- Jul 14, 2017
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- Celibate
We are both 56 yo. Married 32 yrs now. She was my first love. First 28 yrs of our marriage was a lovely and story book romance ... until I was comatosed for 2 yrs. Medical negligence issue.
1. When I first woke up from my comatosed state, I saw a worried look in my wife's face. She was planning to intern me in a disabled hospice.
2. She was very active in gym (6-7 am) Mon-Fri. Lost 20 lbs from what I remembered (ie 2014) and new dress code. I complimented her on her looks.
3. She was having a very disturbing actions (for me) with her mobile now. In the evenings (Mon-Fri), she would be having very friendly (smiling and giggling) SMS with someone .... these chats took about 30 mins and sometimes starts at 11 pm. When I asked, "Who was that you were chatting with?", she will go to the bathroom to delete chats and phone logs then come out and say "My private matters."
4. She goes to work at 7.30 am and come home after midnight !? She is the VP of a large MNC not a junior staff ???? I told her "Your work is so stressful. Just resign. We don't need the money." She replied "No. I enjoy my work." She told me her late hours were to motivate/counsel her staff.
5. Then after 6 months therapy (walking and talking), I felt stronger and more mobile. I approached her to make love with her, she turned her body from me and said "Go to bed. You are sick." I felt I was delivered a blow to my mid section and my emotional state was affected ... but have now stabilized.
6.She also encouraged me to travel on my own to improve my condition ... I have been to Melbourne and Singapore to visit friends. I survived ! Now, I can drive around the neighborhood too.
7. She took the $500K settlement from hospital/doctor to me and banked into our joint account. She withdrew the money and placed under FD in her name.
8. She told her siblings I am a changed man after my medical issue but not her mobile friend ... who I believe they (she & friend) do meet occassionally.
Here is what I am facing daily?
1. She set a schedule for me. Mon-Tues she will have dinner with me. Wed-Fri she will have dinner with staff and then clubbing ... she will be back by midnight. Will not tell me which club she was at and will not answer my calls when I call her.
2. She is still very secretive with her mobile but chats not active at home now. Her mobile is in her hand even in the house .... to loo and shower room.
3. Because of her actions, I took her off my will and all my cash to my 2 children only. (Previously, she had 50% of my cash and the rest shared by my 2 children.) She got to know this becos lawyer sent confirmation to me and she opened my letter.
4. Now, she became the lovey-dovey wife again and occassionally initiate love making sessions with me. I know these are just her acts only ... as she will occassionally asked me whether I have included her in my will ? I replied "I will get to it soon."
Items 1 & 2 above are my main issues, is it wrong for husband to ask to see who the friendly party she was chatting with? I want to divorce her and live a suspicious-free life.
Can and should I do that?
1. When I first woke up from my comatosed state, I saw a worried look in my wife's face. She was planning to intern me in a disabled hospice.
2. She was very active in gym (6-7 am) Mon-Fri. Lost 20 lbs from what I remembered (ie 2014) and new dress code. I complimented her on her looks.
3. She was having a very disturbing actions (for me) with her mobile now. In the evenings (Mon-Fri), she would be having very friendly (smiling and giggling) SMS with someone .... these chats took about 30 mins and sometimes starts at 11 pm. When I asked, "Who was that you were chatting with?", she will go to the bathroom to delete chats and phone logs then come out and say "My private matters."
4. She goes to work at 7.30 am and come home after midnight !? She is the VP of a large MNC not a junior staff ???? I told her "Your work is so stressful. Just resign. We don't need the money." She replied "No. I enjoy my work." She told me her late hours were to motivate/counsel her staff.
5. Then after 6 months therapy (walking and talking), I felt stronger and more mobile. I approached her to make love with her, she turned her body from me and said "Go to bed. You are sick." I felt I was delivered a blow to my mid section and my emotional state was affected ... but have now stabilized.
6.She also encouraged me to travel on my own to improve my condition ... I have been to Melbourne and Singapore to visit friends. I survived ! Now, I can drive around the neighborhood too.
7. She took the $500K settlement from hospital/doctor to me and banked into our joint account. She withdrew the money and placed under FD in her name.
8. She told her siblings I am a changed man after my medical issue but not her mobile friend ... who I believe they (she & friend) do meet occassionally.
Here is what I am facing daily?
1. She set a schedule for me. Mon-Tues she will have dinner with me. Wed-Fri she will have dinner with staff and then clubbing ... she will be back by midnight. Will not tell me which club she was at and will not answer my calls when I call her.
2. She is still very secretive with her mobile but chats not active at home now. Her mobile is in her hand even in the house .... to loo and shower room.
3. Because of her actions, I took her off my will and all my cash to my 2 children only. (Previously, she had 50% of my cash and the rest shared by my 2 children.) She got to know this becos lawyer sent confirmation to me and she opened my letter.
4. Now, she became the lovey-dovey wife again and occassionally initiate love making sessions with me. I know these are just her acts only ... as she will occassionally asked me whether I have included her in my will ? I replied "I will get to it soon."
Items 1 & 2 above are my main issues, is it wrong for husband to ask to see who the friendly party she was chatting with? I want to divorce her and live a suspicious-free life.
Can and should I do that?