Hi everyone, I'm just reposting my question in the married forum to see whether anyone who has been through this can provide some insight.
Is it normal for my bf to be aroused around me even when we are not necessarily touching (and in public)? I can understand that kissing or touching in certain ways can cause arousal in men so we don't kiss or touch in any way that can make things worse.
Apparently, arousal sometimes happens when he sees me (he loves my face and figure but I don't ever dress in a provocative or revealing way...I know this can be subjective but I've double checked with him) or when he gives me a hug (but we do pull away when he finds it too much). There's a few times when he actually had to physically remove himself and "flee" and we aren't even alone or making out.
He's in his late 20s/early 30 so it strikes me as a bit surprising since I thought younger men struggle with this more and I heard it is suppose to tame down as they age? He never had a problem with inappropriate contentography or any sexual past issues and has not really encountered this intense feeling until we started dating. Does this indicate that he might have a high libido (but then again if he did, why only go through strong sexual urges only now) or is it because we are going too far (at the mere sight of me) It has apparently intensified for him as time went by. It baffles me a bit because I always felt like I had a stronger libido but even then, I hardly get aroused just by seeing him (but of course I find him physically attractive) or a quick hug. *I'm also thinking whether he is more easily aroused knowing that I'm not afraid but rather desire and am excited to experience sexual intimacy after marriage? I don't buy into my church's prudish & shaming approach when it comes to sex nor do I applaud the world's sexual immorality.
Is it normal for my bf to be aroused around me even when we are not necessarily touching (and in public)? I can understand that kissing or touching in certain ways can cause arousal in men so we don't kiss or touch in any way that can make things worse.
Apparently, arousal sometimes happens when he sees me (he loves my face and figure but I don't ever dress in a provocative or revealing way...I know this can be subjective but I've double checked with him) or when he gives me a hug (but we do pull away when he finds it too much). There's a few times when he actually had to physically remove himself and "flee" and we aren't even alone or making out.
He's in his late 20s/early 30 so it strikes me as a bit surprising since I thought younger men struggle with this more and I heard it is suppose to tame down as they age? He never had a problem with inappropriate contentography or any sexual past issues and has not really encountered this intense feeling until we started dating. Does this indicate that he might have a high libido (but then again if he did, why only go through strong sexual urges only now) or is it because we are going too far (at the mere sight of me) It has apparently intensified for him as time went by. It baffles me a bit because I always felt like I had a stronger libido but even then, I hardly get aroused just by seeing him (but of course I find him physically attractive) or a quick hug. *I'm also thinking whether he is more easily aroused knowing that I'm not afraid but rather desire and am excited to experience sexual intimacy after marriage? I don't buy into my church's prudish & shaming approach when it comes to sex nor do I applaud the world's sexual immorality.
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