Can someone help me to understand why I get so annoyed and disturbed when people in the Christian community keep on telling other people to have as many kids as possible because 1) God tells us to multiply 2) the Muslims are overpopulating the West???
I've started to just ignore a lot of these comments because God has been showing me that big families work for certain people while others may have been assigned a different calling whether it be to remain single, small families or no children at all. Of course if God puts one thing on your heart you are more likely to see that others should follow your line of thinking too. I just get so frustrated when they try to make it a formula for everyone else.
The thing that bugs me is when friends, colleagues or leaders in my life (and some of them don't even have big families) tell me or my bf (we have marriage in mind) to have like 7-12 kids. I only want 2 kids ideally and I've made it clear to them (although most of them think I'm crazy) and it doesn't help that they keep on brainwashing my bf into thinking that their idea is awesome. I can't even be bothered justifying my side
A) I actually want to keep my career and don't like being stay home Mum personally or doing homeschooling
B) I get agitated around young kids and don't have much maternal instinct
C) I would rather give my kids more attention and resources than dividing it up amongst many siblings (due to problems in own upbringing). The cost of bringing up one child is a lot not to imagine 12
D) I don't like siblings raising siblings (again due to personal and experience)
E) I want to get involved in a lot of extra curricular and volunteering stuff outside of home + travelling
I just think it's such a personal decision and don't see why everyone should be called to be quiverfull - plus trying to fight against Muslims by breeding more is not the solution to making more Christians! Why not make a difference by being the light and draw people to you - get to know them, show true love not just based on how many people you can forcefully impose the gospel upon and wonder why people are put off by Christianity
I've started to just ignore a lot of these comments because God has been showing me that big families work for certain people while others may have been assigned a different calling whether it be to remain single, small families or no children at all. Of course if God puts one thing on your heart you are more likely to see that others should follow your line of thinking too. I just get so frustrated when they try to make it a formula for everyone else.
The thing that bugs me is when friends, colleagues or leaders in my life (and some of them don't even have big families) tell me or my bf (we have marriage in mind) to have like 7-12 kids. I only want 2 kids ideally and I've made it clear to them (although most of them think I'm crazy) and it doesn't help that they keep on brainwashing my bf into thinking that their idea is awesome. I can't even be bothered justifying my side
A) I actually want to keep my career and don't like being stay home Mum personally or doing homeschooling
B) I get agitated around young kids and don't have much maternal instinct
C) I would rather give my kids more attention and resources than dividing it up amongst many siblings (due to problems in own upbringing). The cost of bringing up one child is a lot not to imagine 12
D) I don't like siblings raising siblings (again due to personal and experience)
E) I want to get involved in a lot of extra curricular and volunteering stuff outside of home + travelling
I just think it's such a personal decision and don't see why everyone should be called to be quiverfull - plus trying to fight against Muslims by breeding more is not the solution to making more Christians! Why not make a difference by being the light and draw people to you - get to know them, show true love not just based on how many people you can forcefully impose the gospel upon and wonder why people are put off by Christianity