Staying away from homosexuality

[Rubricnigel]

[Staff edit].

There is a difference between acting and thinking. Plenty have thought about it, as well as other sinful acts (lust, vengeance, violence, theft, etc) but having the willpower to NOT commit the sin.

To the OP, i suggest severing ties to this "friend" and ending any such "friendships" that you feel would tempt you into a sin.
I would say the same to a drunk, a thief, an adulterer, sometimes staying away from the issue will help your willpower strengthen.

[Staff edit].

Ill pray for OP, Lord have mercy!

 

[Zoii]

Christan churches have varying views regarding homosexuality. The important thing is that you stay well mentally and physically. If you find yourself becoming anxious or depressed, talk to your parents or a professional counsellor. Don't be isolated with the anxieties you are experiencing.

 

[Paidiske]

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[SkyWriting]

Hello.

As long as I can remember, I have been attracted to other men. I have never told anyone, but I have prayed about it thousands of times, and I believe that the Lord has helped me not to act upon it. However, I recently met a boy whom I just feel different about. He has flirted a bit with me, and although I have tried treating him as a normal friend, I just can't help having these feelings about him.

I am really scared I will act upon them because the feelings are so strong, and sometimes seem more important to me than the word of God.

I am currently 16 years old and I am already struggling. How can I stick to the word of God for the rest of my life?

The urges are very strong at that age, but you shouldn't be having sex until you are married.
Its not as fake a rule as you might think. When you commit to another person
and you promise to be their partner for life, you really don't want to be remembering
the 2, 20, or 200 flings you had casual sex with. You really want "all of you" to be the
same sex experience as all of them had.

So say you have sex for the first time. Now they are imagining the 20 others they
had sex with and are comparing you to them! Not good right?

So don't be that sloppy seconds person. Save sex as serious and meant for your marriage.

 

[salt-n-light]

I simply want to thank every one of you for wanting to help me with this.

I will continue working on it and do my best keeping the words of God.

God bless you all!

Hey @JonHansen,any updates?

 

[JonHansen]

I must admit that I have not progressed the way I hoped I would. Fortunately, I think I have the willpower not to have a sexual relationship with another man, at least for now. However, my relationship to God has become weaker, and I have also started questioning His existence. Probably as a consequence of almost giving up that I will ever change, and that I cannot live with the thoughts I experience without being affected by them.

I would also like to explain that I am entirely sure that this is the way God has made me. That does not mean that I think it is impossible to change (although it seems the most reasonable) or that it is okay. However, I know that I have had these feelings for my whole life. Also, my upbringing has been almost equivalent to the ones of my brothers, so it must be something I was born as.

Thank you for all support.