I would be interested to hear what kind of house rules anyone here uses for young adults living at home. Especially in the area of dating.
Our eldest son who is 18, almost 19, has been dating a girl for two years. She is only just 16, so we have always been very concerned about the age gap! They spend some evenings at her family's home, and they spend some evenings here. They don't go out an awful lot, because my son is in college, and he is trying to save money.
When they are at our house, they can watch movies in his room, but his door is
always kept open. He has two younger brothers who are in and out of the bedrooms, and so are we, so they know that. We do not ever leave them alone in our home, although this has been a source of contention with our son. But oh well .. we are taking care of him, and of her, and making sure they don't rush into anything! That said, I know that her mom has allowed them to be alone in her friend's home, babysitting a child until 3am. *sigh* This is so far out of what I consider to be smart, but y'know, she's not my daughter, and I can't control what the mom allows her to do.
We have talked to our son a lot about the choices that he should make, and what is smart for him, and healthy, and what is God's will. He's questioning his faith a lot, and arguing about why he should obey God's will, but all we can do is keep up our part of vigiliance, and keep on praying!
There is no drinking alcohol, he is underage anyway. We ask him to guard his behavior, bad words, grown-up 'themes' etc. He's a good guy. I don't really have any complaints.