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Hi, so I guess I am in quite a predicament and I don't have any idea how I should handle it in the best Christian way possible...

I have one beautiful daughter who is 18 months old. I adore her so much and am so beyond thankful to God for her. Her father and I were married for a year then divorced because he was abusive toward me physically and very emotionally controlling. He even went so far to say "what if I were to kill our daughter?" After that I separated from him and took my daughter with me. A few months went by and he said that he was getting help from a Christian therapist and was doing better. I agreed to then let him started spending time with our daughter as long as he was at his parents house where he wouldn't be alone with her. A few months went by and we seemed to be doing okay so then as we were approaching the court date for our divorce I made a HUGE mistake of filing for joint custody. After the divorce the time during our exchanges of our daughter started to become really nasty real fast. He started to question where I was living because I left my parents house. Wanting to know an address and desperately asking me to let him see the place where our daughter is living. And normally I understand the concern of our child's well being but he is so controlling and on such a power trip that I do not believe his concern is for our daughter... but his own need to constantly control me. Things became worse and worse and the abuse just continued during the exchanges (happening right in front of our daughter). The only issue is he knew the fine line of where he could get away with harassing me without physically harming me or making any direct threats). It led to us having to go through exchanges at the police station then to me getting a restraining order against him for two months. The restraining order was just lifted a week ago. In the two months that he was not allowed to contact me, I was hoping he would have taken the hint to leave me alone and stop harassing me. Then of course he started to harass me again right outside the courtroom! And just today he stood right outside my car waiting for me to give him my address of where I was living! I am so sick and tired of being controlled and having to meet at the police station to exchange our daughter. I literally am disgusted by this person by the abuse that I have experienced from him. And because I have done a terrible job documenting the patterns of abuse and calling the police when needed and the fact that we have joint custody... no one, not the police, my attourney, or the judge is taking me seriously! This is causing me so much fear and sickness I feel like I am still stuck in this abusive controlling relationship. He is my daughter's father so I just want to be able to get along...but the only way for that to happen is to give him the control he desires and I'm not willing to do that. And taking it to court is apparently not going to work. Any prayers are seriously appreciated at this time! thank you!
 
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Hi, so I guess I am in quite a predicament and I don't have any idea how I should handle it in the best Christian way possible...

I have one beautiful daughter who is 18 months old. I adore her so much and am so beyond thankful to God for her. Her father and I were married for a year then divorced because he was abusive toward me physically and very emotionally controlling. He even went so far to say "what if I were to kill our daughter?" After that I separated from him and took my daughter with me. A few months went by and he said that he was getting help from a Christian therapist and was doing better. I agreed to then let him started spending time with our daughter as long as he was at his parents house where he wouldn't be alone with her. A few months went by and we seemed to be doing okay so then as we were approaching the court date for our divorce I made a HUGE mistake of filing for joint custody. After the divorce the time during our exchanges of our daughter started to become really nasty real fast. He started to question where I was living because I left my parents house. Wanting to know an address and desperately asking me to let him see the place where our daughter is living. And normally I understand the concern of our child's well being but he is so controlling and on such a power trip that I do not believe his concern is for our daughter... but his own need to constantly control me. Things became worse and worse and the abuse just continued during the exchanges (happening right in front of our daughter). The only issue is he knew the fine line of where he could get away with harassing me without physically harming me or making any direct threats). It led to us having to go through exchanges at the police station then to me getting a restraining order against him for two months. The restraining order was just lifted a week ago. In the two months that he was not allowed to contact me, I was hoping he would have taken the hint to leave me alone and stop harassing me. Then of course he started to harass me again right outside the courtroom! And just today he stood right outside my car waiting for me to give him my address of where I was living! I am so sick and tired of being controlled and having to meet at the police station to exchange our daughter. I literally am disgusted by this person by the abuse that I have experienced from him. And because I have done a terrible job documenting the patterns of abuse and calling the police when needed and the fact that we have joint custody... no one, not the police, my attourney, or the judge is taking me seriously! This is causing me so much fear and sickness I feel like I am still stuck in this abusive controlling relationship. He is my daughter's father so I just want to be able to get along...but the only way for that to happen is to give him the control he desires and I'm not willing to do that. And taking it to court is apparently not going to work. Any prayers are seriously appreciated at this time! thank you!
Praying in the mighty name of Jesus that God give his angels charge over you and your daughter to lift you both up and keep you both safe! Psalms 91:11, Luke 4:10

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Praying, dear heart, for your protection and your daughter's and that God grants you wisdom, discernment and clarity, and the unction to contact those agencies that can intervene in this very dangerous and dire situation, and that He gives you the unction to call this hotline number (if you are in the US) 1-800-799-7233. (((hug)))
 
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Father I pray blessings on this request, deliverance from oppression, and salvation for the entire family in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.
 
