- Jul 6, 2017
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- Marital Status
- Married
Well, now things are getting worse. My wife is now pregnant with my own child, and I am very worried. I have tried harder and harder to be nice to Jennifer, but she clearly has no dew how to be respectful. My theory is that her previous marriage killed this capacity.
I know, I know, hormones and all that, but the scary thing is, the things she is saying, and the way she is acting and handling situations, is exactly the same as it was several months ago, long before she got pregnant.
She blames me for everything wrong in her life, and gets utterly irate if I try to take up for myself. Once again, it just makes sense that that comes from her previous hus, as I have never had friends or family members tell me that I defend myself too much, or that I never fess up to what I do wrong, but she thinks that I NEVER DO.
Once she gets mad at me, she will not let me try to be nice to her, or calm us both down, but instead grows bitter at me for being nice in that situation, or recent, previous ones. She says it is hypocritical of me. Plus, she will not let me get a whole sentence in when she is mad. She will not stop interrupting. Every single situation seems to be a competition in her mind. Again, I wonder if that was the case with a certain someone else, because it never had been with me and my relationships
Yesterday, we had, what I considered a “small” argument, especially for us, but afterwords, she left, turned off her phone, and didn’t return till it was time to brings her kids home from school.
Later that evening, she said she regretted marrying me. At one point, she called me on the phone, and asked me what I was doing. When I said nothing, she got furious, saying that I might not have a family there when I got back.
Clearly, she hates and resents me. Every time I express my feelings or hurts or concerns to her, she masks them with her own, instead of waiting for me to finish, acknowledging, and then explaining her own feelings. Or worse, she gets mad at me for even HAVING those feelings in the first place.
I have decided at this point, to completely ignore her in every possible way. If that makes her feel hurt, or angry, oh well. I am tired of all the arguing and fighting, which seems to be the only way she knows how to communicate with a husband.
I thought us having a baby would be a joyous thing, but she clearly isn’t emotionally or psychologically stable enough to have one.
I know, I know, hormones and all that, but the scary thing is, the things she is saying, and the way she is acting and handling situations, is exactly the same as it was several months ago, long before she got pregnant.
She blames me for everything wrong in her life, and gets utterly irate if I try to take up for myself. Once again, it just makes sense that that comes from her previous hus, as I have never had friends or family members tell me that I defend myself too much, or that I never fess up to what I do wrong, but she thinks that I NEVER DO.
Once she gets mad at me, she will not let me try to be nice to her, or calm us both down, but instead grows bitter at me for being nice in that situation, or recent, previous ones. She says it is hypocritical of me. Plus, she will not let me get a whole sentence in when she is mad. She will not stop interrupting. Every single situation seems to be a competition in her mind. Again, I wonder if that was the case with a certain someone else, because it never had been with me and my relationships
Yesterday, we had, what I considered a “small” argument, especially for us, but afterwords, she left, turned off her phone, and didn’t return till it was time to brings her kids home from school.
Later that evening, she said she regretted marrying me. At one point, she called me on the phone, and asked me what I was doing. When I said nothing, she got furious, saying that I might not have a family there when I got back.
Clearly, she hates and resents me. Every time I express my feelings or hurts or concerns to her, she masks them with her own, instead of waiting for me to finish, acknowledging, and then explaining her own feelings. Or worse, she gets mad at me for even HAVING those feelings in the first place.
I have decided at this point, to completely ignore her in every possible way. If that makes her feel hurt, or angry, oh well. I am tired of all the arguing and fighting, which seems to be the only way she knows how to communicate with a husband.
I thought us having a baby would be a joyous thing, but she clearly isn’t emotionally or psychologically stable enough to have one.