It is amazing how God puts things in your life that you will be given the opportunity to share with others. I have recently run into this VERY subject with a friend of mine. He sharply disagrees with the idea that sex is bad before marriage. Is it? I think it is Biblical to not have sex before marriage. Here is where I derive my beliefs:
1 Corinthians 7:
8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Paul tells us that it is better to marry than to burn with desire. What would make us burn with desire? I believe he is talking of the desire to be with a woman sexually. In the unit of marriage.
Another verse that helps me stand strong in my belief about this is:
1 Corinthians 6:
12"Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"--but I will not be mastered by anything. 13"Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"--but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."[2] 17But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Our body is not our own, and since marriage is a Holy union in God's eyes then it is okay to become one in flesh with your mate. After all...what is sexual immorality as talked about in these verses? It is uniting yourself with someone in unnatural or unholy ways.
I do not believe you have been unfair to your past boyfriends...after all what if you touched one of them by not "giving it up", and they decided to wait until they were married...what a special gift you will be able to give to your husband and they too will have to give to their wives. I think you are a noble and much needed woman in this sinful world.
Just my thoughts and scripture references on the subject
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