This is a hypothetical situation inspired by something I've been thinking about due to another thread in the forum.
Suppose you are single and out and about--you meet an attractive individual and one thing leads to another and you decide to go on a date. One date turns into several. He or she turns out to be kind and funny, a good talker and a better listener, someone with whom you have many things in common and who seems to have their life together. You go dutch on the dates (each paying for half, as is only fair) and you have a great time. It really feels like there's a connection.
At the end of the third night you move in for a kiss and your date stops you. "Before we go any further, I need to tell you... I'm transgendered. I am biologically a man (or woman)."
How would you react to this situation? Would you be willing to consider pursuing a relationship with the person? Would you feel lied to or betrayed, even if you've only known each other a couple days, you didn't really spend anything on them, and you did have a good time? Would post-op or pre-op make a difference?
It just occurred to me that transgendered people must have a really tough time when it comes to finding love, since they are potentially working from a much smaller pool than even homosexuals. On the one hand, people usually like to know what they are getting into, but on the other, we don't tell a person everything about ourselves when we first meet them. Trust takes time.
If there are any transgendered people on the board, and if you feel comfortable with the subject, I would also like to hear about your experiences and how you approach relationships.
Suppose you are single and out and about--you meet an attractive individual and one thing leads to another and you decide to go on a date. One date turns into several. He or she turns out to be kind and funny, a good talker and a better listener, someone with whom you have many things in common and who seems to have their life together. You go dutch on the dates (each paying for half, as is only fair) and you have a great time. It really feels like there's a connection.
At the end of the third night you move in for a kiss and your date stops you. "Before we go any further, I need to tell you... I'm transgendered. I am biologically a man (or woman)."
How would you react to this situation? Would you be willing to consider pursuing a relationship with the person? Would you feel lied to or betrayed, even if you've only known each other a couple days, you didn't really spend anything on them, and you did have a good time? Would post-op or pre-op make a difference?
It just occurred to me that transgendered people must have a really tough time when it comes to finding love, since they are potentially working from a much smaller pool than even homosexuals. On the one hand, people usually like to know what they are getting into, but on the other, we don't tell a person everything about ourselves when we first meet them. Trust takes time.
If there are any transgendered people on the board, and if you feel comfortable with the subject, I would also like to hear about your experiences and how you approach relationships.