I'm soooo depressed right now I don't know what to do... here's the scoop.
I try realllly hard not to screw up but it seems like screwing up follows me around wherever I go. I'm turning 19 this week....
Tonight my parents had my watch my 11 year old sister. Well a friend called and wanted to come over, he lives about 8 minutes away. So I asked my sister if she would be ok with me leaving to pick up my friend and she said yah no problem so I did. I made sure the stove was off and that she had a way to reach me if she needed me during that short time I was gone. I also woulndn't have left her for those few moments if my parents had left her on occassion by herself for an hr or so while they were gone. So... I leave to go pick up my friend. I get home and my father is sitting by the car waiting for me. I get out and right away I can tell he's been drinking. He's not a drunk, but I could tell he was drunk. Him and my mom went out and had some drinks. Anyway... I come home and a big fight escalates. My mom is sober. So we fight for a while and my friend is out in the car the entire time getting a ride from some friends cause my mom asked him to leave. This big sad fight erupts in the house because I left my sister home for about 15 minutes and my dad is yelling at me calling me irresponsible. So I go to my room to get away. A few minutes later my friend comes in and says he needs he clothes for work the next day and then he will be leaving right away. My dad barges in the room and yells at him telling him he has to leave and my friend calmly tells him he'll be leaving he just needs to get his things. My dad contiunes on and tells him he really needs to leave and grabs him physcially and literally throws him out of my room. Well... my friend forgot his shoes in my room and realized it as he was walking out the door (he had his things with him as he was getting kicked out.) So he tells my dad he needs his shoes for work and my dad yells at him telling him he made a bad choice and says a bunch of things whcih reallyt didny make since like, "You don't have any shoes!" and then forceably again throws him out of the house and then continues to yell at my friends in the car waiting to take my other friend home. This makes me so angry that I yell and ask him what it is he thinks he's doing. He storms up into my room and by this time I'm crying at the scene cause I've never seen my father like this before. And my mom comes up here and tried to get my father away from me and then I yell WHAT THE (BLANK) is his problem!? This is inbetween all my sobs and I really am just shaking with such anger because this is something which has never happened before. MY dad then charges at me and my mom literally has to hold him back. My dad is 6'4 and I'm only like 5'8... I'm bawling my eyes out and then by this time im freaking out at just what happened and then my mom somehow tries to put all of this on me. They make me feel soooo bad sometimes like I seriously try not to screw up because I did alot when I was a bit younger and I hated fighting with them. But now I'm sitting here and I don't know or not if I was wrong and deserved this or not. I feel like this whole things was so unwarranted but they are always soo good at making me feel so bad even when I sometimes don't think I am, for instance tonight. Then my mom and I start arguing saying that if I move out of the house its my decision but I will end up flipping burgers my entire life and ... I'm sorry sorry this is jumbled up but I'm just so filled with emotion its hard to get my thoughts together ya know? I mean what should I do?! Should I feel like I deserve this?! My friends called me later tonight and told me that I really should get out of the house but if I do my parents wont pay for college anymore and life would be sooooo hard working full time and going to school full time it would be WAY to much on my plate. I just need some feedback here... I feel like I've got nowhere to go and all of my options are bad ones. But tomorrow morning there's no way I can look my dad in the face after what he did... and then when my mother tried to justify his actions and then try to make me feel like I should sympathize with him and that I should stop "feeling sorry for myself"... I just couldn't believe the things coming out of her mouth. Then she tried to make me feel like I had it good cause I didn't get beat. I told her I wished my dad would've hit me (I don't know why... ) and then she told me well he probably should have. And then she told how her father doesn't love her as much as my father loves me and I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I just feel like I can't win is all. I try not to screw up, and I do, and this is what happens. ANy advice? Any feedback? Love, Nicholas.
I try realllly hard not to screw up but it seems like screwing up follows me around wherever I go. I'm turning 19 this week....
Tonight my parents had my watch my 11 year old sister. Well a friend called and wanted to come over, he lives about 8 minutes away. So I asked my sister if she would be ok with me leaving to pick up my friend and she said yah no problem so I did. I made sure the stove was off and that she had a way to reach me if she needed me during that short time I was gone. I also woulndn't have left her for those few moments if my parents had left her on occassion by herself for an hr or so while they were gone. So... I leave to go pick up my friend. I get home and my father is sitting by the car waiting for me. I get out and right away I can tell he's been drinking. He's not a drunk, but I could tell he was drunk. Him and my mom went out and had some drinks. Anyway... I come home and a big fight escalates. My mom is sober. So we fight for a while and my friend is out in the car the entire time getting a ride from some friends cause my mom asked him to leave. This big sad fight erupts in the house because I left my sister home for about 15 minutes and my dad is yelling at me calling me irresponsible. So I go to my room to get away. A few minutes later my friend comes in and says he needs he clothes for work the next day and then he will be leaving right away. My dad barges in the room and yells at him telling him he has to leave and my friend calmly tells him he'll be leaving he just needs to get his things. My dad contiunes on and tells him he really needs to leave and grabs him physcially and literally throws him out of my room. Well... my friend forgot his shoes in my room and realized it as he was walking out the door (he had his things with him as he was getting kicked out.) So he tells my dad he needs his shoes for work and my dad yells at him telling him he made a bad choice and says a bunch of things whcih reallyt didny make since like, "You don't have any shoes!" and then forceably again throws him out of the house and then continues to yell at my friends in the car waiting to take my other friend home. This makes me so angry that I yell and ask him what it is he thinks he's doing. He storms up into my room and by this time I'm crying at the scene cause I've never seen my father like this before. And my mom comes up here and tried to get my father away from me and then I yell WHAT THE (BLANK) is his problem!? This is inbetween all my sobs and I really am just shaking with such anger because this is something which has never happened before. MY dad then charges at me and my mom literally has to hold him back. My dad is 6'4 and I'm only like 5'8... I'm bawling my eyes out and then by this time im freaking out at just what happened and then my mom somehow tries to put all of this on me. They make me feel soooo bad sometimes like I seriously try not to screw up because I did alot when I was a bit younger and I hated fighting with them. But now I'm sitting here and I don't know or not if I was wrong and deserved this or not. I feel like this whole things was so unwarranted but they are always soo good at making me feel so bad even when I sometimes don't think I am, for instance tonight. Then my mom and I start arguing saying that if I move out of the house its my decision but I will end up flipping burgers my entire life and ... I'm sorry sorry this is jumbled up but I'm just so filled with emotion its hard to get my thoughts together ya know? I mean what should I do?! Should I feel like I deserve this?! My friends called me later tonight and told me that I really should get out of the house but if I do my parents wont pay for college anymore and life would be sooooo hard working full time and going to school full time it would be WAY to much on my plate. I just need some feedback here... I feel like I've got nowhere to go and all of my options are bad ones. But tomorrow morning there's no way I can look my dad in the face after what he did... and then when my mother tried to justify his actions and then try to make me feel like I should sympathize with him and that I should stop "feeling sorry for myself"... I just couldn't believe the things coming out of her mouth. Then she tried to make me feel like I had it good cause I didn't get beat. I told her I wished my dad would've hit me (I don't know why... ) and then she told me well he probably should have. And then she told how her father doesn't love her as much as my father loves me and I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I just feel like I can't win is all. I try not to screw up, and I do, and this is what happens. ANy advice? Any feedback? Love, Nicholas.