- Aug 27, 2017
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Hi brothers and sisters, I could use some advice in an area that I really struggle in.
When I am surrounded by others who are talking in foul or crude language, I really don't know how to respond. This mostly happens at work as almost all of my close friends are Christian. If the foul language is from a group of people, I tend to ignore the conversation. But the other day I got stuck in a conversation with one other woman and no one else was in the room. I don't know her very well but she does talk a lot and it's hard to get a word in with her. She began talking about how her boyfriend is not her type physically and she never thought she would be with him. But then she said how they had intercourse and how that changed things (don't want to go too much into detail of what she told me but it was definitely TMI) and now they've been together for 2 years. Then she said "I don't understand anyone who wants to wait until marriage. No way am I going to do that". In my heart I knew that she was talking about people like me who WILL be waiting until marriage. But in that moment where I was all alone, I just couldn't say "oh well I'm definitely planning to wait" and talk about my faith. The reason is that I am very avoidant of any conflict, arguments, testing of or questioning of my faith by others, and of awkward moments. So I tend to remain quiet. But I don't feel right about this. I know I need to be bold in my faith.
But how do I do this? I will certainly be praying for boldness and and courage in this area, but what would you have done? How would you have responded to this?
When I am surrounded by others who are talking in foul or crude language, I really don't know how to respond. This mostly happens at work as almost all of my close friends are Christian. If the foul language is from a group of people, I tend to ignore the conversation. But the other day I got stuck in a conversation with one other woman and no one else was in the room. I don't know her very well but she does talk a lot and it's hard to get a word in with her. She began talking about how her boyfriend is not her type physically and she never thought she would be with him. But then she said how they had intercourse and how that changed things (don't want to go too much into detail of what she told me but it was definitely TMI) and now they've been together for 2 years. Then she said "I don't understand anyone who wants to wait until marriage. No way am I going to do that". In my heart I knew that she was talking about people like me who WILL be waiting until marriage. But in that moment where I was all alone, I just couldn't say "oh well I'm definitely planning to wait" and talk about my faith. The reason is that I am very avoidant of any conflict, arguments, testing of or questioning of my faith by others, and of awkward moments. So I tend to remain quiet. But I don't feel right about this. I know I need to be bold in my faith.
But how do I do this? I will certainly be praying for boldness and and courage in this area, but what would you have done? How would you have responded to this?