Romance and Truth?

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

So, if you've been following my recent posts and threads, you would know three things about me.

Firstly, I wear "Masks" to protect myself from the world. Secondly, I have been looking for romance, and have no experience with dating. Thirdly, I think about Love as the Holy Bible teaches it.

And I just now put all three together in my mind.

Which brings me to the question.

Will I even be able to be real with my romantic interest? I'm terrified of the real me. He's always so serious and scary, how can anyone love a person like that? What am I supposed to do when I get my first girlfriend, and try to explain to her the reasons why I don't want to be the definitive real me, and always hide behind my Masks?

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO!?

 

[mukk_in]

Let the Holy Spirit guide and be prepared for some friction. We are a fallen people.

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

Let the Holy Spirit guide and be prepared for some friction. We are a fallen people.

Okay...

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

Let the Holy Spirit guide and be prepared for some friction. We are a fallen people.

I guess for situational advice i'd let the Holy Spirit guide me, was hoping for something more along the lines of "This is how you can do it..." but that helps, somewhat.

I also don't know how to shed my masks, and be real, but I guess part of that is I'm too afraid to be the real me.

 

[mukk_in]

I guess for situational advice i'd let the Holy Spirit guide me, was hoping for something more along the lines of "This is how you can do it..." but that helps, somewhat.

I also don't know how to shed my masks, and be real, but I guess part of that is I'm too afraid to be the real me.

I'd say that's where most people go wrong, taking advice from others when their situations are unique. My advice may not benefit you. As a general rule of thumb, " be yourself." You'll have some growing to do (revealing your true self, so on) and so will she. If you have to be someone different and right away to satisfy her, it may be difficult. Give each other some space and grow together. This is based on my experience. May not be useful for you.

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

I'd say that's where most people go wrong, taking advice from others when their situations are unique. My advice may not benefit you. As a general rule of thumb, " be yourself." You'll have some growing to do (revealing your true self, so on) and so will she. If you have to be someone different and right away to satisfy her, it may be difficult. Give each other some space and grow together. This is based on my experience. May not be useful for you.

Right. Wisdom begins with the fear of the Lord, but experience is also good in wise counsel. Truth be told I wanted to know what I should do, but i am better off just trusting God for that.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

So, if you've been following my recent posts and threads, you would know three things about me.

Firstly, I wear "Masks" to protect myself from the world. Secondly, I have been looking for romance, and have no experience with dating. Thirdly, I think about Love as the Holy Bible teaches it.

And I just now put all three together in my mind.

Which brings me to the question.

Will I even be able to be real with my romantic interest? I'm terrified of the real me. He's always so serious and scary, how can anyone love a person like that? What am I supposed to do when I get my first girlfriend, and try to explain to her the reasons why I don't want to be the definitive real me, and always hide behind my Masks?

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO!?

Everyone hides behind masks like fish in water. The problem with seeking out romance when you have a mask on is that if you take it off someday, they may be disappointed because they loved the mask personality.

In the same way, if you do not love yourself, it's hard to receive love from others.

Might want to deal with those issues first.

 

[Lost4words]

Be yourself. Relax. Try not to be negative about yourself.

Turn your negatives into positives.

You have God within you. Turn to God earnestly. Ask Him to replace your suffering with His grace.

God bless you

 

[joshua 1 9]

Will I even be able to be real with my romantic interest?

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

Be yourself. Relax. Try not to be negative about yourself.

Turn your negatives into positives.

You have God within you. Turn to God earnestly. Ask Him to replace your suffering with His grace.

God bless you

Thanks!

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

Everyone hides behind masks like fish in water. The problem with seeking out romance when you have a mask on is that if you take it off someday, they may be disappointed because they loved the mask personality.

In the same way, if you do not love yourself, it's hard to receive love from others.

Might want to deal with those issues first.

You are right.

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

This makes sense.

 

[eleos1954]

So, if you've been following my recent posts and threads, you would know three things about me.

