Hello Yitzchak,
I am going to reply to this, your post, in
sections...
as yours is l.o.n.g.; &
coupled with my response would make it way too long.
I took the time to respond, as it's a subject
with which I've had decades of experience, &
thus I am passionate
about it, but in a
good way.
I hope you read thoughtfully... as it is deep & meaty, if you follow what that means.
Originally Posted by
Yitzchak
My sister-in-law was abused. Her husband beat her
in the head with a baseball bat and she almost died.,
She had surgery and has permanent damage.
In some ways the mind games were even worse. He used
to take a gun and put it to her head and pull the trigger. It was not loaded. But she did not know that.
He would taunt her with it until she peed her pants. There were no marks or bruises physically
from those kind of mind games, but I consider that extreme abuse.
It messed her up.
I am sorry to read of another terrible nightmare,
no one should ever encounter, or suffer through.
And some of us have been thru worse,
in ways I hope you will never know.
She was abusive, before she was abused.
But now she is twice or three times as bad.
She went through something really hard.
Yes, but she was
NOT born abusive; so someone,
somewhere messed her up, before! she married him.
and
it's critically important: the
CYCLE-of-abuse
STOP, in:
1. the home, in the family, by living God/Christ's counsels...
2. the churches, before it can stop in a greater community:
a) when a couple is planning a marriage, they should have any
remaining issues
healed... before the 'I DO' so
they can start their family Saved, with a genuinely Happy-mind & a healthy-body.
a healthy Soul+Mind+Body in both parents should be a given.
Every child deserves the best...
<- this is how GOD intends us to behave...
b) when a couple is planning a BABY...
before the 'conception',
they should be learning
pain-FREE childbirth, & healthy Bonding,
such that their children, each of them, develop
Wanted & Nourished & Nurtured
while yet in the womb: to birth easily, quickly, & in complete peace & joy
(& spare us the
hogwash '
nope, that's not reality');
because for those who birth
-Right mom, dad, & bad are blissful
<- this is how GOD intends us to behave...
c) when a couple is planning (whatever), they should be able to function as a healthy Individual
aside functioning as a healthy
couple
<- this is how GOD intends us to behave...
How do I know these things? - I have provided these services, that's how.
I know the cycle-of-abuse CAN be broken, people DO heal, & live wonderful... lives.