I'm sure there have been threads on this before on here, but what our your thoughts on premarital sex?
Look around....to me, it is hard to argue with the fact that sex outside of marriage has done more harm to society as a whole and the family unit on a personal level than everything else combined.
I'm sure there have been threads on this before on here, but what our your thoughts on premarital sex?
Because some people, such as myself, don't like marriage and wish to practice other types of romantic relationships.What's the up side? You get to have sex without marriage...???
Because you don't want to make the commitment?
Because you just can't wait?
Because you want act like cave man?
Because it's just a mistranslation anyway so we might as well do what feels good?
Because you would never buy a car without taking it for a test ride?
Look around....to me, it is hard to argue with the fact that sex outside of marriage has done more harm to society as a whole and the family unit on a personal level than everything else combined.
Couple reasons:Why?
Since pleasure is subjective, Id say everyones a hedonist.Would you say that you are a hedonist?
Nope, Ive wanted though. I dont know anything about it, but my sisters told me its good.Have you read "The Picture of Dorian Grey"?
Couple reasons:
(1) Im a loner at heart and suffer from social anxiety disorder. The idea of having to spend so much time with a spouse, sleeping with them in the same bed every night, eating at least two meals together everyday for the rest of your life, having kids and raising them in this miserable world, having to be so close to someone and you have no home to go to be alone, etc . . . sounds like utter hell.
(2) In order to be married, you either have to get a marriage license from the state or have someone of authority in a church deem you wed. Church and State: two entities I have *ahem* an extreme dislike for, especially the latter.
(3) While I do like kids, Id never have any of my own. As Michael Scott once said: Why be a dad when you can be a fun uncle?
(4) Hinted at in number 1, but Ill develop further here: the idea of having to live with someone is not appealing. Nor having to share all your stuff and spend every free hour together. A committed loving sexual relationship with a girlfriend is appealing to me though.
(5) Marriage seems to be an ancient way to define a woman as mans property. It wasnt about love; it was about creating social order just to survive. Since women are recognized as people and not property, unwanted pregnancies can be avoided by birth control, and neither offspring, nor shared residence are necessary for survival, it seems the reasons marriage were created for in the first place are obsolete. Thats not to say people still cant marry; they of course can and I dont care, but its not something Ill be partaking in.
Since pleasure is subjective, Id say everyones a hedonist.
Nope, Ive wanted though. I dont know anything about it, but my sisters told me its good.
Not at all. I would never sleep with just anyone just because they were hot or I wanted to relieve myself. I'd never have sex with anyone unless I truly loved and cared for them.From what you have described here you are not really looking for "committed loving sexual relationship", more like you are looking for someone to satisfy your selfish sexual desires and then go away until you want them again. This is doesn't sound very committed. It definitely doesn't sound loving. I suppose it is sexual in the physical sense of the term, but there is more to sexual intimacy than the physical.
All definitions I've ever heard for hedonism is that involves pleasure; I've never heard it mention morality. Since what is pleasurable is subjective to the individual and every individual is always trying to accomplish whatever goals they have, everyone is a hedonist.I think that hedonism is only relative if you view morality in general as relative.
I like C.S. Lewis (never read that one though), but you could just summarize for me what he says since it's unlikely I'll be that anytime soon.Maybe before you read Dorian Grey you should read "The Abolition of Man" by CS Lewis. Just a thought in case you are honestly looking for the "right" answer here.
[Kristos]What's the up side? You get to have sex without marriage...???
Because you don't want to make the commitment?
Because you just can't wait?
Because you want act like cave man?
Because it's just a mistranslation anyway so we might as well do what feels good?
Because you would never buy a car without taking it for a test ride?
Why? I'm not disagreeing, I'm just curious.I've always thought there was something terribly controlling and - well, anal - about the traditional view of sex before marriage.