[serious] Did people treat you differently after you lost a lot weight?

[wynning826]

Just wondering what everyone's experience is within the church setting.

I am the tall fat girl with a good personalty but never the girlfriend. Men at my church usually go for the slim and faithful women of Christ. Which is understandable and I am happy for my peers. However, sometimes I do get jealous that I get passed over for someone who is more attractive.

After my breakup, I have been working out a lot more and lost around 20 lbs from 160lbs to 140. I still have around 20lbs to lose in order to get to my goal weight. But nothing really changed except people tell me that it looks like I lost weight.

So I'm curious, what is your experience after losing weight?
Did people treat you differently?
Were there more jealousy among your peers?

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I treated myself differently the most it seems. As far as self confidence and viewing myself differently. I felt a wave of positive energy.

 

[-Luca]

I wouldn't be surprised if you did.

I mean, you would look like a completely different person!

Your face would lean out, a more gaunt look. And you would most certainly handle yourself differently, with confidence like never before.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I did find myself walking around the streets with a huge amount of confidence, maybe overconfidence, like I just felt really powerful and really believed in myself. I mean I was skinny most of my life and never felt that, yet it seems having been skinny then fat then back to normal weight I just felt better about myself than I ever have. I guess it is like feeling like you are born again and have a second chance.

 

[wynning826]

The part about a lot more energy is very true I feel like I have the confidence to do a lot more and be myself without being judged.

Gotta keep working hard

 

[bhsmte]

The reality is, the first impression we get of people, is their physical appearance. This can have profound effects on how people initially view you and deal with you.

 

[brandon05w]

I can say without a doubt that people treated me different prior to my weight gain. Friends reached out more, was invited to hang out more and now all of that has changed.