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Featured Questions For Wives

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Tree of Life, Apr 14, 2019.

  1. Tree of Life

    Tree of Life Survives on Coffee and Whiskey

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    Hey ladies.

    I'm trying to be a better husband by asking better questions.

    What are the questions that you would love for your husband or significant other to ask you?

    Thanks in advance.
     
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  2. Brightmoon

    Brightmoon Apes and humans are all in family Hominidae.

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    More help around the house on a daily basis and not just when you feel like it . Women feel annoyed that they constantly have to ask
     
  3. Tree of Life

    Tree of Life Survives on Coffee and Whiskey

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    Thanks. Is there a particular question that might uncover the kind of help needed? Like: "Hey how can I help around the house this week?"
     
  4. Brightmoon

    Brightmoon Apes and humans are all in family Hominidae.

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    The thing about housework it that it’s unending it always needs to be done . And doing it is like having another job after you’ve come home from work. That’s actually a good idea to have a list tacked to the fridge of things you want to get done that week . It really only works for things that aren’t done daily like straightening out closets seasonally

    Any job you like to do she should just let you do it! My brother in law loves to cook . My ex liked washing dishes
     
  5. Tree of Life

    Tree of Life Survives on Coffee and Whiskey

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    I do lots of housework around the house - usually a few hours worth every day. I'm looking for ways to engage my wife emotionally. I figured questions would be a good place to start.
     
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  6. Deborah D

    Deborah D Prayer Warrior Supporter

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    God bless you for asking! I had a good husband, but he had a hard time remembering my birthday and our anniversary. This seems like a small thing, but it hurt that he didn't make these days special. So, it would have really blessed me if he had planned ahead for these days and asked me how I would like to spend them.
     
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  7. Unofficial Reverand Alex

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    This is huge. As a guy, I don't understand why remembering these days is so darn important, but it means a lot to women, so do them the respect of writing the day down somewhere.

    May God bless us all with respect & understanding!
     
  8. Chesterton

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    What a bizarre, alien concept. The purpose of asking a question is only ever inquiry or rhetoric.

    Then again, maybe that's why I'm single.
     
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  9. Tree of Life

    Tree of Life Survives on Coffee and Whiskey

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    A counselor once told me that I need to focus on entering my wife spiritually, emotionally, and physically. We all know how to focus on the lattermost. But I think the "entering emotionally" might have something to do with asking good questions.
     
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  10. ml5363

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    Just a how was your day might be nice...also a biggie, when she does talk, really listen...not the half listening we are all guilty of at times...
     
  11. Daniel C

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    The Bible says the husband is head of his wife. Ephesians 5:23.

    This means you're the boss and supposed to lead your wife not have her give you instructions on what to do, regardless of what a councillor says.

    The President does not ask the vice president for permission,he's the boss.
     
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  12. ViaCrucis

    ViaCrucis Evangelical Catholic of the Augsburg Confession

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    I hear women are big fans of men telling them what to think and how to feel. Go get 'em tiger.

    -CryptoLutheran
     
  13. PloverWing

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    One good kind of question would be inquiries about the activities that my husband knows I participate in and enjoy: "What new music are you learning in choir?" "What are you working on in karate this week?" "Did you see anything interesting on your nature walk this afternoon?" "What was the most unusual thing that happened at work today?" And then, after I answer, follow up with questions that show he's listening and interested: "That sounds like it's got an interesting chord structure. Are you going to sing one of the verses a capella?" "Is that kata easier or harder than the one you learned last month? Do you think you'll do it in the next tournament?"

    Obviously, tailor it for whatever activities your partner participates in. The idea is that you want to learn more about the work and hobbies that are part of her life -- even if you don't share those jobs/hobbies -- because they're important to her, and because the conversation lets you discover new things about her.
     
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  14. Tree of Life

    Tree of Life Survives on Coffee and Whiskey

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    Lol. I think I know why you're single.
     
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  15. Daniel C

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    Apparently some people have some reading difficulties. When I quote the Bible

    I was actually quoting the Bible and taking a Christian perspective.
     
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  16. Daniel C

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    Sounds like you're going to be divorced soon at this rate. Councillors, reaching out to anonymous people on a forum.......

    The approach I offered was actually the Biblical approach so sneer at it all you like.
     
  17. ViaCrucis

    ViaCrucis Evangelical Catholic of the Augsburg Confession

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    Not really, you were giving your interpretations of what you think the Bible says. Most of us are biblically literate enough to recognize the absurdity of your unbiblical position.

    -CryptoLutheran
     
  18. Daniel C

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    Ephesians 5:23

    You say my interpretation is unbiblical.

    So give us your interpretation.
     
  19. brinny

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    Would you care to join me in gazing at the stars?
     
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  20. ViaCrucis

    ViaCrucis Evangelical Catholic of the Augsburg Confession

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    Back up a few verses, now read it. Actually, start even further back. And now keep reading, because Paul continues talking on this subject into the 6th chapter.

    "Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

    Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

    Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

    Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

    Bondservants, obey your earthly masters with fear and trembling, with a sincere heart, as you would Christ, not by the way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but as bondservants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart, rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man, knowing that whatever good anyone does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether he is a bondservant or is free. Masters, do the same to them, and stop your threatening, knowing that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and that there is no partiality with him.
    " - Ephesians 5:15-6:9

    See where I emphasized the text in bold, that's the key here. All of those things Paul says after that are connected to it, what does "submitting to one another" look like?

    "Wives, your husbands as to the Lord" (the Greek text is lacking the verb, which is being borrowed from the preceding statement, i.e. "submit to one another")

    "Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church", how did Christ love the Church? He "gave Himself for her", what did Jesus say? "The Son of Man came not to be served, but to serve".

    "Children, obey your parents in the Lord"

    "Fathers, do not provoke your children"

    "Slaves, obey your masters"

    "Masters, do the same to them"

    This isn't about being "the boss", this is about submitting to each other in love out of reverence to Christ. This isn't about glory, it's about the cross. Stop seeking glory, and seek the cross--learn to die. As the Apostle says in the beginning of the 5th chapter of Ephesians (which is why you really should start reading even before where I began quoting above),

    "Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God." (Ephesians 5:1-2)

    -CryptoLutheran
     
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