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truelove1
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what the pastor is doing sounds to me like a police officer who is using his title, badge and uniform to manipulate and control weak people that are innocent.
I dont know what the pastor truly saw but regardless of what he saw, hey a lot of people appear in people's dreams. If every guy that appeared in my dream was meant for me. WOW....that would be a lot of 'husbands'
You are a child of God, you have a mind, body, soul and a brain. You WILL decide what you want and who you want in your life. Of course by seeking God along the way. HE will reveal the truth to you. You don't allow a man to manipulate and control you. As much as the pastor can see something from God concerning you. You can even see MORE from God concerning yourself.
I have been in a slightly similar situation before as well, but this person was not a pastor, just a regular congregation member that our pastor liked very much. This member showed interest in me and told the pastor rather than tell me. I was newly seeing someone else at the time by the way. The pastor told me he would like me to get to know this member. I didnt even know what the guy looked like. We never spoke, he only probably saw me around the church.
I told the pastor i was 'kind of getting to know' someone else at the moment, and he said "I will really prefer you to get to know this person" he meant the member of his church. WHAAAATTT??? My pastor hasn't even met the guy I was seeing before.
Moral of the story. Ultimately it was my decision.I don't like people influencing my decisions and life. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. Yes God does send people through people, and God's ways are vast and unfathomable, and I do not condemn anyone or any servant of God for trying to help or do what they believe God is asking of them.
But it has to be YOUR decision, not what the pastor says, not what anyone else says. You are the one who will live with your 'husband' for life and it should not be a decision that will be influenced by others. It has to be God's influence ALONE and you being sure that it is God who has signed and sealed it, and your heart is also in it as well. GOD is the only one who never makes mistakes. So seek Him with all your heart. If you have to fast for days, pray and really get into it, keep going. The Lord will answer you and you will have PEACE of mind.
He isn't my pastor. He's a pastor of outreach. I didn't know him and hadn't been around him until he approached me while I was getting ready to sleep on the couch at church.
I'm not judging the church leaders but I'm afraid of what I think they will do if I don't do what they want in this situation.
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