My parents are in their 70’s, they ‘tried’ to raise us to beleive in God, but did not raise us in a home of peace that reflected Gods love. My mother was violent towards my father, they fought violently all of the time, my dad tried to commit suicide and was hospitalized twice, they were emotionally abusive to all 3 of us children, and very physically abusive to my older brother as well. They try to compensate ( May have blocked what they did) now that he is a 47 year old addict and a thief , childless with 2 failed marriages, and lives in their home . They enable him ( my parents take a lot of strong meds, including morphine, OxyContin, t3s, Xanax, etc) they will give him drugs for ‘headaches,’ and ‘nerves ,’ although his family dr nor the hospital will prescribe him any, he used to be on methadone, and he was also previously in a rehab facility that he was kicked out of for using, they drove 7 hours to pick him up, and made excuses for him. Which they continue to do. He says crude, rude things to every female he meets, including to myself, and my daughter. He asked my 6 year old grand daughter If she knew that there were people called ‘faggots’, and has said other very inappropriate things around her. My parents defend him, my mother says ‘he’s just a kid’. In January we had a falling out because my mother claimed my son in law is physically abusing my grand daughter. ( his step daughter) she made the same claims about my husband regarding our son, years ago. I was furious that she was doing this again and told her that was untrue and left. My daughter and I agreed to sit down to discuss 4 months ago, but my parents just yelled and screamed, my dad held up a bible as soon as walked in and said ‘we are christians’, he yelled about premarital sex ( my daughter is not yet married, they are engaged) and they just kept shouting accusations and my daughter had a panic attack and she and I left , my brother calling out ‘good riddance’. ( my mother volunteered to me years ago when I first moved out of the home that she and my father had pre marital sex, I never told my father she told me this)
They defend my brother, even though they know he steals, I caught him in my closet last year stealing pills out of my moms purse, and we caught him stealing an expensive tool from a worker at my parents house, but they did not turn him in despite knowing he did it, and the worker asking them about it.
I blocked my dad, because he sends hateful, antagonizing messages to me, the last one again, accusing me/ us of not loving or knowing God, and they decided we should just end our relationship. They have already ended their relationship with my sister, her children and grandchildren about 15 years ago. I do not have a relationship with my sister because of them. At that time my dad blamed my sister for the abuse claims they were making against my husband, he told us all sorts of terrible things she allegedly said, then would tell them things we allegedly said, until we no longer spoke.
My parents do not have relationships with their families at all, until they are on their death beds, then they go to the hospital and their funerals afterwards. My moms mother died in their home and she woulD not let us tell any family that she had passed away, needless to say when they found out everyone was upset. There was no funeral, her ashes are still in the box they came in. I do not know what to do. I’m sad, because I love them despite their behaviour, and if you could reaD the things he sends me , you woulD wonder why I care, when it seems they don’t. They make up stories ( always have), they hate people, they gossip and judge, I’ve never seen such judgemental, hateful people, they are the ‘christians’ that non believers base baD judgements on. What I need is prayer for our situation. I have asked them to apologize to my daughter ( who they told her they disowned, she did nothin* wrong), my daughters fiance ( for makin* such serious untrue claims) , and to myself for the horrible things they have said to me. I told them we just want a sorry, and I also tolD them previously that I did not want my brother to come with them every time they come over ( he gets stoned and nods off the whites of his eyes rolled back...anD when awake he says awful things, even in front of my little grand daughters, i don’t trust him anD do not want him around the girls) I need some prayer to break through to them. I still love God in spite of them, not because of them. I know how God has worked in my life in many, many ways, I left my home at 16 due to the chaos in my home, and made some dangerous life choices that God protected me during. It’s been 8 months, I do not want my parents to pass away with us separated, but I need them to stop trying to run my adult life, I need them to apologize and stop repeatin* the same hate. Please pray that something gives and God gives them a wake up call. Everyone I know has advised me to just cut my losses, but my daughter is hurt by this, I am hurt by this anD my grand daughters miss them and don’t understand. I don’t know how to grieve my living parents, and I don’t want to. I need advice and prayers please.
They defend my brother, even though they know he steals, I caught him in my closet last year stealing pills out of my moms purse, and we caught him stealing an expensive tool from a worker at my parents house, but they did not turn him in despite knowing he did it, and the worker asking them about it.
I blocked my dad, because he sends hateful, antagonizing messages to me, the last one again, accusing me/ us of not loving or knowing God, and they decided we should just end our relationship. They have already ended their relationship with my sister, her children and grandchildren about 15 years ago. I do not have a relationship with my sister because of them. At that time my dad blamed my sister for the abuse claims they were making against my husband, he told us all sorts of terrible things she allegedly said, then would tell them things we allegedly said, until we no longer spoke.
My parents do not have relationships with their families at all, until they are on their death beds, then they go to the hospital and their funerals afterwards. My moms mother died in their home and she woulD not let us tell any family that she had passed away, needless to say when they found out everyone was upset. There was no funeral, her ashes are still in the box they came in. I do not know what to do. I’m sad, because I love them despite their behaviour, and if you could reaD the things he sends me , you woulD wonder why I care, when it seems they don’t. They make up stories ( always have), they hate people, they gossip and judge, I’ve never seen such judgemental, hateful people, they are the ‘christians’ that non believers base baD judgements on. What I need is prayer for our situation. I have asked them to apologize to my daughter ( who they told her they disowned, she did nothin* wrong), my daughters fiance ( for makin* such serious untrue claims) , and to myself for the horrible things they have said to me. I told them we just want a sorry, and I also tolD them previously that I did not want my brother to come with them every time they come over ( he gets stoned and nods off the whites of his eyes rolled back...anD when awake he says awful things, even in front of my little grand daughters, i don’t trust him anD do not want him around the girls) I need some prayer to break through to them. I still love God in spite of them, not because of them. I know how God has worked in my life in many, many ways, I left my home at 16 due to the chaos in my home, and made some dangerous life choices that God protected me during. It’s been 8 months, I do not want my parents to pass away with us separated, but I need them to stop trying to run my adult life, I need them to apologize and stop repeatin* the same hate. Please pray that something gives and God gives them a wake up call. Everyone I know has advised me to just cut my losses, but my daughter is hurt by this, I am hurt by this anD my grand daughters miss them and don’t understand. I don’t know how to grieve my living parents, and I don’t want to. I need advice and prayers please.
