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Struggling with pornography...

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by James2206, Jul 18, 2017.

  1. James2206

    James2206 Christian

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    Hi, I am a male in my twenties, and have struggled with pornography for a few years. I have been a born again Christian for many more years than I have been watching pornography, but recently I have not been where I should be spiritually and it is a real problem. I feel so much guilt whenever I give in to temptation, and always think 'i'll stop now, no more' and maybe last a few days.

    I am getting married next month and would love to just stop this disgusting habit altogether!
    1. Because I would hate to betray my wife and watch it when we are married
    2. Because I know it is a huge insult to God, who I know loves me and gave His Son to die for my sins, one main one in my life being watching porn..!

    Help.
     
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  2. TurtleFish The Challenged

    TurtleFish The Challenged Active Member Supporter

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    Welcome, I will pray for your situation. I also struggle in this area.
     
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  3. ImAllLikeOkWaitWat

    ImAllLikeOkWaitWat For who can resist his will?

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    Well lets hope once you are with your wife you will forget porn. Just focus all that porn energy on your wife instead is what I recommend.
     
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  4. -Luca

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  5. ~Cassia~

    ~Cassia~ Devoted to Truth Supporter

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    Thoughts are like a garden. You can't help the seeds that fall in there altho you can control what you allow to grow there. Following evil thoughts so that they bear seeds of their own in actions or behavior is still following after evil. jm2c
     
  6. Solomons Porch

    Solomons Porch Solomon's Porch

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    Praying and in the name of Jesus may the chains be broken off of your life :prayer::prayer:
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  7. gradyll

    gradyll logical debater- for better or for worse

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    have been totally free from porn for over 4 years now, praise God, I journal my experiences here:
    StockTrader4God: This weeks Devotion: pure relationships (a men's devotion, because I are one)

    praise God for your transparency.
     
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    Solomons Porch Solomon's Porch

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  9. TurtleFish The Challenged

    TurtleFish The Challenged Active Member Supporter

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    Right! Couple verses of Scripture come to mind.

    James 1:12-15
     
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  10. Ygrene Imref

    Ygrene Imref Well-Known Member

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    This is actually what the disciples, and Christ touched on: that our spouses are here for us, and we them. And, that those "lusts" should be directed toward YOU(R WIFE.)

    The caveat is that lusting in the heart is equally sinful as the action - which made the disciples groan, throw up their hands and claim it's better to be single (more or less)!
     
  11. Kerensa

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    Pornography is genuinely addictive like a drug, friend — it's not "all your fault" if you keep being tempted back to it. It presents an exaggerated (and totally fake) view of sex that can easily draw people in and come to seem more attractive than real intimacy with a real person, yet it never truly satisfies anyone.

    Don't be afraid of turning earnestly and wholeheartedly to God about this, whenever you're tempted and even if you do slip up. God is NOT sitting there tut-tutting or getting mad at you because you're struggling with this sin. He is right there with you and for you, every moment, giving you the strength and purity you need in order to rise higher than these temptations. It doesn't matter how long the struggle has gone on or how hard it is — you've already made the clear decision for God and for your marriage, which is the first big step. You CAN be free. My prayers are with you too, brother.
     
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    moving to christian advice as per the sop

    non-christian posts have been removed as only christians may respond
     
  13. James2206

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    Thank you all so much for the replies already, I am overwhelmed.
    I have never posted on a forum before and the amount of replies in the short space of time has really shocked me.

    I appreciate every one of your comments and and so thankful to have loving thoughts/comments from people I have never even met before.

    This is something I want out of my life, completely. I adore my fiancée and also God, even though a lot of time in my life I do not show God anywhere near the level of love/respect He deserves from me. I do not want to carry on this horrible habit/addiction, whatever you want to call it, as I do not want to hurt my fiancée, or offend God after everything He has done for me.

    Thank you all so much, and I really appreciate your prayers, J
     
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  14. -Luca

    -Luca Well-Known Member

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    How did you do it?
     
  15. Phil 1:21

    Phil 1:21 Well-Known Member

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    Does your church have a support group?
     
  16. -Luca

    -Luca Well-Known Member

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    Why does it seem that men are more addicted to pornography than woman?

    Because less woman watch it or something?
     
  17. 2PhiloVoid

    2PhiloVoid Uh, you didn't just say what I think you said?! Supporter

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    Hormones and male psychology is the difference, my dear Watson! ;) Plus the fact that most of the Porn Industry has been driven and produced my men, for men.
     
  18. 2PhiloVoid

    2PhiloVoid Uh, you didn't just say what I think you said?! Supporter

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    Hi James,

    It's definitely a scourge upon our manhood, but just so you know you're not alone in this, here's a report that tells you just how not alone you are:

    Nearly Two-Thirds of Christian Men View Porn Monthly; They Are Watching It at Same Rate as Secular Men, Says Study

    Peace,
    2PhiloVoid
     
  19. Kerensa

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    Actually, women can become addicted to it as easily as men, and increasing numbers of women do struggle with it. It's simply not true that women are "less interested" in sex than men. Anyone can get pulled into these temptations, especially with the way we're bombarded (especially via the internet) these days. It is true that much of the porn industry is aimed at men, but it increasingly targets women as well.

    As another idea, there are organisations and programmes available online to help people who are struggling with porn addiction, including groups that are Christian-based. It might help to look for some of those. But it can also be hugely helpful to confide privately in someone from your church whom you trust and who can support you (whether a minister, a dedicated support group, or simply a good friend). Most people have had these struggles at some time or other — I've never been addicted to porn, but I do know the temptation to indulge in lustful thoughts and it is something I've had to pray about a lot too — and there will definitely be someone who understands and can give you moral and prayerful support when you need it. And yes, it IS possible to be free and stay free. It's not always easy, but the fight is well worth it. :blacksunrays:
     
  20. James2206

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    Not a support group as such, but many people I could talk to
    However this is just too embarrassing for me, hence my post on here.. :/
     
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