Hi everyone
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 3 months ago, we were together for 2 years. He is 44 years old and has had about 15 long term girlfriends over the years and multiple other "flings".
I think he has Aspergers (a form or high functioning autism), we were seeing a couple therapist who wanted him to go for an Aspergers assessment, but he refused which is why we broke up (we argued a lot because our brains work differently & I was hoping an assessment would help us understand how we think differently and improve our communication) He is a lovely guy but he doesn't understand emotions terribly well & he is critical & gets annoyed easily & then he ends up saying hurtful things to his girlfriends.
He has recently been sending me very confusing mixed messages, he says he wants to marry me, but he needs to date other girls to make sure that I am the right one (I know it sounds crazy, but his brain is wired differently & to him it makes perfect sense!)
Anyway, he has now started going out with a new girl, I don't know her, but she seems like a beautiful daughter of God. Only 2 nights after he had been on a date with her & after telling me that he has started a relationship with her, he tried to kiss me!
What do I do? Should I warn this girl that he is very complicated & that she will most likely end up getting hurt? (When he first met her, he was not very keen on her, he only started going out with her because he had no other option!). Should I tell her that he has Aspergers? Should I tell her that he tried to kiss me even though he has started a relationship with her?
We are no longer in contact. I have been in contact up until now to try to stop him from starting another relationship. He has this pattern of failed relationships & he has left a trail of broken hearts behind him & it's not good for him or for the new girl
Surely he has to be stopped? Surely it is not fair that he treats God's daughters like this?! He is also a Christian and he ought to know better! He is very charming and intense at first & you fall head over heals in love with him because he is so attentive, but then when he has you hooked, he becomes critical & gets annoyed. A characteristic of Aspegers people is that they can't see the consequences of their actions, so he does not understand that he should not be "using" girls like this! He does not understand that he will most likely also hurt her too! Surely she deserves to know all of this?
But then I will look like the psycho ex?
It's so terrible! It's like I'm watching a car crashing into a solid brick wall at high speed & I can't do anything about it!
Please let me know your thoughts!
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 3 months ago, we were together for 2 years. He is 44 years old and has had about 15 long term girlfriends over the years and multiple other "flings".
I think he has Aspergers (a form or high functioning autism), we were seeing a couple therapist who wanted him to go for an Aspergers assessment, but he refused which is why we broke up (we argued a lot because our brains work differently & I was hoping an assessment would help us understand how we think differently and improve our communication) He is a lovely guy but he doesn't understand emotions terribly well & he is critical & gets annoyed easily & then he ends up saying hurtful things to his girlfriends.
He has recently been sending me very confusing mixed messages, he says he wants to marry me, but he needs to date other girls to make sure that I am the right one (I know it sounds crazy, but his brain is wired differently & to him it makes perfect sense!)
Anyway, he has now started going out with a new girl, I don't know her, but she seems like a beautiful daughter of God. Only 2 nights after he had been on a date with her & after telling me that he has started a relationship with her, he tried to kiss me!
What do I do? Should I warn this girl that he is very complicated & that she will most likely end up getting hurt? (When he first met her, he was not very keen on her, he only started going out with her because he had no other option!). Should I tell her that he has Aspergers? Should I tell her that he tried to kiss me even though he has started a relationship with her?
We are no longer in contact. I have been in contact up until now to try to stop him from starting another relationship. He has this pattern of failed relationships & he has left a trail of broken hearts behind him & it's not good for him or for the new girl
Surely he has to be stopped? Surely it is not fair that he treats God's daughters like this?! He is also a Christian and he ought to know better! He is very charming and intense at first & you fall head over heals in love with him because he is so attentive, but then when he has you hooked, he becomes critical & gets annoyed. A characteristic of Aspegers people is that they can't see the consequences of their actions, so he does not understand that he should not be "using" girls like this! He does not understand that he will most likely also hurt her too! Surely she deserves to know all of this?
But then I will look like the psycho ex?
It's so terrible! It's like I'm watching a car crashing into a solid brick wall at high speed & I can't do anything about it!
Please let me know your thoughts!