Saying you're not interested

[scraparcs]

So, how do you kindly let it be known that you're not interested in someone?

PS: For all you guys that I was interested in before that had to let me down, I'm so very sorry.

 

[Riddik7]

You politely say sorry i'm not interested.... simple and polite....

 

[Blank123]

yup. like I said before. be honest but tactful. I've been on both sides of this kind of situation, and I know its not easy but you will both feel better once the truth is out and the two of you can move on with your lives.

 

[Obzocky]

You politely say sorry i'm not interested.... simple and polite....

yup. like I said before. be honest but tactful. I've been on both sides of this kind of situation, and I know its not easy but you will both feel better once the truth is out and the two of you can move on with your lives.

There is no other way really.
Nice and clear, to the point, no excuses, just the simple truth.

Providing they take that answer well anyhoot, doesn't always work that easily.

 

[scraparcs]

Normally I'd suck it up and do that, but it's in the one place where that just isn't so easy. I'm sure you can gather what I mean.

 

[AuburnMeg]

I agree with the others that being straight-forward is the way to go. When I'm not interested in someone that's into me though, I tend to be so incredibly awkward (unintended, mind you) that the infatuation dies out on its own.

 

[Dionysiou]

just say "your a good friend". That should sort out any misconceptions.

 

[lost-sheep]

just say "your a good friend". That should sort out any misconceptions.

I have tried that one... didnt work as well as I wished... the first, second, or third time.
Almost think it had opposite effect.

 

[Dionysiou]

I have tried that one... didnt work as well as I wished... the first, second, or third time.
Almost think it had opposite effect.

some people just dont want to hear it lol

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Honesty.

 

[Obzocky]

Normally I'd suck it up and do that, but it's in the one place where that just isn't so easy. I'm sure you can gather what I mean.

Oh dear. Unfortunately it's still the only way, even in a sticky brick wall deep blue sea situation.

 

[MehTeh]

Feel free to remain friends, but when telling them no don't remind them of that friendship. Just be firm, clear and kind.
"I'm sorry but I'm not interested."

 

[Inkachu]

I answered this in the "Crush" thread, Scrappy

 

[RobertMerton]

i tell them

'sorry i'm spoken for'

 

[Rhye]

Feel free to remain friends, but when telling them no don't remind them of that friendship. Just be firm, clear and kind.
"I'm sorry but I'm not interested."

Sometimes, its that easy and sometimes its not. I would still say do as the other has pointed out, cause I like their replays. Also, don't say "lets be friend." I personally do not like that, and would not want to say it. Last time, the "I'm sorry but I would like us to not continue with this anymore" was not enough, so he had to meet in order to know "why?" What did he do wrong. So, I explained the situation and he understood. I don't know yours but I think maybe if he does say, "why" give a good and honest reason.

i tell them

'sorry i'm spoken for'

I don't know why but this kind of made me giggle a little.

 

[RobertMerton]

I don't know why but this kind of made me giggle a little.

see the beauty of it is that it's not hurtful.

'i'm spoken for'

so basically means I'm .. spoken for, meaning i have a previous engagement.
(Not as in a marriage or anything, just a previous , existing relationship)

use it, it's great.
it's better than the 'its not you its me' thing, as you don't even confer any reference to the other party.

 

[Rhye]

I used to say those things when I was in High School! LOL.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

honesty is the best policy

 

[yam]

I have tried that one... didnt work as well as I wished... the first, second, or third time.
Almost think it had opposite effect.

Exacly,It does'nt work . which is why I usually tell them that am in a relationship.

 

[Blank123]

The problem with that is if you're not really in a relationship, you're lying. So you fall back on sin to get out of an uncomfortable position. And really, I'll be perfectly honest, its kind of an immature response. It just smacks of looking for the easy way out and looking for a way to make yourself feel better (if the other person found out you were lying, how would that make them feel?) Being honest may not feel better or easier, but it speaks more highly of your integrity if you can just be honest with that person and tell them you're not interested in a relationship with them.

If they can't take direct honesty... thats a reflection on them. but you're not doing them any favours by hiding the truth from them.