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Discussion in 'Married Couples' started by hijklmnop, Mar 14, 2012.

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  1. hijklmnop

    hijklmnop Guest

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    This is not your typical "hairflip" thread. I am leaving this board and won't be returning, but I think it's important that everyone know why. There is a (sadly) popular blog out there that I will link to that is full of Christian-woman hating rants. I saw the derogatory term used to describe women that starts with an "s" and ends with a "t" on that blog more times in my 20 minutes of skimming than I ever have heard or read it in my entire life. I don't know who the author is but suspect that it's a regular poster on here as many of OUR posts, usernames and profile pics included, shared in some kind of trust with our fellow posters, have been cut and pasted for the support of theories like "why so many wives want their husbands to cheat" and so forth, and then the mockery and insults of hundreds of angry, spiteful commenters, including some of the men who post regularly here.

    I'm disturbed, disgusted and fed up with expecting general respect and human decency from some of the men of this board.

    Dalrock | Thoughts from a happily married father on a post feminist world.
     
  2. Niffer

    Niffer So...that just happened.

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    :( I'm sorry Dreamer.
    I'm just as disgusted as you are over this - not only is it a breach of privacy, but to have our comments/thoughts and ideas spewed so hatefully to hundreds who get to sit back and judge is has just throughly disgusted me.
    As for the men who knew about this...you knew we were being degraded yet did not even attempt to protect or even warn us that our posts were being perverted.

    'chivalry' indeed.

    Dreamer I will be very sad to see you go - I hope to see you in the private forum, where we don't have to worry about our personal problems becoming the sport of hundreds.

    -Niffer
     
  3. c1ners

    c1ners Senior Contributor

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    I don't even have words to describe what I'm feeling right now. Shell shocked? You bet. Angry? Absolutely. Surprised? Unfortunately I'm not very surprised that some of you could do such a thing. Saddened? Very.
     
  4. c1ners

    c1ners Senior Contributor

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    By the way.............here's a post from one of the men on that forum: It's a little scarey to know that not only have we women been betrayed, but that you men are also being brain washed.

    "Im still “conservativation” on that forum, but I have been banned and allowed back so many times that I don’t go into the married area much,, besides arguing with the exact same women for years defines me as insane. One thing I do do though, because this is my primary activism, is if men are there are will listen I (and a handful of good guys) will get them in the Mens Area (which is on the same page but you get there by request for access only and its a safe place to post) and force feed red pill cereal to them. I dont mean my activism is in that forum….i mean its among Christian men and pastors."
     
  5. Niffer

    Niffer So...that just happened.

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    *shakes head* . . . Oh wow..there goes a lot of respect. :(
     
  6. Tamara224

    Tamara224 Well-Known Member

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    I wish I could say I was surprised.

    I wish you wouldn't let them run you off, Dreamer. You know that's their main goal, to silence us, to dominate the conversation (and anything else they can).
     
  7. chaz345

    chaz345 Well-Known Member

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    People in glass houses.......

    I'm failing to see how there's even a tiny amount of difference between what you are all so upset about happening with posts from here being taken there and taking something from there and posting it here.

    Oh and an honest question. Would any of you have a problem with someone from here taking the time to track down a poster's real life identity and sending their spouse a long rant on Facebook? Just asking because it happened to me. Was done by someone who is thankfully on an involuntary permanent vacation from here.
     
  8. Boidae

    Boidae Senior Veteran

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    Wow, just Wow!

    I can't believe that someone would stoop so low as to do something like that.
     
  9. snoochface

    snoochface Meet the new boss -- same as the old boss.

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    Just glancing through that site, I notice a couple of things. 1) It's been around since at least 2010. It doesn't seem to have been started or affiliated with anything having to do with the women at CF. 2) In posts that I have skimmed through (hovering my mouse over links) I see many link-backs to posts made in many places on the internet, including one or two from CF.

    It doesn't seem like it's comprised of CF men intent on bashing CF women. There may be some CF member participation there, but the focus and intent doesn't seem to have anything to do with this place. I'm not sure what's asking to be done about it. Have the blog shut down? Have a rule that CF men can't post their opinions elsewhere on the internet? What's the end goal?
     
  10. tannicv2

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    So the tides have turned and all the men are viewed as disgusting. Figures... Anyhow there is really no point of putting it nicely. That's what we go through at times. One poster posted something on there that's so true I can't find what's not true about it. Anyhow... I'm just a man... who cares.
     
  11. Tamara224

    Tamara224 Well-Known Member

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    This is, indeed, the most disturbing part.

    Forget chivalry.

    What about the love of Christ? What about "you shall know they are my disciples by the love they have for one another" and "love your neighbor as yourself?"

    These are the same men who go about trying to shove (their interpretation of) the Bible down our throats. The same men who talk about following Scripture, claiming others ignore it, etc.

    And yet they sit idly by, or worse participate, in immoral and crude talk, vile aspersions and unrighteous behavior.

    "Women need to submit because the Bible says so.
    Women need to be modest because the Bible says so.
    Women need to be respectful of men because the Bible says so."

    These are their mantras.

    Yes, I wish I could say I was surprised. Discouraged yes, but not surprised.
     
  12. David Jerome

    David Jerome Active Member

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    If it's true that the blog author is a poster here, then it's probably true he/she frequents many other sites where marriage is discussed. If you go somewhere else, then you're still just as likely to have your posts at risk of being copied without your permission, but this blog author and others.

    You can leave if you want. But anything you say on a public internet site anywhere, leaves you just as open.
     
  13. David Jerome

    David Jerome Active Member

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    Still, it's terrible to see your own words twisted in unintended, terrible ways. It's already happened to me many times in my short time here on CF.
     
  14. tannicv2

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    Trust me it's the norm.
     
  15. Tamara224

    Tamara224 Well-Known Member

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    Says the poster with 7 posts.
     
  16. tannicv2

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    Second account.. I just signed up again after a few months.
     
  17. Boidae

    Boidae Senior Veteran

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    I was just going to post that same thing, but wanted to hold out till you said something.
     
  18. tannicv2

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    So yea I was going to drop by and say wassup... And this hot topic was posted. Fire on the boards and I haven't been back a couple days yet.
     
  19. Tamara224

    Tamara224 Well-Known Member

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    Um, to be treated with respect at CHRISTIAN Forums is the desired outcome.

    And if some people can't do that, then Christian Forums has rules in place to ban people.

    No, nothing can be done about another website.

    But something can be done about what gets posted, and who posts, on this one.
     
  20. Boidae

    Boidae Senior Veteran

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    LoL
     
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