Hi all
I'm thinking about quitting my church. I have been a member for over 12 years now and am starting to see things that I dont like.
I know you dont go to church to be seen but I like a church with a strong sence of faimly because mine is weak.
Well it started about 2 years ago I noticed people just started not being as friendly as before. At the time my famly was dealing with some very hard times....very hard... and the church was there but you got a waird feeling. My famly is very active in the church, my mom is a sunday school teacher, dad helps maintain it, and all of us help in the kitchen(head of the dinner commity...we are the dinner commity lol) This is also a point of stress too. People always coming in with stuff for the meal and telling us how what to do with it, how to do it, and that it must all be put out. We have very limited space and try to put some of everything out but still people get upset. Eveyones stuff is out just not in full quanitys. We do restock. The pastors wife and grown daughter are big on this. They make stuff and ask us to finish it for them. This cooking all goes on during church service.
Next my sister and I went to a diffrent school then most of the church so we never got reconised for any of our achevments(I know that also isnt part of church but the pastors grandkids and a select few members children get reconised for anything they do). At the end of sunday school we have the "Sports Report" where the pastors daughter brags about how good her kids did in this sport or another. Its the pastors grandkids so what can you do.
We also started an easter egg hunt at the church over 10 years ago this year. We loved to do it and the church normaly helps but this year we didnt get the donations like normal. $100 to do a job that takes at least two times as much. My mom always added to this every year and the church donated candy too. This year it was said that the church wanted recipts for every penny and didnt come out and say it but thought that we may skim some money off the top because we were going through a tough time right now. So mom got mad and turned it over to another lady and left instructions on how we do it. It turned out to be a dissaster and now the church blames us because we didnt go to the service. Honestly we didnt feel welcome. We also didnt go to easter service.
The pastor of this church has been my pastor all my life and this is his second church during that time. He is very well liked. I used to like him but he isnt the type of person I could ask a question and not be thought less of. I dont feel like I'm wanted there. I do have some good friends there but I like a church that does things and this one has no activitys outside of sunday mornings. I myself havent been to church in over 6 weeks. I just dont have the disire to go back. I go to a baptist church on wedsday nights. The pastor there drove my school bus gowing up. its a nice church but I think it also suffers from lack of activiy. I heard a radio program that discribed the churches in revaltions and the luke warm church sounded like mine to a T. It got me thinking today.
What do you think? Should I leave this church and fined another or try to repair the damage at this one?
The church is gray and has about 40 members, and shrinks every year. We just lost a good friend about a month ago. He died in church!! very sad but when it came time for the dinner after the funeral we were told to get the menu ready but the pastor's wife went back and undid what we were told to do. I and my father were going to help in the kitchen like normal but she also told us that we were not needed at 3 of the ladys from church were going to do it. Needless to say we didnt go to the dinner.
Any thoughts
Brian
I'm thinking about quitting my church. I have been a member for over 12 years now and am starting to see things that I dont like.
I know you dont go to church to be seen but I like a church with a strong sence of faimly because mine is weak.
Well it started about 2 years ago I noticed people just started not being as friendly as before. At the time my famly was dealing with some very hard times....very hard... and the church was there but you got a waird feeling. My famly is very active in the church, my mom is a sunday school teacher, dad helps maintain it, and all of us help in the kitchen(head of the dinner commity...we are the dinner commity lol) This is also a point of stress too. People always coming in with stuff for the meal and telling us how what to do with it, how to do it, and that it must all be put out. We have very limited space and try to put some of everything out but still people get upset. Eveyones stuff is out just not in full quanitys. We do restock. The pastors wife and grown daughter are big on this. They make stuff and ask us to finish it for them. This cooking all goes on during church service.
Next my sister and I went to a diffrent school then most of the church so we never got reconised for any of our achevments(I know that also isnt part of church but the pastors grandkids and a select few members children get reconised for anything they do). At the end of sunday school we have the "Sports Report" where the pastors daughter brags about how good her kids did in this sport or another. Its the pastors grandkids so what can you do.
We also started an easter egg hunt at the church over 10 years ago this year. We loved to do it and the church normaly helps but this year we didnt get the donations like normal. $100 to do a job that takes at least two times as much. My mom always added to this every year and the church donated candy too. This year it was said that the church wanted recipts for every penny and didnt come out and say it but thought that we may skim some money off the top because we were going through a tough time right now. So mom got mad and turned it over to another lady and left instructions on how we do it. It turned out to be a dissaster and now the church blames us because we didnt go to the service. Honestly we didnt feel welcome. We also didnt go to easter service.
The pastor of this church has been my pastor all my life and this is his second church during that time. He is very well liked. I used to like him but he isnt the type of person I could ask a question and not be thought less of. I dont feel like I'm wanted there. I do have some good friends there but I like a church that does things and this one has no activitys outside of sunday mornings. I myself havent been to church in over 6 weeks. I just dont have the disire to go back. I go to a baptist church on wedsday nights. The pastor there drove my school bus gowing up. its a nice church but I think it also suffers from lack of activiy. I heard a radio program that discribed the churches in revaltions and the luke warm church sounded like mine to a T. It got me thinking today.
What do you think? Should I leave this church and fined another or try to repair the damage at this one?
The church is gray and has about 40 members, and shrinks every year. We just lost a good friend about a month ago. He died in church!! very sad but when it came time for the dinner after the funeral we were told to get the menu ready but the pastor's wife went back and undid what we were told to do. I and my father were going to help in the kitchen like normal but she also told us that we were not needed at 3 of the ladys from church were going to do it. Needless to say we didnt go to the dinner.
Any thoughts
Brian