- Aug 6, 2013
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- United States
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- Non-Denom
- Marital Status
- Single
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- US-Republican
Hello,
Wanting a little prayer for a personal situation (think feelings of attraction to the opposite sex; just to be upfront, I am a guy).Not that I actively seek out a romance but just every now and then, I just happen to meet someone I really like, and because I've been on barely two dates in my life and no romantic relationships whatsoever, I literally have no clue what to do about it. And the advice I get is so from all over the place: do nothing, let them come to you; be active; be friends first; it's misleading if you become friends while you secretly are attracted; make sure there is mutual interest; be their friend first and take time to get to know them; if you like them, ask them out immediately, etc, etc, etc.
I just have no idea what to do and how to handle this the right way. There feels like very few people in my actual social circles I feel comfortable talking about such a touchy subject; I've literally cried out to the Lord through silent prayer, spoken prayer, from the heart and through writing in a prayer journal but I still feel a little lost. The thought of not marrying before I die absolutely horrifies me so unfortunately for the Apostle Paul, I can't handle nor want the celibate/single lifestyle. I am happy for the people I know who are happily in relationships/married but deep, deep down I wonder why they get paired up as easily as going grocery shopping while I don't even know where to look for one person who would be interested in me as I in them and for me to be in relationship that even would get within 60 light years of marriage would take nothing short of great miracle of God. Maybe I'm just terminally immature, too socially awkward, too anxious, being disclipined by God for making marital status an idol. I can say, I can't remember the last time I felt this discouraged like this about something when compared to what others are facing is just silly and stupid. I did not mean for this to be manifesto but I am really am struggling. Thanks for reading and God bless all.
Wanting a little prayer for a personal situation (think feelings of attraction to the opposite sex; just to be upfront, I am a guy).Not that I actively seek out a romance but just every now and then, I just happen to meet someone I really like, and because I've been on barely two dates in my life and no romantic relationships whatsoever, I literally have no clue what to do about it. And the advice I get is so from all over the place: do nothing, let them come to you; be active; be friends first; it's misleading if you become friends while you secretly are attracted; make sure there is mutual interest; be their friend first and take time to get to know them; if you like them, ask them out immediately, etc, etc, etc.
I just have no idea what to do and how to handle this the right way. There feels like very few people in my actual social circles I feel comfortable talking about such a touchy subject; I've literally cried out to the Lord through silent prayer, spoken prayer, from the heart and through writing in a prayer journal but I still feel a little lost. The thought of not marrying before I die absolutely horrifies me so unfortunately for the Apostle Paul, I can't handle nor want the celibate/single lifestyle. I am happy for the people I know who are happily in relationships/married but deep, deep down I wonder why they get paired up as easily as going grocery shopping while I don't even know where to look for one person who would be interested in me as I in them and for me to be in relationship that even would get within 60 light years of marriage would take nothing short of great miracle of God. Maybe I'm just terminally immature, too socially awkward, too anxious, being disclipined by God for making marital status an idol. I can say, I can't remember the last time I felt this discouraged like this about something when compared to what others are facing is just silly and stupid. I did not mean for this to be manifesto but I am really am struggling. Thanks for reading and God bless all.