The love of GOd is the most important characteristic of GOd. That is what God says more or less. "God so loved the world"...NOT "God is so sovereign over the world." In fact, where does God say he is sovereign?
I read that God says that men do not do the will of GOd. That is pretty obvious if one reads the news but the Bible says it as well. Not the sovereignity you likely mean. And GOd has no problem not micromanaging the world. Only those who want him to be responsible for everything they do like that doctrine. I am quite sure God does not like to be blamed for what men do.
Now I think you need to take a closer look at your desire to deeper your clarity. I think you are fooling yourself. You admit you do not want to argue. That means you do not want to engage in any thinking different than your already established view. That means you do not want to deepen your clarity but merely further entrench your thinking in the already prefered view that God is making everyone do everything they do.
Since you do not want to engage with anyone whose view is different, I do not expect an answer. But some truth needs to be injected into the false OP anyway.
I understand your opinion. And you are entitled to your opinion.
So, if a demon professing to love you told you he loved you--that might be sufficient for you--based on what you shared. But it isn't for me.
If your God doesn't have ultimate control to make the end come about that the God of the Bible says will happen, then any outcome is possible and your faith could be in vain, according to Paul. Could the greeks count on their goddess of love that they believed in? Could the romans count on their goddess of love? How about the ephesians and their goddess diana? How about the Egyptians and their sun-god?
For God's love to matter, He has to be able to sovereignly show me that love and fulfill the promises the God of the Bible says He will, without a stronger God who I don't have a relationship with preventing Him from doing so. If God isn't Sovereign, He can only do what the one who is the Absolute Sovereign allows. He needs to be able to do what He says He will. If He isn't Sovereign, He can't. I am not using Sovereign in a way that suggests that He is mean-spirited or evil. I am saying that He has ultimate control.
I never said I was talking about controlling man's decisions as the definition of Sovereign. But, would God claim responsibility, because He allows man to have that free will? Yes, based on what He said to satan in Job 2:3 and yet still ALLOWED satan to do more (again within constraints) to Job. God had a purpose for allowing what He allowed then. And God still has a purpose for everything He allows today. God brought Job to a greater place with him and restored him with double for his trouble. That is Divine Sovereignty! If you don't think the concept of sovereignty (without the word itself) is covered in the Bible, read what God says about Himself in Job 38-42. And, that isn't the only place where God talks about Himself like that!
Personally, I think that human free will is actually support of how amazing and Sovereign God is, because He allows free will--that often runs contrary to Him--and can still make all His promises/prophesies come true. And, that is important to me, because what can I count on if He doesn't have the Sovereign ability to make His promises come true? But, if HE HAS THE SOVEREIGN POWER TO BRING ABOUT EVERYTHING HE PROMISES, WOW! Then, and only then, can I truly look forward, in living hope instead of wishful thinking, to being resurrected with an incorruptible body and living in a place with no more tears, no more suffering, no more death. Because if God is weak and helpless to make all that come about, it is only wishful thinking, not faith that pleases God (Heb 11:6).
The fact that He tells us what He is going to do and--within the fabric of all the free will accommodations--brings what He says will happen to fruition is extraordinary. I can only stand/kneel/drop on my face in complete awe! Jesus Himself predicted He would be killed and then risen. God even foretold how it would happen. And, it still happened just like He said it would, through the free will of man and satan. Why doesn't he get his legs broken, like the other two? Because God said He wouldn't have any broken bones. So, within the free will of man, God arranged for things to happen so that Jesus (the man on the cross) was already clearly dead while the two others were not, so they didn't feel a need to break Jesus' legs. If you could only understand that, really understand that. How amazing is my God to have a Sovereignty that is so above anything we can imagine that He can make things happen that defy nature, that He can bring about a beautiful end for those who love Him, despite the fact that all of us have worked against Him for at least a time. The more I contemplate His Sovereignty, the more I stand in awe. And, yet with that mighty sovereignty and our almost absolute ignorance, He still loves us and even chose to, sacrificially, make a way for us to never have to worry about death! Thank you, Jesus, for taking on yourself what I deserved! Thank you, Father, for having that plan and for speaking the Word on my behalf! Thank you, Holy Spirit, for every amazing part of the plan you have played. I'm so thankful that You continue to lead me into all Truth, counsel me, and assure me that I am His! I stand in awe of You, God!