- Feb 29, 2020
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Hello!
So my roommate recently started dating someone. Both of them are Christians, and I am noticing things in their relationship that concern me. Before they were dating, she would often sleep at his house, and she told me they would kiss and sometimes sleep in the same bed. I’m pretty sure there is nothing more physically serious that went on between them, but I still feel that is pretty weird, considering they weren’t committed enough to even label their relationship as a dating one.
Now that they’ve started dating, which hasn’t been for over a month, her boyfriend will sometimes stay over at our house in the guest bedroom. But she will end up falling asleep and staying there as well. And sometimes when I come home I’ll knock on the door to our room, it’ll be locked, and then her boyfriend will answer- it’s obvious they were cuddling together and bed, and it just feels weird to me.
I don’t think that they’re having sex, but I still find this concerning. I’m worried it could lead there, and I care about both of them. My roommate and I are good friends, but I feel like I may be overstepping my bounds if I criticize her relationship, or that she may perceive it that way. However, I really don’t feel like sleeping in the same bed is going in the right direction. From my own struggles, I know that flirting with temptation can lead to sexual immorality. Are my concerns warranted? How can I talk to her in a way that will express my concern and love, and not come across as judegemental?
So my roommate recently started dating someone. Both of them are Christians, and I am noticing things in their relationship that concern me. Before they were dating, she would often sleep at his house, and she told me they would kiss and sometimes sleep in the same bed. I’m pretty sure there is nothing more physically serious that went on between them, but I still feel that is pretty weird, considering they weren’t committed enough to even label their relationship as a dating one.
Now that they’ve started dating, which hasn’t been for over a month, her boyfriend will sometimes stay over at our house in the guest bedroom. But she will end up falling asleep and staying there as well. And sometimes when I come home I’ll knock on the door to our room, it’ll be locked, and then her boyfriend will answer- it’s obvious they were cuddling together and bed, and it just feels weird to me.
I don’t think that they’re having sex, but I still find this concerning. I’m worried it could lead there, and I care about both of them. My roommate and I are good friends, but I feel like I may be overstepping my bounds if I criticize her relationship, or that she may perceive it that way. However, I really don’t feel like sleeping in the same bed is going in the right direction. From my own struggles, I know that flirting with temptation can lead to sexual immorality. Are my concerns warranted? How can I talk to her in a way that will express my concern and love, and not come across as judegemental?