Merrill
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you are not describing real traditionalism--you are describing young guys on the web talking about their conquests while saying they ultimately want traditional wives.I'm certainly not advocating a "leftist utopia".
There's a lot of middle ground between that and strict traditionalism.
One doesn't need to be a "free love hippy" to hold the view that society doesn't need to be structured around a belief system that says "Men are above women, and womens' happiness is contingent on how happy they can keep their man"
When I talk to a lot of the "trad bros" online in other forums, they seem to advocate for the "trad" ideology
A) Because it's easy, one can simply appeal to tradition, and it doesn't involve a lot of thought or planning and there aren't a lot of dynamics to account for
B) Because they're the main benefactors of it
However, they overlook a lot of negatives when they appeal to certain time periods as "the ideal".
Domestic violence was extremely common in the 1950's, and women had very little legal recourse when it happened and the entire.
While the sexual revolution had some serious issues and introduced some problems, a lot of it was an overcorrection to the issues present in the "trad" system.
And I notice the rhetoric is still surrounding the expectations of womens behavior with regards to how it attracts a partner, and the same tone isn't there when discussing the inverse. For instance the type of behavior that gets labelled as "guys being guys", gets framed in a portrayal of "damaged goods" when referring to women who engage in the same behavior.
Or, to put it more succinctly, the "trad bro" mentality seems to be centered around "I get to sow my wild oats from age 18-20, but when I'm ready to settle down, I want a woman who's a virgin and who's content with keeping the house clean and respecting my authority"
there is an argument for celibacy until marriage (or a least very little sexual activity), and having kids within wedlock. And no one is arguing for some system where women are forced to stay home, and where men are allowed to beat them.
Men and women have different roles and prerogatives in context of family and marriage. That doesn't mean every woman has to adhere to these roles, or even get married. But women aren't happy in our society: they are told to act like men, climb the corporate ladder, postpone having children until their late 30s, and find a guy who went to a better university, and who makes twice as much money as they do. Some women are successful at this, but most who follow this plan end up single and childless after a series of bad relationships. Some end up in bad marriages.
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