Trigger Warning She was assulted

[Justasimplea]

this girl from my youth group told me she got inappropriately touched. Took me a while but I spoke up to her parents. They let it go since they were a couple. And she didn't tell them the truth. He is still around her and she still talks to him. I am left disgusted. Every time I see him I see what she described to me and I just want to hit him and yell at the top of my lungs. She tries to tell me that it's not what I think and that I need to forget it. But she told me everything in detail. He is 8 years older than her. He comes to my church and I cannot stand it. When he walks by I feel him look at me. He hates me for speaking up. She didn't even back me up and now everyone thinks i exaggerated. Then they found out about another girl that he did it too and it was around the same time he did it to the other girl. She decided to talk to my brother about it and now my brother has a crush on her. I can't see my brother he same now. He disgusts me. All men are the same. She is only 15. I don't know what to do. I want to disappear. I love the lord I love to serve and help people but I'm angry at it all.

 

[Bluerose31]

this girl from my youth group told me she got inappropriately touched. Took me a while but I spoke up to her parents. They let it go since they were a couple. And she didn't tell them the truth. He is still around her and she still talks to him. I am left disgusted. Every time I see him I see what she described to me and I just want to hit him and yell at the top of my lungs. She tries to tell me that it's not what I think and that I need to forget it. But she told me everything in detail. He is 8 years older than her. He comes to my church and I cannot stand it. When he walks by I feel him look at me. He hates me for speaking up. She didn't even back me up and now everyone thinks i exaggerated. Then they found out about another girl that he did it too and it was around the same time he did it to the other girl. She decided to talk to my brother about it and now my brother has a crush on her. I can't see my brother he same now. He disgusts me. All men are the same. She is only 15. I don't know what to do. I want to disappear. I love the lord I love to serve and help people but I'm angry at it all.

I am sorry this happened.I am praying for this.

 

[Johnnz]

Sadly lack of a suitable response is not uncommon.

Can you try some third party - pastor, police, school counselor?

John
NZ

 

[Motherofkittens]

Yes, this is what sexism in our society does, even victims of it can downplay or deny or even perpetuate it. But let me say this, not all males are the same, of course we are all similar because of culture but both genders can break free of it.

Even though the victim is seriously downplaying this I'd tell the police ( don't call 911, just go into the station or call a non emergency number) so that at least this horrible person is on their radar. It sounds like you are already there for her and I'd continue to do that and make sure she knows this is not normal nor is it okay to be sexually assaulted. I know the rage you're feeling and what helps me is to try to get society to change. If you're interested or have time I'd read about rape culture and you can start at wiki and here : http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culturor

 

[macek]

i am sorry for your friend. Continue to support her with love and prayers. Sadly the majority of assaults go unreported because the victim is afraid of repricussions. The mother of that girl should be the first to take action against her partner.

Will pray for you and your friend and the other girl aswell.