- Feb 5, 2015
- 73
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Non-Denom
- Marital Status
- Divorced
It is 1143. I went to bed early after a long day, slept and just woke up. I am puzzled with this same recurring dreams in my life. I dreamed of the same girl I had such big crush on in the college ministry days, that it was 40 years ago ? It is reflective moment like this after such dream that is most depressing. With a failed marriage after 28 years and several bad relationships after that, I am cynical with each year went by, I wonder if I ever will find the love I so craved all my life. I really wonder loud why God make it so hard for singles to meet some one who they can support each other spiritually. May be just me, as a man, I have to admit my short coming, I need spiritual as well as physical fulfilment. Put it very crudely, what a man needs is love, respect and intimacy. I would add good food to the formula.
I met many Christians who seems (or at least express their view) that Jesus is all they need, and they are so satisfied with Jesus's love they do not need anything else.
What is your experience in this ? is this true ? In as much as I think I want Jesus, I still have this deep longing for female relationship. A void and emptiness that can not be filled by Jesus alone. There is a lot of metaphor about "a marrying to Jesus", a bride etc., It just does not work for me.
The consequence of living as single, for me at least, is never ending struggle (and losing battles) of overcoming purity sins. May be I am overly naïve to think that if God miraculously give me a girlfriend, I would be able overcome my purity sins but I never get a chance to know. Why is God withholding such blessing for me (or some of us)?
The other evil twin of impurity is gluttony. For me it work hand in hand, when I am lonely, I eat compulsively. Food substitute intimacy.
Some advises I received in the past is the pray more, use God's word like Jesus did in the desert or claim his promises in overcoming temptation (and there are many very beautiful verses like 1 Corinthians 10:13), buddy system to hold each other responsible. I honestly tried, only work for a time. When the beast strike, it struck double down with vengeance and the fall is all the more painful. When I sin, I repent and try to do better. It is the same sick cycle repeating over again. The beast is always there waiting to pounce. How can you slay this lust/gluttony beast once and for all ? I do not fight anymore.
I met many Christians who seems (or at least express their view) that Jesus is all they need, and they are so satisfied with Jesus's love they do not need anything else.
What is your experience in this ? is this true ? In as much as I think I want Jesus, I still have this deep longing for female relationship. A void and emptiness that can not be filled by Jesus alone. There is a lot of metaphor about "a marrying to Jesus", a bride etc., It just does not work for me.
The consequence of living as single, for me at least, is never ending struggle (and losing battles) of overcoming purity sins. May be I am overly naïve to think that if God miraculously give me a girlfriend, I would be able overcome my purity sins but I never get a chance to know. Why is God withholding such blessing for me (or some of us)?
The other evil twin of impurity is gluttony. For me it work hand in hand, when I am lonely, I eat compulsively. Food substitute intimacy.
Some advises I received in the past is the pray more, use God's word like Jesus did in the desert or claim his promises in overcoming temptation (and there are many very beautiful verses like 1 Corinthians 10:13), buddy system to hold each other responsible. I honestly tried, only work for a time. When the beast strike, it struck double down with vengeance and the fall is all the more painful. When I sin, I repent and try to do better. It is the same sick cycle repeating over again. The beast is always there waiting to pounce. How can you slay this lust/gluttony beast once and for all ? I do not fight anymore.