- Jul 11, 2022
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Non-Denom
- Marital Status
- In Relationship
- Politics
- US-Libertarian
I've been with my boyfriend for about three months now. We're both in our early 20s and are sincerely on the same page about so many important values and goals. He is kind, considerate, and genuinely listens to me. Nevertheless, I wonder if I agreed to be in a relationship with him sooner than I should have. He's dealing with a lot of church hurt and does not have the strongest relationship with the Lord. I have seen him put forth an effort to be more deliberate in his walk and he has expressed that my being with him has brought him closer to God. He loves that I encourage him to go to church and to be more intentional in his pursuit of the Lord. This is all really great but he has come to an understanding that anything short of sexual intercourse should be okay for us to engage in while we are dating. I don't share these convictions and he cannot seem to comprehend why. I know he won't intentionally pressure me into anything that I am not comfortable engaging in but I don't want to open myself up to falling into sexual sin because, in all honesty, knowing that this is an expectation of his is pressure in itself. I haven't been the strongest with maintaining my boundaries but I am determined to do better moving forward. I feel like there's only so much talking we can do about the issue and I haven't reached the threshold of what I could potentially say, but I realize that it's not my responsibility to convince him of something he's not ready to receive. I love being with him and know that breaking up would mean cutting all ties. He says that he's never met someone he wants to be with as much as me but he has also expressed that he has no desire to be just friends. I've prayed about our relationship so much and really just want clarity on whether or not giving him grace and time to get on the same page is worth the effort.
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