My name is David. I'm 31 and I've been married 5 years and have 1 boy and 1 more on the way! We are really excited
I'm really conflicted with what to do about a pretty big issue. My wife is very flamboyant, and can go from 0 to 100 very fast. I believe she gets angry pretty quickly, but she would say that's just her personality.
My mom and her sisters rotate taking care of my grandparents. So my mom was talking with her sisters trying to coordinate when my mom would be taking off to come help us once our 2nd child is born. In that conversation she said that she "might need to take off earlier than expected because the dr thinks the baby might come early." My wife never told my mom not to share that, but she didn't want that shared and thought that would be kept secret from extended family. When my wife found out that this was shared, she sent my mom a bunch of very aggressive texts. My mom read them as "attacks" (and I can see why) but Sara was just expressing her hurt and fear that my mom will continue to share more private information.
My issue is this... I want to be 100% behind my wife and support her as ONE team. But I feel like I'm lying to her and my parents b/c the truth is, I agree more with my parents than my wife in this situation. Yes, my mom shouldn't have shared this information, but she apologized and the response from my wife was SO disproportionately severe given the offense.
How do I handle this? I want to be honest with my wife and tell her that her texts to my mom were mean and hurtful and that I agree with them in some areas, but I know that that would make her angry and she'd feel like I'm siding with them. Should I just side my with wife an keep my concerns quiet???
I'm really conflicted with what to do about a pretty big issue. My wife is very flamboyant, and can go from 0 to 100 very fast. I believe she gets angry pretty quickly, but she would say that's just her personality.
My mom and her sisters rotate taking care of my grandparents. So my mom was talking with her sisters trying to coordinate when my mom would be taking off to come help us once our 2nd child is born. In that conversation she said that she "might need to take off earlier than expected because the dr thinks the baby might come early." My wife never told my mom not to share that, but she didn't want that shared and thought that would be kept secret from extended family. When my wife found out that this was shared, she sent my mom a bunch of very aggressive texts. My mom read them as "attacks" (and I can see why) but Sara was just expressing her hurt and fear that my mom will continue to share more private information.
My issue is this... I want to be 100% behind my wife and support her as ONE team. But I feel like I'm lying to her and my parents b/c the truth is, I agree more with my parents than my wife in this situation. Yes, my mom shouldn't have shared this information, but she apologized and the response from my wife was SO disproportionately severe given the offense.
How do I handle this? I want to be honest with my wife and tell her that her texts to my mom were mean and hurtful and that I agree with them in some areas, but I know that that would make her angry and she'd feel like I'm siding with them. Should I just side my with wife an keep my concerns quiet???