should I?

[neffster]

I have been struggling with alcoholism for a few years now and made some promises about stopping. I did for a about 8 months but now am back to drinking almost daily. Do I admit this to them, or just let them continue to think that things are the same and I no longer drink?

 

[alexeeah]

being truthful is the most important thing. Besides the fact that a bannana away from the bunch is easily peeled. I suggest being honest unless you think that this is an issue that they might not be able to handle and may leave you over............I know from experience that when my husband would drink behind my back it would make me madder then when he would just tell me what he was doing . I didnt know how to pray for him when he wasn't truthful..........JMHO

 

[neffster]

thanks for the reply I guess I am just afraid that they may be disappointed if I admit it. But you are right, honesty would probably be the best policy in this case

 

[alexeeah]

I will pray that God will give you the strength and the courage to do just that. Remember the truth will make you free. !!

 

[TLC4God]

You need to give it up to God and he will hlep you come on read your bible every day and seek God. beacuse you have friends that love you and will be here for you.

 

[Im_A]

I have been struggling with alcoholism for a few years now and made some promises about stopping. I did for a about 8 months but now am back to drinking almost daily. Do I admit this to them, or just let them continue to think that things are the same and I no longer drink?

my prayers are with you hon.

i'm in the same boat. i'll explain my situation.

i started drinking when i was 18, due to a long distant relationship breaking up. my dad has had issues with drinking, grandpa died from alcoholism and diabetes, uncles who drink pretty heavily, and nevertheless, it came to me. well around a month ago, i got a DUI. to get out of jail time, i took the weekend long class. and since then i haven't been the same. i have to go for further assessment, which either means i'm phase 3 of drinking, or phase 4 which is alcoholism.

the way i am dealing with it right now, is day by day. i am not making promises to God or anyone that i'll never take a drink again. i am not going to make promises for days that i am not promised of. but, i am trying to run my best to God day by day for help with this. alcoholism is a disease, which means we'll have to deal with it all of our lives. i advise to take it day by day. dont' set yourself up for destruction, and when you fail, run to God to help you learn from the situation and to change your ways. we aren't perfect and never will be, but we are not to let that make exscuses for us to sin and make mistakes.

you are in my prayers. if you want to talk more, please send me a private message, email, or add me to any of the imm messengers you use.

as for going back to the people you said that you wouldn't drink again. honestly, i wouldn't worry about it, unless they ask you about it. if they ask you, then tell them truth, but if you feel you should, then do it, but i don't see the reason to just go up and offer information, unless you feel you have to do it for yourself. but that's my opinion. i'm not saying hide it, but you fell in the statement you gave to them, trust me, i have a few people i shoudl probably clear things up with on my drinking, but until the time comes right, i am leaveing it alone, because i got more important things to think and worry about then that.

May God Bless you!

 

[visionary]

thanks for the reply I guess I am just afraid that they may be disappointed if I admit it. But you are right, honesty would probably be the best policy in this case

Your plate is overflowing with troubles, alcohol being just one of them. Honesty is good for those around you and for yourself. Everyone can go from there. Denial stops growth and change, because it block development. You have to deal with your denials, to yourself and to those around you. Do not live a lie. Be Honest. It will make things easier in the long run.

 

[madison1101]

I am in recovery in AA. I also work in a treatment facility with severely mentally ill people with addictions. We have a saying, "you are as sick as your secrets." Getting things out in the open is the best thing for your recovery and your mental health. There may be consequences, but it beats living in shame and drinking over it.

What are you doing to try to stop drinking? Maybe you need to do more.

 

[Angeldove97]

The truth shall set you free... admit it to them and let them help you through it!

 

[MadeYouLook]

no doubt. tell them.

 

[braka]

Hi, if you really want to stop drinking give Alcoholics Anonymous a try. I attend meetings 3-4 times weekly and have made many friends who also are staying sober.. it works if you make an effort to work the program.

Lots of work.. comming up on 2 years of sobriety. GL, take it one day at a time.

 

[PassionateChemistry]

I have been struggling with alcoholism for a few years now and made some promises about stopping. I did for a about 8 months but now am back to drinking almost daily. Do I admit this to them, or just let them continue to think that things are the same and I no longer drink?

i believe that its best to tell the truth; they may be in a position to help you; if not, maybe keep it quiet; just tell people who can help you, but at least tell someone