Hello everyone. I want to ask you all, what do you think about incest. First of all, I would like to say that I do not have a sister, nor do I have any female cousins that I am attracted to, so I am asking this just because I am not sure what is right and what is wrong. What if somebody falls in love with a blood relative. As far as I know you can't really choose who you fall for. Sure, there is Westermarck effect that somehow makes us not feel attracted to ones we grew up with, do it prevents us from comitting incest, but what if somehow you met your blood relative in your teens or maybe in anulthood and you fell for him/her.
I already did research on this topic, but with a little success since there is not much helpful information. So far, only things that I have found on internet about this topic are opinions of different people, and there are a lot of them. Most of people think that cousin's being in love is okay, but mother and son, father and daughter is disgusting, same goes for sister and brother. Some think that all of the above is okay. But I found only a couple of people that actually said that these stuff are wrong, and in fact, that's all they have said, no explanation, no nothing.
So I thought to myself "Well maybe these people aren't religious they have different moral standards, maybe they are not Christians and believe in some different religion. That's why?". Perhaps... not really. I went on this forum and found a thread about this same topic, except the OP of that thread actually fell in love with cousin. And guess what, literally, but literally everyone agreed on same thing, that it is not a sin, nor it is wrong. Some of them mentioned Bible and said as I can see they say that Bible is not against it.
What do I think about it? I am not sure, it seems disgusting to me. But at the same time I can imagine myself falling in love with relative I did not grow up with. Except for one thing, in no way possible would I be able to fall in love with mother, aunt or sister. But if you ask me about cousin... then I am not sure. I definetly feel guilty for feeling this way, and to be honest I really beat myself up, but I think I deserve it. I feel like a really bad person, bad Christian and somehow who obviously is not ment to be normal. And I prayed to God about this, I tried to talk to him, to get answers, but I got none and I feel really anxious. I would ask my parents about what they think, if only I didn't feel ashamed and scared of what they think. They might disown me for seeing what a deviant and perverted person I am. I talked to my friends, but they have same opinion as me, they are confused. At first they say "no way", but after I ask them to really think about it and put themselves in a situation where they met a relative that seems just like a perfect partner, they get confused.
The only reason why me and my friends would do anything to avoid anything intimate with our relatives is because of others, and by that I mean family. I would do anything not to destroy my family. But I think that is not enough of a reason.
I might consider talking to a priest, but I don't know how to get to one. Or maybe a therapist, but it is bot really possible now because of this corona situation, and I haven't got much time because this is starting to destroy me.
Please if you have an opinion about this topic please share it with me. If you think any type of incest is wrong, plese say you you think that.
P...S... I know about genetic mutation problem and everything regarding two blood relatives having children. But still, you don't have to have children. And please do not judge me, I don't want to feel this way, maybe I am crazy but I need help, I don't want to be this way.
I already did research on this topic, but with a little success since there is not much helpful information. So far, only things that I have found on internet about this topic are opinions of different people, and there are a lot of them. Most of people think that cousin's being in love is okay, but mother and son, father and daughter is disgusting, same goes for sister and brother. Some think that all of the above is okay. But I found only a couple of people that actually said that these stuff are wrong, and in fact, that's all they have said, no explanation, no nothing.
So I thought to myself "Well maybe these people aren't religious they have different moral standards, maybe they are not Christians and believe in some different religion. That's why?". Perhaps... not really. I went on this forum and found a thread about this same topic, except the OP of that thread actually fell in love with cousin. And guess what, literally, but literally everyone agreed on same thing, that it is not a sin, nor it is wrong. Some of them mentioned Bible and said as I can see they say that Bible is not against it.
What do I think about it? I am not sure, it seems disgusting to me. But at the same time I can imagine myself falling in love with relative I did not grow up with. Except for one thing, in no way possible would I be able to fall in love with mother, aunt or sister. But if you ask me about cousin... then I am not sure. I definetly feel guilty for feeling this way, and to be honest I really beat myself up, but I think I deserve it. I feel like a really bad person, bad Christian and somehow who obviously is not ment to be normal. And I prayed to God about this, I tried to talk to him, to get answers, but I got none and I feel really anxious. I would ask my parents about what they think, if only I didn't feel ashamed and scared of what they think. They might disown me for seeing what a deviant and perverted person I am. I talked to my friends, but they have same opinion as me, they are confused. At first they say "no way", but after I ask them to really think about it and put themselves in a situation where they met a relative that seems just like a perfect partner, they get confused.
The only reason why me and my friends would do anything to avoid anything intimate with our relatives is because of others, and by that I mean family. I would do anything not to destroy my family. But I think that is not enough of a reason.
I might consider talking to a priest, but I don't know how to get to one. Or maybe a therapist, but it is bot really possible now because of this corona situation, and I haven't got much time because this is starting to destroy me.
Please if you have an opinion about this topic please share it with me. If you think any type of incest is wrong, plese say you you think that.
P...S... I know about genetic mutation problem and everything regarding two blood relatives having children. But still, you don't have to have children. And please do not judge me, I don't want to feel this way, maybe I am crazy but I need help, I don't want to be this way.