Firstly, I wear "Masks" to protect myself from the world. Secondly, I have been looking for romance, and have no experience with dating. Thirdly, I think about Love as the Holy Bible teaches it.

And I just now put all three together in my mind.

Which brings me to the question.

Will I even be able to be real with my romantic interest? I'm terrified of the real me. He's always so serious and scary, how can anyone love a person like that? What am I supposed to do when I get my first girlfriend, and try to explain to her the reasons why I don't want to be the definitive real me, and always hide behind my Masks?

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO!?

Get rid of the masks and be in the Lord and you will be fine.

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

Get rid of the masks and be in the Lord and you will be fine.

If I could I would. I trust Jesus to let the real me shine through when needed, but I don't take of my masks unless it's life or death.

 

[eleos1954]

If I could I would. I trust Jesus to let the real me shine through when needed, but I don't take of my masks unless it's life or death.

well ... if you don't take the masks off then no one will ever know the real you and isn't that being deceptive? And if you are looking for a life partner they need to know the real you and you need to know the real them.

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

well ... if you don't take the masks off then no one will ever know the real you and isn't that being deceptive? And if you are looking for a life partner they need to know the real you and you need to know the real them.

Maybe.

 

[joshua 1 9]

If I could I would. I trust Jesus to let the real me shine through when needed, but I don't take of my masks unless it's life or death.

God writes the book of our life before we are even born. At conception we are given all of our gifts, talents and abilities. But not everyone wants to follow God's plan and purpose for them and their life. In some cultures it is common for women to marry older men because that greatly reduces the chance that they will drink, take drugs or chase after other women. If they get a younger husband there is a good chance that he can change for the worse and head in a direction they are not happy with.

We raised our son to get a good education and get a good job before he gets married. So far he is following that advise. I dropped out of college to get married thinking that I could still finish my education but I never really was able to do that. I was just to busy living my life to take care of my family so I did not have the resources to get my college degree.

 

[Coleton Bryce Ritmanich]

God writes the book of our life before we are even born. At conception we are given all of our gifts, talents and abilities. But not everyone wants to follow God's plan and purpose for them and their life. In some cultures it is common for women to marry older men because that greatly reduces the chance that they will drink, take drugs or chase after other women. If they get a younger husband there is a good chance that he can change for the worse and head in a direction they are not happy with.

We raised our son to get a good education and get a good job before he gets married. So far he is following that advise. I dropped out of college to get married thinking that I could still finish my education but I never really was able to do that. I was just to busy living my life to take care of my family so I did not have the resources to get my college degree.

Thanks. Somehow this makes perfect sense. Truth be told, the real reason i'm struggling right now, is because I'm not to sure how the real me would react to the world.

There's this one time the real me shined through, and was so serious. A stark contrast to my usual playful self.

At this point it's almost as if he is a completely different person.

 

[sarahJoseph]

Hi am sarahJosep

So, if you've been following my recent posts and threads, you would know three things about me.

Firstly, I wear "Masks" to protect myself from the world. Secondly, I have been looking for romance, and have no experience with dating. Thirdly, I think about Love as the Holy Bible teaches it.

And I just now put all three together in my mind.

Which brings me to the question.

Will I even be able to be real with my romantic interest? I'm terrified of the real me. He's always so serious and scary, how can anyone love a person like that? What am I supposed to do when I get my first girlfriend, and try to explain to her the reasons why I don't want to be the definitive real me, and always hide behind my Masks?

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO!?

 

[sarahJoseph]

So, if you've been following my recent posts and threads, you would know three things about me.

Firstly, I wear "Masks" to protect myself from the world. Secondly, I have been looking for romance, and have no experience with dating. Thirdly, I think about Love as the Holy Bible teaches it.

And I just now put all three together in my mind.

Which brings me to the question.

Will I even be able to be real with my romantic interest? I'm terrified of the real me. He's always so serious and scary, how can anyone love a person like that? What am I supposed to do when I get my first girlfriend, and try to explain to her the reasons why I don't want to be the definitive real me, and always hide behind my Masks?

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO!?