Rapist Wants me to Call Him

[S.O.J.I.A.]

any advice in this thread telling you to pray for this person and connect him with whatever resources and people he needs is good.

any advice in this thread telling you to keep in personal contact with this individual is B A D!!

 

[teresa]

@Apologetic_Warrior and @eleos1954 I think you would agree with me its important to keep the card otherwise its a he said she said situation

his dna and handwriting are on that card.

the national database showed his image from the front and the side

it is him.

he obviously wasnt thinking clearly, bc he wrote his first and last name on that card along with his number.

there were some other charges, but its too late any more tonight to tend to this thread, but I will try and get back soon.

it is scary to think there could be other crimes....

he did move across the country for this job/place to live

no, it was not a short ride at all, but about an hour

 

[Sketcher]

@eleos1954
The scary part is that he already does know where I live and my home address, because he had to bring me home from the surgeon.

Hes working for a medical cab company-so how does he get to transport anyone with medical needs?

Or is it illegal to bar felons from employment?

His registry also lists my first and last name in writing as its required to transport me.

Investigate the laws in your state concerning employment of sex offenders and violent felons. Their options are more limited than many other people. I know that in my state, my friend wasn't allowed to leave the state until his probation had completed.

 

[teresa]

I just cant believe his got this job transporting me or anyone else from medical..eeK!

 

[teresa]

placing your pity above the Holy Spirit, drowning Him out.

That's good stuff. I never even thought of that before. But placing pity above the HS, is profound.

This thread has been so edifying.

 

[teresa]

Its really sad that this country releases offenders with aoda issues to houses full of drugs and drinking.

 

[LoricaLady]

I just cant believe his got this job transporting me or anyone else from medical..eeK!

Well, you need to report on him for "hitting" on you. That might also be an additional way for you to be protected.

 

[teresa]

Maybe he was a demon...he kept saying he gave his life to jesus and was a born again, yet he never quoted any scripture at all...

possibly could be trying to sound good, but no hard evidence to back him up...

it was creepy that he volunteered that his wife died

I wonder if he knew my husband died?

He had my name prior to pick up as they get an assigned list.

He picked me up from the hospital and there is therefore a good chance I really will see him again.

 

[teresa]

could it be a parole violation to have given me his name and number bc he wanted to talk?

I just dont know

 

[LoricaLady]

P.S. Not to mention that you might help some other gal for the future. And, btw, why assume he only has assaulted women? Maybe he has mugged men, for example. We really don't know. We just know he is a confessed criminal.

 

[teresa]

Well, you need to report on him for "hitting" on you. That might also be an additional way for you to be protected.

you are right, van drivers shouldn't be doing that...but he knows where I live.

so no, I'm not going to upset this guy an more than hes already upset with life and how badly its treated him.

 

[teresa]

I take it that hes had a bad life and that is why his arm was full of self harm scars....

drugs and alcohol issues, assault...he could have been assaulted as a child himself.

 

[LoricaLady]

P.P.S. Be assertive. Let the people who hired him know that you will not ride with him again. I suspect he will get fired and frankly that seems like a real good idea. if I had the power, I'd fire him in a second.

 

[teresa]

P.P.S. Be assertive. Let the people who hired him know that you will not ride with him again. I suspect he will get fired and frankly that seems like a real good idea. if I had the power, I'd fire him in a second.

no way, he will know whom he gave the card to!!

I cannot request drivers, I have tried this in the past

 

[LoricaLady]

I take it that hes had a bad life and that is why his arm was full of self harm scars....

drugs and alcohol issues, assault...he could have been assaulted as a child himself.

That's probably all true. But you can't fix any of that. You don't have the skills. You don't even know if he will EVER WANT to change. Some people like evil. They like to hurt others.

Frankly I wonder why you obsess over him so much. Let it go. Get as far from him as you can and certainly don't ride in that car with him ever again. He doesn't sound real mentally stable, now, does he?

 

[teresa]

DNA

Handwriting

Personal Cell phone number

all on the card

Im not throwing it away.

I did pray for him today, but not enough, not nearly enough!

 

[LoricaLady]

no way, he will know whom he gave the card to!!

I cannot request drivers, I have tried this in the past

If you tell the company that he scares you - and he does - and they are reputable at all, they will make sue he doesn't get around you. if not, go over their heads. Someone will take you seriously, as they should. Don't live in fear.

 

[teresa]

@LoricaLady thank you, you ask a good question. I did get triggered by him.

He was a bad boy like my former husband who died.

I was trying to save him, like he was my hubby-like I projected my husband onto him, and was trying to save his life.

I didn't want him to die.

I sensed his extreme neediness and shakiness, scars, lack of support...and it got to me big time.

Yup, it was apparently all about subconsciously trying to save my former.

A few weeks prior to this ride, I have been unusually crying over my former husband who died from drugs and alcohol.

Its so painful.

 

[Kit Sigmon]

I would encourage you to seek counseling about
your grief and guilt over your husband who died.
Before you can help someone else, you take care
of you, do see about getting counseling and learn
how to deal with tragic loss and work towards
recovery.

It'd be little wonder the medical driver zoned in on
you, a predator know what to look for...someone
who be hurting, vulnerable look in they eyes,
willingness to overlook high risk person(rapist)
and you accepting his card etc... in other words,
he saw you coming 'cause he was reading all your outward signs.
It's shows up in your writing that you be suffering and be vulnerable.
Consider taking a personal safety course... learn to read the
danger signs and how to respond to them appropriately.

 

[joshua 1 9]

I was trying to save him, like he was my hubby-like I projected my husband onto him, and was trying to save his life.

The only way we can really help is to pray for people. Then we need to be living Holy Sanctified lives so we have enough of the power of God in our life to help them to be delivered from their bondage. Praying for someone long distance is something that needs to be learned. We have power and authority as Christians that we can use to help each other.

The angels always do the will of God. So we need to know our Bible and we need to know the will of God so we know how to pray. Again we have to know the will of God and pray accordingly for our prayers to be effective.

"Effective Prayer
14 And this is the confidence that we have before Him: If we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. 15 And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we already possess what we have asked of Him." 1John5