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I have been suffering from depression for a while, though my doctor believes that I should deal with it! But in the last few months I have found myself hurting myself deliberatly to ease the pain. I don't cut myself but I do find ways to hurt myself. to get my mind off my situation.

The situation is that I married a man who has been with me for almost 11 years. Everyone assumed we would get married and so we did. I always had reservation about marrying him but because everyone was so happy about us marrying I married him. We recently moved away froour whole family and now live 5 hours away from any of my friends. Everyone sees us having a loving relationship and I feel I can't talk to anyone about it.Due to this I now find ways to hurt myself.

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I'm sorry, sweetie, it sounds as though you are really struggling.
It also sounds as though you need to see a different doctor, and a counselor to help you to sort out your relationship with your husband. Are you part of a church? Perhaps your pastor could recommend someone who can help you.

I struggle with self harm, and I find that distraction is the best way to cope.. it doesn't always work, but often does.
Praying for you sweetie, PM me if you need a listening ear. (You'll need 15 posts first)
 
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Praying for you. I also struggle with selfharm. Its a battle everyday but I also find distracting to help or just talking to someone. I suffer from depression alot but with meds and therapy it helped out alot. I would definately look for another doctor and therapist if you can. If you need someone to talk to you can pm or vm me anytime.
 
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Thank you for the support.. I have felt so lonely since we moved. I have tried to become more involved in the church. I have found that my self spiralling more. My husband is trying to be understanding but a few nights ago he got very frustrated and very angry. He admitted that he was close to turning violent towards me due to his frustrations. Because of this I now feel I can't speak to him fully any more about what I am going through.
 
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I'm feeling sad for you...

Life can be lonely at times and also very frustrating... We have to put our trust in the Lord, which isn't always easy...

I wrote it also in another thread, it is very important to stay eating healthy. (As bad eating habits can lead to and worsen depression (as is also my own experience as I myself are also prone to depression)) Also working out can relieve some of the tension of our lives... (And can also lead to new friends and contacts)

Keep on praying for your situation and stay patient, which is one of the hardest things to do in life, but it holds great rewards....

Again, I'm feeling sad for you,

God bless and stay strong...
 
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It is pretty normal to go through a grief period when you have so many changes going on and are far away from family and friends. Five hours away is not bad at all, though -- you could visit frequently, they can visit you, or you can meet in the middle somewhere. I live over 1000 miles away from my family and haven't seen them since last summer. We try to call each other every day and do video calls, too. I went through a period of grief for a few months after I moved. I missed my job, my church, my friends, my family, my home, my school, and my dog (who then died and my grief went through the roof). You will adjust eventually, though. If you need to talk to someone and feel you cannot talk to your husband, friends, or family, it would be good to get a counselor or talk to a pastor. A counselor would probably be good for addressing the self injurious behavior; they can suggest alternative coping mechanisms to try when you have the urge to self injure.
 
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