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Featured Received a Wedding Invitation but...

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Zacki, Sep 3, 2019.

  1. Zacki

    Zacki Newbie

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    ..it's for two lesbians. I'm the uncle of one. I don't feel comfortable going & likely won't but to be sure I could use some feedback here. I don't judge her & mean no disrespect to her but I can't honor & celebrate what goes against my beliefs. She may be a little hurt but her mom/my sister will be very upset. The idea of going just gives me a bad feeling & it won't be the first time my sister & I disagreed over different values. Any reason I should go? Thx.
     
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  2. MasterYourLife

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    In my opinion, by going you would be supporting her sin. I wouldn't go either.
     
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  3. ajcarey

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    There are many reasons to go... but none of them would be right in God's eyes. You'd be supporting their evil deeds and made a partaker in their evil deeds by going.

    So much of this LGBT wickedness (and much other wickedness too) has snowballed because so many don't want to look like the bad guy (or girl) and don't want to have to deal with strife from those whom God's verdicts in the Bible define as ungodly. But it's the people who make those who are in agreement with God's judgments seem like bad guys that are the real bad guys. And it's the people that get upset over others agreeing with and standing up for biblical beliefs that are the true sowers of discord and strife. They are evil, and more than that they are bullies. And one major aspect of righteousness and trusting in God is not cowering to such people, not giving into their sinful demands, and resisting their pressure to "accept them and tolerate them" which by their definition means "don't tell me I'm evil, approve me for who I am (i.e. approve their sin), or else." They basically want others to fear them and serve them instead of God. We can't let that happen or we will surely be condemned with them.

    "They that forsake the law praise the wicked: but such as keep the law contend with them." (Proverbs 28:4)

    "The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe." (Proverbs 29:25)

    "18 Let the lying lips be put to silence; which speak grievous things proudly and contemptuously against the righteous. 19 Oh how great is thy goodness, which thou hast laid up for them that fear thee; which thou hast wrought for them that trust in thee before the sons of men! 20 Thou shalt hide them in the secret of thy presence from the pride of man: thou shalt keep them secretly in a pavilion from the strife of tongues." (Psalm 31:18-20)
     
  4. Sketcher

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    I wouldn't be comfortable there. I should also point out that I was highly uncomfortable at a family ceremony for my uncle and his first wife to renew their vows - she divorced her first husband, and married him. It was a small and short ceremony too, much shorter than most weddings, it was casual and at their house, tacked on to a family lunch like a birthday party would be. None of the extravagance of a wedding. Which means if I were to be at your event, I would be uncomfortable for longer.
     
  5. Job3315

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    I wouldn't go.
     
  6. quietpraiyze

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    You're absolutely correct in your stance. Being family it sounds like there will be opportunities (birthdays, barbeques, etc.) where you will feel comfortable. I say wait for those opportunities and in the mean time pray for everyone involved including yourself.
     
  7. Aussie Pete

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    It's not a wedding. Pretty simple, in my view.
     
  8. Heavenhome

    Heavenhome Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Agreed, it isn't a wedding no matter what those carrying it out may think.
    Stand up for your faith and dont go.
    This is the sort of persecution us Western- world Christians are going to be up against, and we were warned by Jesus that this would happen when we stand strong for our faith.
    It is hard when it is family that get upset, but the only approval we are to be seeking is that which comes from God.
    May God bless you and give you strength and peace.
     
  9. Llleopard

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    My sister in law is lesbian. We love her. We love her partner. We believe living an openly gay lifestyle is sinful for Christians. However they are not Christians, and therefore we have no need or right to demand they live by Christian rules. So we attended their wedding/hand fast- wiccan and Buddhist mash up. And as professional photographers we shot and gifted them their wedding photos. Sure it was uncomfortable at times, but they probably felt the same when they lent us their beautiful garden to have our religious wedding in. We all know we disapprove of each other's life choices, agree to disagree, and really appreciate when each other go out of their way to show love anyway. Your niece is probably aware of your disapproval, so I would say go, to show you love her no matter what, and she will almost certainly appreciate your effort.
     
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  10. Anthony2019

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    I remember going to a wedding years ago. It was a marriage between two people who followed a different faith to my own. I was able to put aside my own views and feelings, and to see the people involved as being more important than the ceremony. They know fully well that I am a Christian and have my own personal beliefs, but instead of being remembered as someone who acted judgementally, I will be remembered as someone who was there for them at an important time in their life. That is the hallmark of true friendship.

    Imagine if I was getting married and I had a lifelong friend who was an atheist who had a problem with attending a wedding in my church. Naturally, I would be very hurt that such a close friend could not spare merely one hour of their life to put aside their views and opinions, so that they could be there for me on my special day.

    I think the litmus test is how we ourselves would feel if another person treated us in the same way.
     
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  11. Albion

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    I respect you standing by your principles and I also appreciate that you would find the whole thing uncomfortable. However, IF you were to choose to go, just sit in your pew, and then say something nice but non-committal as regards your view of the whole idea...I do not think this in itself would constitute a compromising of your principles or even a de facto sign of approval for same-sex ceremonies.
     
  12. carp614

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    I really think Lllepeoard has hit the nail on the proverbial head. If she is not a Christian, you should absolutely attend to represent God's love for the non believers.

    If, on the other hand, your niece espouses Christian beliefs, things are different. I think scripture is clear that she should be confronted about her sinful lifestyle, not necessarily by you mind you (depends on your relationship I suppose), and lovingly encouraged to change her lifestyle. If she refuses and still claims Christianity, lovingly let her know that you cannot endorse her sinful choices by attending the ceremony.

    It's easy to say when it's someone else's niece...while I have very strong conservative notions on how I would handle this, I've caused so much hurt in this life...I find I have no further appetite for causing someone else pain. Maybe I would make a stand, maybe I would hug my niece. I honestly don't know.
     
  13. Zacki

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    Thanks for the replies everyone. Lots of good points. I've decided to not go.
     
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  14. PROPHECYKID

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    That is where you are wrong. Its sinful for anybody. There is not a different list of sins for christians and Non-Christians. Sin is Sin.
     
  15. PROPHECYKID

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    You made the right choice.
     
  16. Redwingfan9

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    You're under no obligation to celebrate other people's sins. You are wise not to go.
     
  17. Llleopard

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    True, I worded that badly. But I still think the same, that Christians do not have the need or right to judge non Christians and insist they live by the Bible.
     
  18. PROPHECYKID

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    Ok so the next time a non christian breaks into your house and steals your belongings I hope you will say he doesn't need to live by the bible and you have no right to judge whether what he did was wrong or right so no charges should be pressed.
     
  19. Redwingfan9

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    If this was the case how could any Christian serve on a jury?

    John 7:24 tells us to judge with righteous judgment, in other words we are to judge against the light of scripture.
     
  20. Hannah66

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    What is God telling you? Pray about it. The answer is already in His Word. Blessings. That can't be easy. Continue to pray for them. For me, I wouldn't attend the ceremony. I was invited to one for my husband's cousin. We never attended.
     
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