Pray for my heart towards my dad

[salt-n-light]

He is a thorn in my side, he makes every fiber of my being burn with rage. He's so relentlessly bitter and means. A man like him, I would never marry. But I know this hatred is not from God.

I can't change him, but I can only deal with my flesh. So pray for me, that God grants me patience and peace.

 

[brinny]

He is a thorn in my side, he makes every fiber of my being burn with rage. He's so relentlessly bitter and means. A man like him, I would never marry. But I know this hatred is not from God.

I can't change him, but I can only deal with my flesh. So pray for me, that God grants me patience and peace.

Praying for you, and your dad too (((hug)))

 

[Emli]

He is a thorn in my side, he makes every fiber of my being burn with rage. He's so relentlessly bitter and means. A man like him, I would never marry. But I know this hatred is not from God.

I can't change him, but I can only deal with my flesh. So pray for me, that God grants me patience and peace.

I'm praying. I pray that God gives you patience and peace, that you will be able to love and forgive your father and that God will heal your heart from any emotional damage your father has done to you. I'm also praying that He helps your father. In Jesus' name, amen!

God bless!

 

[SnowTiger]

I pray that your father's heart will change and he will begin loving you again.

 

[Long Island Pilgrim]

Hi MsKriskris,

Your visceral experience of your father may actually be attempting to inform you of something. One of the things that it took me a long time to learn , but which eventually was offered to me by several different Christian teachers and Pastors, is that we are not to be honoring any person in their sin. Not even Mother and Father. We are only to be honoring our parents to the extent that they honor and obey God. Beyond that we are to share the Gospel, set boundaries and distance ourselves from those who refuse to repent of repetitive sin. Pastor Henry Wright has a book called "Unloving" where he shares about this subject and Martha Kilpatrick has a series of CD's titled "Leave Thy Parents" which also addresses this issue . Sometimes patience does not honor God at all. We are not to be tolerating soul crushing behavior if it hinders our walk with the Lord. This can be a tricky subject to get information on because sometimes churches and pastors have not reached this level of spiritual maturity or discernment. If someone is making you burn with rage they are causing serious spiritual problems in your life. There are times when we are called to endure but there are also times when we are called to leave so it's not a cut and dry issue. Sometimes the circumstances will also inform you when there is temporarilly no clear path set out to leave, for instance.
May you pray and ask the Holy Spirit to lead you into new levels of insight on this matter.

 

[Sam91]

"Forgive them they know not what they do"

I guess only God can change your heart, but it starts with a willingness to be obedient to the command.

I do not know if you remember I was in a predicament like this a month ago. What helped was when I finally admitted to God I couldn't do it but I wanted to. I wanted to obey Him and admitted to Him I needed Him. Well forgiving wasn't so hard after.

Will it work for you too? Shall I pm you the thread?

God bless you Mskriskris ♡

 

[faroukfarouk]

He is a thorn in my side, he makes every fiber of my being burn with rage. He's so relentlessly bitter and means. A man like him, I would never marry. But I know this hatred is not from God.

I can't change him, but I can only deal with my flesh. So pray for me, that God grants me patience and peace.

Hebrews 12.2

 

[Servant68]

I'm right there with you. I have a TON of bitterness and hurt from my father.

My best friend and I were just talking about it the other day. He also had a very hurtful and bitter father.

My friend urged me to cut off all contact with my father because there was nothing to be gained from continuing to communicate with such a hurtful and bitter person. I can't do it. I know he's damaged me emotionally over the years and is the cause of all of my current issues with self-esteem and unhealthy relationships.

He and my mom divorced when I was two. We reconnected when I was 12 and he had re-married. I was riding with him somewhere and I asked him why he and his new wife never had kids. I'll never forget his response, "I never had much use for kids..."

Yeah, words like that can, and did, a lot of damage to the self-esteem of a 13yr old boy.

But I don't think he is completely evil; just damaged and bitter and unwilling to admit it or seek help.

Sounds like your dad may be a bit worse than mine, however.

Know that I did pray for you with the understanding of what you're going through.

 

[redleghunter]

He is a thorn in my side, he makes every fiber of my being burn with rage. He's so relentlessly bitter and means. A man like him, I would never marry. But I know this hatred is not from God.

I can't change him, but I can only deal with my flesh. So pray for me, that God grants me patience and peace.

I will pray for you and your father. That our Heavenly Father replace his heart of stone with a heart of flesh.

When was the last time you did something kind for your father? No strings attached a kind gesture?

 

[salt-n-light]

I will pray for you and your father. That our Heavenly Father replace his heart of stone with a heart of flesh.

When was the last time you did something kind for your father? No strings attached a kind gesture?

Every morning before I head to work, I say "bye boss" and give him a kiss on the forehead. I also do handiwork around the house.Its when I want to rest and not tend to his needs right away he starts to get angry, aggressive, and say mean things.

I dont ask for much, because he putting a roof over my head so I show appreciation when I can. Hes normally very stubborn and I try to be lighthearted. But I wish the times that I can't he wasn't so mean to me.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Every morning before I head to work, I say "bye boss" and give him a kiss on the forehead. I also do handiwork around the house.Its when I want to rest and not tend to his needs right away he starts to get angry, aggressive, and say mean things.

I dont ask for much, because he putting a roof over my head so I show appreciation when I can. Hes normally very stubborn and I try to be lighthearted. But I wish the times that I can't he wasn't so mean to me.

So so you have the prospect of still living at home for the foreseeable future? Sometimes the option of moving out if doable is preferred. It can also draw lines between adults making their own decisions.

 

[salt-n-light]

So so you have the prospect of still living at home for the foreseeable future? Sometimes the option of moving out if doable is preferred. It can also draw lines between adults making their own decisions.

I'm in the process of saving up to move out sometime this year. But I don't want to leave with spite in my heart.

 

[faroukfarouk]

I'm in the process of saving up to move out sometime this year. But I don't want to leave with spite in my heart.

If you think of it in terms of him being unable to internalize your beliefs - if indeed this is the reason for his hostility - then you may be able to keep thinking of it in a Godward perspective.

Finding the right words to pray for him daily also is healthy.

PS: Sounds like moving out would prove to be a good eventual option.

 

[Sam91]

I'm in the process of saving up to move out sometime this year. But I don't want to leave with spite in my heart.

Bless you for your kind heart! You'll get there one way or another. Just keep praying and using God's ways to guide your thinking. Not the worlds wisdom. Although you might find it easier when you do move out, keep trying.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Bless you for your kind heart! You'll get there one way or another. Just keep praying and using God's ways to guide your thinking. Not the worlds wisdom. Although you might find it easier when you do move out, keep trying.

In some ways moving out would lift a weight off @Mskriskris 's mind, in any case.