I'm in a bit of an odd relationship right now and have been for the last 6 months. I live in a city that is about 60 miles (or a 1.5 hour drive) from the city my g/f lives in. The city I live in is larger and we both enjoy spending time here more than in her city, so she comes over here when we hangout.
She typically has an odd work schedule where she'll work 9 days straight and get 5 days off (Thurs through Mon), so I usually see her about every other weekend and she wants to hang out with me during the entire weekend while she is here. Because of the price of gas, she cannot afford to come up here and go home every single day we do something and I have no desire to drive out to where she lives because it's more than I want to drive.
As a result, she typically tries staying overnight with a few of her friends that live in this city during the days that we are hanging out. She has a couple female friends she can stay at, but some nights she can't stay at their places and either has to stay at my place, sleep in her car, or drive home, which means she wouldn't get to see me as much.
I've let her stay here some nights, particularly when she has been too tired to drive home. I live with my parents, so there is always someone here besides us and my girlfriend and I sleep in seperate rooms. Normally, I didn't feel bad about this when it happened once in a blue moon, but it is starting to become a biweekly tradition where one of the nights she is in town she ends up staying here, and now that it has become an expectation I feel the burden of it more. I believe cohabitation is bad and that people need some space while they are dating, but she wants to spend as much time with me as possible. To her, she thinks it would be impossible for us to date if she only saw me one day during the 5 days she has off.
Thoughts?
She typically has an odd work schedule where she'll work 9 days straight and get 5 days off (Thurs through Mon), so I usually see her about every other weekend and she wants to hang out with me during the entire weekend while she is here. Because of the price of gas, she cannot afford to come up here and go home every single day we do something and I have no desire to drive out to where she lives because it's more than I want to drive.
As a result, she typically tries staying overnight with a few of her friends that live in this city during the days that we are hanging out. She has a couple female friends she can stay at, but some nights she can't stay at their places and either has to stay at my place, sleep in her car, or drive home, which means she wouldn't get to see me as much.
I've let her stay here some nights, particularly when she has been too tired to drive home. I live with my parents, so there is always someone here besides us and my girlfriend and I sleep in seperate rooms. Normally, I didn't feel bad about this when it happened once in a blue moon, but it is starting to become a biweekly tradition where one of the nights she is in town she ends up staying here, and now that it has become an expectation I feel the burden of it more. I believe cohabitation is bad and that people need some space while they are dating, but she wants to spend as much time with me as possible. To her, she thinks it would be impossible for us to date if she only saw me one day during the 5 days she has off.
Thoughts?