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Heavenly Father, I pray that You will intervene and stop the emotional abuse by the ex's hand. I pray that he will be able to work in peace with the mother of his child, for the child's best interest and not involve the child in adult dispute. I pray that You will give the mother and the child a cover of protection that no harm may come to them. May You send Your angels to stand guard around them. I ask that You will send resources to help her, so she will be believed, and they will both be protected, I pray in Jesus Name, that this issue will be resolved and peace will follow, Amen
 
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Hi, so I guess I am in quite a predicament and I don't have any idea how I should handle it in the best Christian way possible...

I have one beautiful daughter who is 18 months old. I adore her so much and am so beyond thankful to God for her. Her father and I were married for a year then divorced because he was abusive toward me physically and very emotionally controlling. He even went so far to say "what if I were to kill our daughter?" After that I separated from him and took my daughter with me. A few months went by and he said that he was getting help from a Christian therapist and was doing better. I agreed to then let him started spending time with our daughter as long as he was at his parents house where he wouldn't be alone with her. A few months went by and we seemed to be doing okay so then as we were approaching the court date for our divorce I made a HUGE mistake of filing for joint custody. After the divorce the time during our exchanges of our daughter started to become really nasty real fast. He started to question where I was living because I left my parents house. Wanting to know an address and desperately asking me to let him see the place where our daughter is living. And normally I understand the concern of our child's well being but he is so controlling and on such a power trip that I do not believe his concern is for our daughter... but his own need to constantly control me. Things became worse and worse and the abuse just continued during the exchanges (happening right in front of our daughter). The only issue is he knew the fine line of where he could get away with harassing me without physically harming me or making any direct threats). It led to us having to go through exchanges at the police station then to me getting a restraining order against him for two months. The restraining order was just lifted a week ago. In the two months that he was not allowed to contact me, I was hoping he would have taken the hint to leave me alone and stop harassing me. Then of course he started to harass me again right outside the courtroom! And just today he stood right outside my car waiting for me to give him my address of where I was living! I am so sick and tired of being controlled and having to meet at the police station to exchange our daughter. I literally am disgusted by this person by the abuse that I have experienced from him. And because I have done a terrible job documenting the patterns of abuse and calling the police when needed and the fact that we have joint custody... no one, not the police, my attourney, or the judge is taking me seriously! This is causing me so much fear and sickness I feel like I am still stuck in this abusive controlling relationship. He is my daughter's father so I just want to be able to get along...but the only way for that to happen is to give him the control he desires and I'm not willing to do that. And taking it to court is apparently not going to work. Any prayers are seriously appreciated at this time! thank you!

Praying dear sister in our Lord Jesus Christ.

A personal story from a single mom named Diane Dew.

http://www.dianedew.com/homeless.htm
 
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I am sorry you and daughter are experiencing this. Legally, this would be a no brainier as to whom is correct here and should be taken seriously regardless of the last of actions taken against him before.

Please keep us posted and keep you and your daughter safe. I will be keeping you in prayer.

~Blessings~
 
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Hi, so I guess I am in quite a predicament and I don't have any idea how I should handle it in the best Christian way possible...

I have one beautiful daughter who is 18 months old. I adore her so much and am so beyond thankful to God for her. Her father and I were married for a year then divorced because he was abusive toward me physically and very emotionally controlling. He even went so far to say "what if I were to kill our daughter?" After that I separated from him and took my daughter with me. A few months went by and he said that he was getting help from a Christian therapist and was doing better. I agreed to then let him started spending time with our daughter as long as he was at his parents house where he wouldn't be alone with her. A few months went by and we seemed to be doing okay so then as we were approaching the court date for our divorce I made a HUGE mistake of filing for joint custody. After the divorce the time during our exchanges of our daughter started to become really nasty real fast. He started to question where I was living because I left my parents house. Wanting to know an address and desperately asking me to let him see the place where our daughter is living. And normally I understand the concern of our child's well being but he is so controlling and on such a power trip that I do not believe his concern is for our daughter... but his own need to constantly control me. Things became worse and worse and the abuse just continued during the exchanges (happening right in front of our daughter). The only issue is he knew the fine line of where he could get away with harassing me without physically harming me or making any direct threats). It led to us having to go through exchanges at the police station then to me getting a restraining order against him for two months. The restraining order was just lifted a week ago. In the two months that he was not allowed to contact me, I was hoping he would have taken the hint to leave me alone and stop harassing me. Then of course he started to harass me again right outside the courtroom! And just today he stood right outside my car waiting for me to give him my address of where I was living! I am so sick and tired of being controlled and having to meet at the police station to exchange our daughter. I literally am disgusted by this person by the abuse that I have experienced from him. And because I have done a terrible job documenting the patterns of abuse and calling the police when needed and the fact that we have joint custody... no one, not the police, my attourney, or the judge is taking me seriously! This is causing me so much fear and sickness I feel like I am still stuck in this abusive controlling relationship. He is my daughter's father so I just want to be able to get along...but the only way for that to happen is to give him the control he desires and I'm not willing to do that. And taking it to court is apparently not going to work. Any prayers are seriously appreciated at this time! thank you!

Heavenly Father, may You work this out to the best way possbile for mother and child and help the father to be reasonable and caring and put his child first before pride and control, In Jesus Name, Amen
 
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