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hope4today

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I am recently single after 20 years of marriage. My husband left me 6 months ago for a young (and I mean young) girl in the office or depending on my mood. It has been a difficult journey and sometimes it is excruciatingly painful but God has been very faithful to me and I am healing quickly by his grace.

I relate to what you said about the good and bad. It can be a real advantage not to have to answer to anyone else. Although I have full care of our 3 children I have much more individual freedom. AND I have only to make one side of the bed

But the loneliness can be overwhelming at times and although I have many friends they can't be as a husband. I am learning to live as a single though and I trust God's good plans for us in the midst of the pain and the changes.

Well, that's my 'single' story,

Bless you heaps
Hope
 
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Yes am single, divorced 1999.... is by choice am still single. Present time in life, need be single and free.... If God choices to send me someone special to love and marry again, will but until that time will enjoy being single....
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I hear ya...God will have to plop him down in my life and maybe hit me on the head before I'd notice him
 
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Mine left me and my 2 young daughters for someone younger too. Do you have problems trusting? I sure do.

And the making one side of the bed and no cleaning up after them oh the list goes on and on...
 
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Divorced for about 17 yrs, and I hate being single now. Wanted to get my kids raised without anyone else. Now they're raised, and I really don't like being single any longer, but sorta feels hopeless at this point. Still, the LORD is everything and my relationship with Him is wonderful, makes it bearable. I'm just not finding any available men that are what i'm lookin for. Was married for 17 yrs, he left me for someone he worked with, but that long ago and far away, lol. God bless.
in Him, Leslie
 
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I've been widowed 8 years now after a 30 year marriage. The longer I'm single,the more I love it. I've become very independent,and love and appreciate the freedom that comes with singleness. Women told me that I didn't know how good I had it,when I had started dating for awhile and wanted to get re-married,but I see their point now,and now have no interest in even dating. Gave up on that idea after some major disappointments,disallusions in men today. I put it in God's hands,and I refuse to have any part of it,LOL!
 
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The lonliness for an adult conversation is one of the things I miss. My daughters are still home but...well, even though they are adults (21 & 18) it's not the same. God has us in His big 'ol hand and comforts us. He knows what's best (but boy I get impatient )
 
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The independence is a plus. I can do what I want, when I want and go where I want. I'm so sorry for your loss My Mother has been widowed for 13 years now and even though she is in her late 70's, she lives a very full life. God has been with her all along the way.
 
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MMXII said:
Mine left me and my 2 young daughters for someone younger too. Do you have problems trusting? I sure do.

And the making one side of the bed and no cleaning up after them oh the list goes on and on...
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Hi there,

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. I have had a particularly difficult few weeks and have had nothing in me to even formulate a response. Thankfully I am now back I am still going through the process of the separation and sometimes it is more difficult than others.

In answer to your question I don't think I will have too much difficulty trusting again because of the way God has spoken to me and I can see where I did not follow his leading and it got me into trouble. Having said that, who knows how I will feel if the times comes.
I only want a relationship that I know is ordained by God and I don't want to go looking. If God has another man for me I'm sure he can direct our paths without me trying to figure it out.

Have you had any other new relationships you have had to work out? Any helpful advice? (keeping in mind I am not anywhere near getting involved again just yet but I'm sure the time will come )

Hope
 
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Have you had any other new relationships you have had to work out? Any helpful advice? (keeping in mind I am not anywhere near getting involved again just yet but I'm sure the time will come )
Hope
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I'm in a relationship now to a very sweet man that knows God as his personal savior. The down side of it, he's 1500 miles from me We visit when we can, we talk countless hours each day on the phone and we both have webcams so we can "see" each other when we talk. I don't know where God is leading on this one, it's in His hands but I sure hope we have a future.

My advice, take it slow with anyone you meet. It's so easy to jump into something since you were hurt to ease the pain (been there). The one mistake I made was to get into a relationship soon after my divorce and I should have just waited until my daughters were grown. Live and learn.
 
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One thing about a long distance relationship is that it kind of forces you to build a friendship first. At least you don't have the 'sex' temptation

Your advice all seems very sound and comes from experience obviously. Waiting till the kids are grown is an interesting one. I have thought about that too. I certainly know I want to wait until I have had much time to heal and learn to be single before any new relationship but I have also pondered about the children and when would be right for them.
Part of me thinks wait till their grown, the other part wonders if the right man wouldn't be a good experience for them - to see a truly godly relationship and to receive from a godly man.
I guess the bottom line is that it is in God's hands and I just need to keep my heart open to his leading. That will be the big difference this time... last time I didn't really listen to God's voice. Next time I'll be sure to spend much time listening to God, going very slowly as you said and giving God every opportunity to speak to me.

Thanks for the encouragement.

Hope
 
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Never married here and no children.
I am a very quiet, shy and private person.
Little easier to share online.

I am fine with being single most of the time.
I am certainly use to it.

Then there are other times I wonder if there is someone for me.
I have been thinking about someone lately but who knows.

I really am comfortable as a single person.
 
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Tumbleweed64

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Single? yes, by choice... easier and less painful than having my heart stomped on once again... never been married... engaged a few times but I never "tied the knot" thank goodness sure I still crave having big strong arms around me sometimes, but those times I turn to Jesus and He comforts me
 
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