When I was in college, I met someone who became my friend. As it turned out, before he attended the college, he had gotten saved in jail. Why was he in jail? Because as a teenager, he became a sex offender. I know what a repentant sex offender is like. Now, a roommate of mine some years later took in a friend of his who was in jail for being a sex offender. He did not accept the Lord, and I didn't see the same evidence of repentance for what got him in jail. So I know a bit of the difference.
I have some concerns about this particular fellow:
A newly released convict wants me to call him to talk, bc he said I'm the kindest person he has ever met in the history of his life. He said he has never known anyone who has been so kind to him.
We struck up conversation in the cab ride he was giving, as he was the driver and it was a long ride.
This honestly sounds manipulative. You're kinder than his own mother was to him? And he determined this while driving you around in a cab?
He gave me his number and first and last name.
He said he hates his living situation as hes surrounded by room mates who drink heavily and fight with each other.
He had self harm injuries all over his arm, well healed and old.
He said he used to be a drug fiend, but was over that.
He said he was celebite for 10 years and his wife died.
This sounds like he's probing for someone to take advantage of.
I went home and looked him up in the national data base and found out that he had just been released from another state for "forced rape."
It didn't mention child so I took it as meaning an adult woman.
You're assuming he raped an adult woman . . . you're an adult woman. This doesn't sound good. My friend who repented made it a point to avoid girls in the same category as the one his offense was against.
I suggested he get into AA meeting asap for support and to find a bible believing church (hes said hes born again bible believing type).
He said he cant stand organized religion and just does his daily prayers and devotions to himself.
If he's the Bible believing type, he would believe in Hebrews 10:25 and put it into practice. My repentant friend did. We went to the same campus ministry together, in fact. We were both regulars. It is a common tactic for non-Christian men to say they're Christian to sound spiritual and therefore good and safe, but turn out to have a problem with "organized religion" when pressed. Watch out for anyone who is like that, criminal record or no. Especially since you also said he got very upset when you mentioned church:
he got so upset over any mention of going to one and getting more support--that was a little bit concerning.
That's more than a little concerning.
To answer some of your other questions:
How long do we hold someone accountable for past sins?
As long as those past sins are still in their present.
Is he now labed for life, with no friends, and treated like a leper?
He's able to social engineer you, so he'll be able to make friends. I'm not going to lie, it's less than easy for my repentant friend in terms of finding a place to work and live. But I want less opportunity for the unrepentant. When my roommate's friend went back to jail for a parole violation, I considered that a good thing and I still do.
Well, hes working, and sounds like hes living in a half way house with guys who are making his transition difficult.
If he's there, he's probably legally required to be there. There are reasons for that.
I wonder if you are on the national registry, if you cannot even go to church bc kids might be there?
In the US, it depends on state law.
I've read too many stories of ppl trying to make a come back and they are so hated, rejected and ostracized, they take a fall back into drugs, and gradually make the intentional decision to OD on purpose.
Not going to lie, that does happen. But you need to look out for you, so that you have something to give to those in need. Worst case scenario, he takes you out of the game by beating you, stealing from you, defrauding you, raping you, or killing you. Are you going to be so willing and able to help the needy after one or more of those things happens to you? Strike a balance. Have some sensible boundaries.
How can they read me like this, his eyes were on the road, so how can he look into my eyes, the window to my soul? How do they know what to say?
Probably just by talking to you. Predators can sense open people.
Please help me understand....I should tell the local police?
He didnt do anything but I do now realize he knows my name and where I live....
but is this baseless fear?
wouldnt the police contact him about this----setting me up for revenge?
I dont want to be hurt.
if you tell the cops, they will notify him, and then I am a dead duck....?
Find out what the police department's policy is for notifying stalkers, whether you get a restraining order or not, before you give them information on who he is. I don't know enough about him personally to know if he's going to try and break into your house, or if he's going to try to continue to social engineer you first.
