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Syria beheading

Discussion in 'Depression Disorders' started by Okano, Mar 1, 2016.

  1. Okano

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    My girlfriend committed suicide on Nov. 22nd 2015. I can't take it anymore. I gave my virginity to this woman. I didn't baptize her and neither did we repent before she died.

    I was suicidal before we had met, but her being here helped me some and made life bearable. I had chosen her as my wife.

    I want to go to Syria to walk up to the terrorists or help people until they capture me. Once they see I'm not a muslim they will behead me. Is this suicide or is it something else? I just don't want to be here anymore. I can't function, I live in my car now, I can't focus at work. I can't really take care of myself.

    I don't know what else to do. No counseling doesn't work.

    Sara accpeted Christ as her saviour. But hadn't repented and neither had she been baptized.

    :'(
     
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  2. skinnymike1

    skinnymike1 Newbie

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    I am sorry to hear about this, but be of good courage brother! You mustn't be going on about this as it is not the inheritance of a follower of Christ. We are inheritors of better things, not depression, not doom, not discouragement.

    I am not your girlfriend's judge but if she accepted Christ then there is hope for her yet! As it says in Romans 10:9, "If you declare with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (NIV). If she did at least that, then she has favor I believe in my heart.

    And while you are alive, there is hope for you too! Your life isn't over, and I don't think she would want you to use your last breath to wallow like this. You're better than this.

    Straighten up your countenance and pray to God for help and direction. I am going through a family crises that wants to crush me and I just want to give up. But I am seeking help, seeking direction from God. I know you can do it too and find answer, we just have to wait and keep going.

    Ask for God's will, and He will direct you where to go and how to act. If it is to go to Syria then it will be for His glory and not done in an act of depression. Lay claim to God's promises, and I am sure you can recover from this.

    Jeremiah 29:11-" For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (NIV).

    I will be praying for you, and I hope you can pray for me too! Let's look out for each other, we're in this together.
     
  3. Tempura

    Tempura Newbie Supporter

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    Brother, God knows our hearts. Our works are nothing. Christ was all about the heart, what's on the inside, not how things seem on the outside. Baptism is something we do, but baptism in itself is nothing, it is symbolic. All things come by faith, and our heart matters most. We can have the spirit just by praying and believing, just like Christ taught us how God grants us that gift, because He is not the father who gives us scorpions. Your girlfriend is in good hands, and you will meet her, and everyone you love one day. These are not those days, brother. You will endure, and you will find hope. No matter what you have to do. I would suggest treatment, hospitals if necessary (many hospital trips were necessary for me).

    We don't have a tormentor or a trickster, we have a savior. Just think about the criminal on the cross. Was He baptized? No. He was probably a criminal his whole life, and never met Jesus before, and was immediately granted absolution when he asked for mercy. Just like the praying publican and pharisee. The proud pharisee probably did everything "right", every sacrament, every symbolic gesture and upheld all the laws. But it was his heart that failed him, because how things are on the outside mean nothing. Meanwhile, the publican who was ashamed and didn't even know how to pray, got Christ Himself to use this man as an example for us.

    We make rules out of what we don't understand. Just like pharisees and teachers of the law (of whom Christ warned us, how they like to tie heavy burdens on people). Christ didn't bring us shackles, He set us free. And the more I believe that sacrifice of His, the more I understand how God's love is perfect. His grace is perfect, and when we let it in, we start to understand it. We stop looking at what we could do to set things right with God (and instead start to understand that His grace is freely given), we stop worshiping our sins and feeding the useless guilt we have, as if they have more power than God's grace. We only take the guilt that we need to grow, not to punish ourselves. We start to even love more. And best of all, at some point, we stop worrying so much. Because Christ did it all, He did what we never could and never can, and in Him we place our hope. He isn't a torturer, He is a saviour and His sacrifice is that of perfect, undeserved love.

