Same-Sex Attracted Children and the Holidays: What’s a Parent to Do?

[Michie]

DIFFICULT MORAL QUESTIONS: Setting proper boundaries will support a child without supporting their lifestyle.


Q. How should we respond to our daughter who wants to bring her girlfriend for Christmas to our home? She knows we love her and that we do not condemn her for being lesbian, but we do not approve of her sexual activities. — Name withheld

A. Addressing the problem of homosexual acts, St. Thomas Aquinas writes in Summa Contra Gentiles:

We have said that God exercises care over every person on the basis of what is good for him. Now, it is good for each person to attain his end, whereas it is bad for him to swerve away from his proper end. Now, this should be considered applicable to the parts, just as to the whole being; for instance, each and every one of his acts, should attain the proper end.
The proper end of sexual acts is the realization of the good of marriage, a relationship defined by bodily communion and procreativity. All complete sexual acts, therefore, should themselves constitute the couple as a one-flesh unity and should remain open to procreation (even if they are not factually fertile).

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Same-Sex Attracted Children and the Holidays: What’s a Parent to Do?

 

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Lord have mercy

 

[nhisname]

DIFFICULT MORAL QUESTIONS: Setting proper boundaries will support a child without supporting their lifestyle.


Q. How should we respond to our daughter who wants to bring her girlfriend for Christmas to our home? She knows we love her and that we do not condemn her for being lesbian, but we do not approve of her sexual activities. — Name withheld

A. Addressing the problem of homosexual acts, St. Thomas Aquinas writes in Summa Contra Gentiles:

We have said that God exercises care over every person on the basis of what is good for him. Now, it is good for each person to attain his end, whereas it is bad for him to swerve away from his proper end. Now, this should be considered applicable to the parts, just as to the whole being; for instance, each and every one of his acts, should attain the proper end.
The proper end of sexual acts is the realization of the good of marriage, a relationship defined by bodily communion and procreativity. All complete sexual acts, therefore, should themselves constitute the couple as a one-flesh unity and should remain open to procreation (even if they are not factually fertile).

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Same-Sex Attracted Children and the Holidays: What’s a Parent to Do?

Why should parents even have to set boundaries then apologize for it? We are to raise our children up in the admission of the Lord and how does that change after they are grown? The Lord said he came not to bring peace but a sword that cuts through bone and marrow that will bring division to families. It's a sad fact that children are being rebellious against what they have taught.