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Prayer for a Nephew named Danny

Discussion in 'One Bread, One Body - Catholic' started by eastcoast_bsc, Sep 29, 2020.

  1. eastcoast_bsc

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    My young nephew who’s mother is my sister, she passed away in August. He is not working and pounding vodka , not leaving his room. He got up today at quarter to 2:00 in the afternoon. His father called me today to see if I could intervene. I called but he but he won’t return my calls.

    Please say a prayer for his safety and that he will come to his senses.

    thanks
     
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  2. Anhelyna

    Anhelyna Handmaid of God CF Senior Ambassador Supporter

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    Prayers for your troubled nephew :crosseo:

    Unfortunately , as you well know , till he is ready to accept help there's nothing you can do , but just be there for him when he eventually reaches out for help.

    This time of pandemic has affected so many people who have problems
     
  3. S.ilvio

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    ...:prayer:
     
  4. pdudgeon

    pdudgeon Traditional Catholic Supporter

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    Prayers going up^^^.
    I know that you must be hurting over this, and I can understand that.

    May I suggest that you do a search to see what kind of grief counseling is available to him where he lives?
    I would not expect him to respond to your calls this soon, as he is probably still in deep shock from his loss.
    But please know that what you are doing now in praying and in letting him know that you are still here is a very good thing and a very important thing, and that your prayers will be effective for him, both now and in the days to come.

    For that, you can trust that God WILL answer, and will get through to him.

    Grief is a process; a long process, that we all go through.
    And each person has their own way of handling it.

    From what you've told us here, he's still dealing with the initial shock, and as such, is not able yet to process what has happened to him.

    For him, his mother's death is probably like a hurricane that has removed a very important protective barrier between him and life outside.
    And he is probably feeling for the first time what kind of force ordinary life itself can throw at people.

    Added to that, these are not ordinary times that we live in now.
    Ordinary is gone, to be replaced by social distancing, which adds it's own problems to the mix.

    So yes, prayer, time, sympathy, love, understanding, and especially a stable atmosphere around him are what he needs the most right now.

    Eventually he will start to heal, and begin to take an interest at what is happening outside of himself. But since these are far from ordinary times, that healing will probably take much longer than is usually expected, because the World that he is coming back to is far different than the world as he used to know it.

    That's where the grief counseling can really help him, because it can help to gently restore him back to a life that-- with help-- he can begin to cope with again.

    Best Wishes to you both.:groupray:
     
  5. Michie

    Michie Human rights begin in the womb. Supporter

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    Prayers for Danny and that he will soon respond to you and your calls.
     
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  6. eastcoast_bsc

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    Thanks for the prayers guys. I called him twice and he did not respond. His father should be handling this but isn't. The father should offer him help and a place to stay but not while he chooses to booze every night and use the house as a flop house.

    We all go through loss. He doesn't seem to have good coping skills or be able to compartmentalize. He needs to choose that he wants to get through this.

    But his father should not enable him.


    I lost my mother, my father 2 brothers now my sister and a niece. Life is tough and it entails suffering. I hope he makes the right decision.
     
  7. Michie

    Michie Human rights begin in the womb. Supporter

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    I’m so sorry. He may have an underlying condition of depression or addiction. If you can just get him to crack open the door, it might help. But you, like me, are who the family calls and that has an effect on you as well. Dad may have to call in the professionals to help his son. Although I realize he is still in the depths of grief too. I’m so sorry you are all going through this. Continued prayers.
     
  8. Davidnic

    Davidnic Well-Known Member Staff Member Site Advisor Supporter

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    My prayers. Loss is so hard but as you said we can get through suffering. I pray he opens his heart to those who want to help.
     
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