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Sorry, I couldn't even think of a better title for this thread. I didn't want to post about it, but I can't get it off my mind and the whole situation is bothering me a lot.
This is a long post, so get your popcorn.
The church I attend is really huge, so we have little community small groups that we can join in order to get to know other members on a closer level.
We joined ours about two years ago and we've become really close friends with all the people in our group. In fact, I think of them less as small group members, and more as our "crew". We go out for coffee together, watch movies, babysit each others' kids, have dinner and potlucks, etc. There's about 5 couples. We all have kids and we range in age from late 20s to early 40s.
Anyway, back in December, one wife (Mrs. Green) sent out an email to our group saying that her and Mr. Green would no longer be attending our small group meetings. Her explanation was that Mr. Green had been struggling with the ministry leadership at our church (a pre-existing issue that we'd all discussed at length before) and found a new church and, as his wife, she and the kids would follow him to whatever church he felt more comfortable at. Furthermore, there were social activities that the church held on the same days that we'd have our Bible studies, so they wouldn't be able to attend our Bible studies anymore. However, we'd continue to see Mrs. Green at church on alternating weeks because she volunteers in the church nursery and still wanted to fulfill that obligation.
It was all weird and very abrupt. We were sad, but Mrs. Redguard and I didn't press the issue. We sorta just accepted it. Mrs. Redguard planned a goodbye dinner for them and everyone was in attendance. In fact, Mrs. Redguard looks up to Mrs. Green as a sort of mentor. Mr and Mrs. Green are the oldest couple in our group, being in their early 40s. Nicest woman in the world.
Well... here's where things get interesting.
Mrs. Blue sent out an email saying that Bible study would be at the Blue house on Friday. Mrs. Redguard and I were the only other ones there.
We decided to skip the Bible study and just chit-chat and eat snacks instead. After a couple hours, Mrs. Blue said, "Actually, I'm kinda glad that you guys are the only ones that came tonight because there's something that I have to tell you guys and it's really been bothering me."
Mrs. Redguard and I started preparing ourselves for something awful. Mr. Blue got an uncomfortable look on his face.
Mrs. Blue said that late last year, Mr. Green asked to speak to her privately and she agreed. During their conversation, he revealed to her that he was losing interest in Mrs. Green and apparently went on to say a lot of bad things about her. He then went on to reveal that he'd been experiencing some very strong sexual feelings towards Mrs. Blue and he was having trouble dealing with it. Then he concluded the conversation by saying, "I feel like you've been reciprocating the feelings... and if you're interested in pursing this further, then I'm interested as well."
Mrs. Redguard and I both collapsed on the floor when we heard this.
Mrs. Blue said that she told Mr. Green to pray about whatever it was he was going through right away and left. She told Mr. Blue the next day. Mr. Blue saw Mr. Green at the gym a few days later and confronted him. They agreed to have them all meet over coffee to sort out this whole mess.
So, the end result is that the Greens have now excused themselves from our group. Mrs. Blue is hurt because her and Mrs. Green were really good friends. But since Mr. Green accused her of reciprocating feelings (she wasn't), Mrs. Green feels forced to believe her husband and things have now gotten too awkward for them to maintain a friendship.
So now we know the true reason for the Green's not being in our small group anymore. And it bothers us so much that Mr. Green went and poisoned our group like this. There's so much that bothers us about this...
1. Our innocence is lost. We've been communicating with the Greens ever since, like business as usual. And now we know this dirty secret but we can't reveal that we know. We almost wish that they never told us.
2. We feel awful for Mrs. Green because we both see her as an angel on earth who is always going out of her way to help us out
3. We're questioning Mr. Green's sanity. I mean... did he REALLY think that he could get away with this? Something must be wrong with him.
4. We had them all over at our house after the incident for that dinner Mrs. Redguard planned and we came to find out that everyone was feeling uncomfortable and we were clueless!!
Anyway, I just needed to get this off my chest. People really suck sometimes.
This is a long post, so get your popcorn.
The church I attend is really huge, so we have little community small groups that we can join in order to get to know other members on a closer level.
We joined ours about two years ago and we've become really close friends with all the people in our group. In fact, I think of them less as small group members, and more as our "crew". We go out for coffee together, watch movies, babysit each others' kids, have dinner and potlucks, etc. There's about 5 couples. We all have kids and we range in age from late 20s to early 40s.
Anyway, back in December, one wife (Mrs. Green) sent out an email to our group saying that her and Mr. Green would no longer be attending our small group meetings. Her explanation was that Mr. Green had been struggling with the ministry leadership at our church (a pre-existing issue that we'd all discussed at length before) and found a new church and, as his wife, she and the kids would follow him to whatever church he felt more comfortable at. Furthermore, there were social activities that the church held on the same days that we'd have our Bible studies, so they wouldn't be able to attend our Bible studies anymore. However, we'd continue to see Mrs. Green at church on alternating weeks because she volunteers in the church nursery and still wanted to fulfill that obligation.
It was all weird and very abrupt. We were sad, but Mrs. Redguard and I didn't press the issue. We sorta just accepted it. Mrs. Redguard planned a goodbye dinner for them and everyone was in attendance. In fact, Mrs. Redguard looks up to Mrs. Green as a sort of mentor. Mr and Mrs. Green are the oldest couple in our group, being in their early 40s. Nicest woman in the world.
Well... here's where things get interesting.
Mrs. Blue sent out an email saying that Bible study would be at the Blue house on Friday. Mrs. Redguard and I were the only other ones there.
We decided to skip the Bible study and just chit-chat and eat snacks instead. After a couple hours, Mrs. Blue said, "Actually, I'm kinda glad that you guys are the only ones that came tonight because there's something that I have to tell you guys and it's really been bothering me."
Mrs. Redguard and I started preparing ourselves for something awful. Mr. Blue got an uncomfortable look on his face.
Mrs. Blue said that late last year, Mr. Green asked to speak to her privately and she agreed. During their conversation, he revealed to her that he was losing interest in Mrs. Green and apparently went on to say a lot of bad things about her. He then went on to reveal that he'd been experiencing some very strong sexual feelings towards Mrs. Blue and he was having trouble dealing with it. Then he concluded the conversation by saying, "I feel like you've been reciprocating the feelings... and if you're interested in pursing this further, then I'm interested as well."
Mrs. Redguard and I both collapsed on the floor when we heard this.
Mrs. Blue said that she told Mr. Green to pray about whatever it was he was going through right away and left. She told Mr. Blue the next day. Mr. Blue saw Mr. Green at the gym a few days later and confronted him. They agreed to have them all meet over coffee to sort out this whole mess.
So, the end result is that the Greens have now excused themselves from our group. Mrs. Blue is hurt because her and Mrs. Green were really good friends. But since Mr. Green accused her of reciprocating feelings (she wasn't), Mrs. Green feels forced to believe her husband and things have now gotten too awkward for them to maintain a friendship.
So now we know the true reason for the Green's not being in our small group anymore. And it bothers us so much that Mr. Green went and poisoned our group like this. There's so much that bothers us about this...
1. Our innocence is lost. We've been communicating with the Greens ever since, like business as usual. And now we know this dirty secret but we can't reveal that we know. We almost wish that they never told us.
2. We feel awful for Mrs. Green because we both see her as an angel on earth who is always going out of her way to help us out
3. We're questioning Mr. Green's sanity. I mean... did he REALLY think that he could get away with this? Something must be wrong with him.
4. We had them all over at our house after the incident for that dinner Mrs. Redguard planned and we came to find out that everyone was feeling uncomfortable and we were clueless!!
Anyway, I just needed to get this off my chest. People really suck sometimes.