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Seeking Direction

Discussion in 'Requests for Christian Advice' started by bellantara, May 26, 2005.

  1. bellantara

    bellantara Senior Veteran

    I've been a Baptist all my life, but as I get older, I find that I don't get anything out of the service anymore. It feels just like going through the motions, or watching a theater performance. Don't get me wrong, I am still a Christian, I still believe that Christ died for me. But. . .I'm lost for a church home. I'm not sure what I want. Anyone got any advice for me?
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  2. janny108

    janny108 Well-Known Member

    Word of Faith
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    I have been in a few churches, and I think first of all, we should ask God if anything stands between Him and us. That is one reason if we no longer find church exciting. Because having sin can dull our senses. Trust me, I've been there. Or it everything is fine, you may need to ask God to help you search for another church home.

    I'll use my life as ex. here. I went to a southern baptist church 2 years here. No matter what I did, it did not feel like home. It certainly looked good from the outside. I had sin revealed to me from God and I dropped out of that church. I'd gone to another one and dealt with it, then to make a long story short, I'm going to Calvary chapel and another southern baptist church.
  3. mannysee

    mannysee Guest

    I was just thinking about your post. I wonder, if someone was to enter your home you would expect them to notice that YOU lived there by what they saw. You don't say whether you are involved in service towards others at church.
    Let's play a game of change the words:-
    "I don't get anything out of the service anymore"....
    "I do give something in service now"
  4. bellantara

    bellantara Senior Veteran

    OUCH. You both really hit home, and you're both right. I don't think the problem is the church, the problem is me. I "believe" Christianity, but don't really live it. MOst people probably wouldn't even mistake me for a Christian. Think I have a lot of work to do.
  5. Johnnz

    Johnnz Senior Veteran Supporter

    Listening to one man's talk each week can become very limiting. What he talks about may not be immediately relevant to the issues and/or questions you have right now.

    I have often met this. For me, the greatest challenges and stimulation for my Christian life have very often come from external sources - especially books, but sometimes a conference or article which can inform and provoke me to discover new areas of Christian insight and application.

    Sometimes, depending on how active our mind is, we need intellectual stimulation and knowledge to supply good information to questions and issues we have.

  6. allieisme

    allieisme I am ME

    Sounds like good advice...
    I was going to post too, but after reading this.. I would agree fully with what was already said.. Usually (In my opinion) when you don't feel as though you belong anymore...one of 2 things could happen..You could be getting ready to "grow" more with your faith, stronger feelings....OR the devil sees this a perfect time of weakness and is going to try and do everything in his power to make you feel not welcome, alone,ect....
    God bless you!
  7. Radagast

    Radagast comes and goes Supporter

    Perhaps you need another church...

    -- Radagast
  8. wayfaring man

    wayfaring man Veteran


    The emphasis given me is not " go to church " , but " be the Church " .

    This means , instead of looking to be fed by someone else . Store up God's Word within yourself , so that you may be able to feed others .

    Instead of looking to fit in with a group , look to comfort someone else who can't seem to fit in .

    Instead of worrying about my spiritual status , concerning myself with those who are in far greater jeopardy .

    And as one gives themself to minister to others , the grace that flows via the spirit of charity , beautifies our own life many times more than seeking to have our own needs be met ever could .

    Instead of thinking of church as a building , or a meeting , realizing it's The Body of Christ , which has members in all kinds of places all around the world , some of which are still in the dark , and yet to comprehend their true identity , and purpose .

    And for these reasons , groups , or denominations which project a sense of superiority , or exclusiveness , are in a disadvantaged spiritual state , for the focus then becomes inward , where it should be outward ; through treating the internalization of God's Word as though it were externally accomplished by observing ritualistic services .

    In looking for " a church home " look for humbleness , with plain speech , Bible based , New Testament emphasizing , which encourages one to -

    ...Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.
    For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
    <-----> Philippians 2:12+13

    Possibly , non-denominational , or inter-denominational ?

    May The Lord Be Pleased To Bless .

  9. heron

    heron Legend

    In Relationship
    "Be the Church" --YES!

    You can pray for people during the services. You can be the person who gives new insight to stagnant things. Offer to teach a class.

    When I'm feeling stagnant, it's usually because I'm not giving enough of my time and energy. That's me, I don't sit well during services so I like to be active during them.

    The other indicator is a real, critical deficit in members' prayer and one-on-one devotion to God, which you can't measure. Give yourself a vacation and visit another church. Do prayer walks around your existing church.

    If you've been to the same church all this time, boredom or confinement might be another reason. Your brain brings back memories of good and bad whenever you step in the building. People think of you one way, as whoever you were twenty years ago.

    One way of looking for a new church, is popping in when guest speakers and musicians come. Check out the bulletin board of your local Christian bookstore, the radio stations (some here), newspapers and web lists for your area.
  10. heron

    heron Legend

    In Relationship