Let's say there are two 'fluffy' ladies that you know.
One of them is content in her fluffiness, she's happy and confident and relatively healthy, but she's not interested in losing weight.
The other is the same size, but she's actively working on losing weight and getting healthy. She'll never be a modelesque gym rat, but she wants to look and feel healthier, and she's on her way. She's also a happy, confident person, but she's very much wanting to lose the weight that girl #1 doesn't mind having.
Do you view them differently? Are they both equally unattractive or undateable because of their weight? Do their motivations and attitudes affect how you'd feel about them?
I think I'll be parroting much of what others have already said. But I'd like to add...
...I had a significant attraction to a girl that was, shall we say "fluffy". She was maybe 30 pounds beyond a healthy bodyfat percentage for her frame. She was kinda short, so 30 pounds on her was more than it would be on a 6 footer. Her personality, her character... just her herself, was wonderful. Someone, somewhere will be a better man for having her as his wife. Did her weight cross my mind? Actually, it did. Why? Because as Luther said:
you can't marry the girl or date her based on what you think she will be in the future, you have to base it on how she looks now.
If I was going to choose to be with someone, it would be just that. A choice to be with and love that person. Not who I hope they will be or what I wish they would be. I was concerned that maybe she was a little careless about things in life. Maybe she vented her emotional frustrations out by eating? Who knows? I wasn't going to judge her over it. And even if that was the case, would it be better if she took her frustrations out in a gym and had a sculpted body? Same root problem, different poor external reaction. In fact, I know someone who is very fit and beautiful and about as bitter as a green persimmon.
Give me the lovely fluffy girls over the twiggy bitter ones any day.
However, the hefty girl who was uninterested in getting just a little healthier would worry me. The one who was taking charge of her situation would be attractive for her ability to get things done for herself. Prov 31:17 "She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks." Not that she has to be a plow horse, of course.
Have you seen Mischa Barton since she gained some weight? Fine looking woman, if you ask me...
I'd be a little worried why her weight was fishtailing all over, of course and do what I could to help her if she was any of my concern.
Hope this rambling is of some value to you.