    Many times when Christ reprimanded people, it is for us to understand how we are all, deep inside, sinners. He gave us the ideal on how to live. But He knew Himself that salvation is impossible to man, like He said, but everything is possible to God. And that's how it is - we need Christ. If I could save myself, how could I need His sacrifice? And God, who gave us His only begotten son - wouldn't He give us everything else, spiritually, as well? Don't worry brother. Just put your faith and hopes in Christ, not on our works and traditions.

    And Christ said that whenever two or more gather in His name and ask for anything, He will be there. Not that He wouldn't be there if we were alone, He would and He will. But just to enforce it, let's pray: Dear God, take good care of Sara, this woman Okano loves so much, and let no love go into waste. Guide this man and let comfort and hope make room in his heart. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

    God bless you and everyone you love.
     
  4. Jeshu

    Jeshu Bought by His Blood Supporter

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    Dear brother you have to remember that you are making life decisions while you are grieving and while you are depressed. Honestly dear fellow such states of being befall and attack our well being but it is not good to let them make life and death decisions neither grief nor depression tell us rightly, rather grief speaks out of a torn sadness and depression speaks out of darkness.

    Please fight those thoughts and feelings that provide you with no future down here. A future with Christ, who understands your pain and has comfort and ability laying ready for you to overcome this time and to build a future with out your loved one, perhaps even creating room for some on else to love and be loved by, who knows what lays in store of us. The false prophet certainly doesn't lead us to green pastures but drags us off to the waste lands and rapes and abuses us there.

    Please consider what thoughts and feelings you sow into yourself and what you get back in return. Jesus taught me to understand that what you sow that you shall harvest, and some 30 fold some 100 fold, is spiritually more true than ever. Please, please sow positive, loving, caring, kind, gentle, passionate, and honourable feelings into your heart and make decision out of such spirituality, isn't that what you loved Sara with, isn't that what Sara would have come to expect to come from you? Let your love for her pave the road of your new life, not the grief of loosing her and the dark torturous feelings and thoughts depression presses upon you.

    Be free my dear brother, seek Jesus in all this and find your freedom back again. It is good to love, as you already know, so it seems to me that it is best to heed what love has to say to you about you future. Crown love for Jesus king of your heart today and let Jesus come and get you out of your bind and teach you to walk in His ways.

    And yes you will end up fighting evil but first of all the wicked who are hiding in your heart hurting you without respite with the lies and bad feelings that bombard you daily. Overcoming them will be awesome already and who knows you might become one of our Lord' greatest warriors ever, who knows?

    Christ can do amazing things that much I do know.

    Jeremiah 29:11
    For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
     
  5. Okano

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    You guys have really lifted my spirits. Thank you.
     
  6. Tempura

    Tempura Newbie Supporter

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    Remember, we are not given the spirit of fear. Fear and anquish isn't from God. It's from people, from the enemy, from other things.

    You're dealing with much sorrow, brother. But it will turn into hope. And we can and should hope all good things in the name of Jesus Christ, who doesn't want to burden us, but instead relieve us from all of it. I hope you get some help, there is no shame in it. God bless, said a little prayer for you.
     
  7. Extraneous

    Extraneous Well-Known Member

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    I try not to look at God as if he were merciless, but in all things and in all failures, i try to ask forgiveness, and to forgive myself as well, and move forward in hope. The bible says that Gods mercy is new every morning.

    Lamentations 3:22 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;[a]
    his mercies never come to an end;
    23 they are new every morning;
    great is your faithfulness.
     
  8. LaSorcia

    LaSorcia INFJ Staff Member Red Team - Moderator Supporter

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    Oh I am so sorry for your horrible loss. It is terribly tragic, and neither you nor she deserved such a fate in this world. I suspect most of us don't get what we deserve...in this world.

    You say she accepted Christ as her saviour. Then rest assured, "those who live and believe in (Jesus) shall never die". She did not die, she forced her passing over. Yes a sin, but not an unforgivable one by God. I pray for mercy that the enemy does not have claim on her soul. I claim her as my sister in Christ because in Acts, when someone got saved and baptized, all their household (family) did, too.

    Dearest, merciful God, accept her into your presence and comfort this brother who is despondently sad from what happened. In the name of Jesus, I pray to you. Amen.
     
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