood), take pride and joy in having your OWN place to live, stay chill and don't stress yourself out with to many extras besides your work, and most importantly accept what coffee has to offer you with a clean white mug. Oh and don't forget your prayers. It's okay to be tired; work is a good thing. Here's to the weekly grind.
     
  12. Kit Sigmon

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    You can become one though... write about what you know, John Grisham was
    just another hard working lawyer putting in 60+ hours a week. In what free
    time he had Grisham spent on his hobby, writing a novel that took him three
    years to finish.
    He'd spend like a year trying to get the book published, Grisham got numerous rejections, he didn't give up! Back then a small time publisher took a chance on Grisham and published his book titled: A Time To Kill, the book did well but it
    would be the next book that would put him on the NY best seller list for 47 weeks,
    that book be: The Firm.

    Julia Deane's idea: How this mom turned $775 into a $65 million company in only 5 years
     
  13. Celticroots

    Celticroots Newbie

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    Whether or not one ends up on the Best Seller list is beyond the author's control.
     
  14. Sketcher

    Sketcher Born Imperishable

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    What's the longest day you typically work now?
     
  15. Andrew77

    Andrew77 The walking accident Supporter

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    Well Jess, I'm afraid I have bad news.

    We all would love to sit at home and do nothing for life. But that isn't life.

    Christians are not supposed to be people who sit around doing nothing. The Bible even says those who refuse to work, shouldn't eat.

    This is part of what it means to be a Christian. We're supposed to be the best workers in this world. We are supposed to be diligent, and work for our living.

    My advice is to get to the point mentally, where you accept that working is part of your duty as a Christian.
     
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  16. pinkjess

    pinkjess There she goes...at the speed of sound

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  17. Sketcher

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    If you work five 8-hour days, they will be shorter than that.
     
  18. Gracia Singh

    Gracia Singh Newbie Supporter

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    I also work full time, lament a lack of free time, and few hobbies. But here is what I have found; you can carve out little swatches of time to sit still, be with God, and get spiritually refueled, no matter what.

    For me, that means waiting till late at night to chill out, pray, get on CF a bit, and relax. The down time happens, just not during the day. It still happens, though.
     
  19. Long Island Pilgrim

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    You would be surprised how few people actually had anyone to show them how to do adult things or how to navigate life. When we are young we tend to think that other peers in our age group had more advantages and had someone to teach them life skills. And sometimes they did. But often they did not. Sometimes the parents were very limmited or immature themselves . Society places too much value on kids attending university prematurely when frequently what they really need first is some basic life skills. But these days , because of the internet, you can receive support on forums and answers to questions or need within seconds by doing a search. So you never need to feel like you are on your own.
     
  20. pinkjess

    pinkjess There she goes...at the speed of sound

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    I don't understand. Can you explain?
     
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