- Aug 8, 2018
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My parents paid for me to go to grad school, and it cost well over $100,000. But after 6 months of working, I've decided I need to change my career due to chronic illness (depression), for the sake of my health and well-being. When I tell them, they will be very angry that I'm changing careers, because it will mean they worked and earned that money for my schooling for nothing. I don't know if they will forgive me.
Should I offer to pay them back for my schooling? I can't know how good my salary will be in the new job, and even if it is a good salary, it will take years to earn enough to pay them back. And while I like the idea of paying them back and making things right, it might be hard on my depression to take on such a large debt for so long. The other consideration is, what if several years in the future, I end up getting married and having kids. If so, shouldn't I be saving for them, so they can grow up in a house and go to college?
But don't I owe my parents? It was their money that put me through college. And what if they demand that I pay them back? On the other hand, when they paid for my college, it wasn't a loan, there were no strings attached as far as I was aware.
What's the right thing to do?
Should I offer to pay them back for my schooling? I can't know how good my salary will be in the new job, and even if it is a good salary, it will take years to earn enough to pay them back. And while I like the idea of paying them back and making things right, it might be hard on my depression to take on such a large debt for so long. The other consideration is, what if several years in the future, I end up getting married and having kids. If so, shouldn't I be saving for them, so they can grow up in a house and go to college?
But don't I owe my parents? It was their money that put me through college. And what if they demand that I pay them back? On the other hand, when they paid for my college, it wasn't a loan, there were no strings attached as far as I was aware.
What's the right thing to do?