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Please pray for my 18 year old daughter

Discussion in 'Prayer Wall' started by Purple Hyacinth, Sep 4, 2013.

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  1. Purple Hyacinth

    Purple Hyacinth John 3:16

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    Please I need prayers for my daughter. She is 18, and just started her first job 3 months ago. She is very naive and innocent about adult relationships and has never had a boyfriend of been out on a date.

    She is being manipulated by a man at her work who is in his 30's. He is on of her supervisors. He is giving her "special attention" at work and taking her out during their dinner breaks and paying each time.

    Her father and I have been going round and round with her how his actions are inappropriate etc.. They even have rules for this stuff at work. She is getting more and more smitten by him.

    She pretty much told me off last night and to stay out of her life etc..

    So I am now going to treat her like an adult. and require her to pay rent here at home etc...

    Her father, who is a Police Lt. and will not put up with this is going to give her a little more time to figure this out and take our advice before he confronts the co-worker. Then we will go to the store manager and they will transfer one of them to another location

    The store is a HUGE GROCERY chain and has strict policies regarding these things. (Thank Goodness), however she is being VERY defiant, immature and unreasonable with her parents.

    Please pray for her wisdom, safety and pray for me so I don't "lose it" when dealing with her. I also need any advice you can give.
    This man is a predator and she is very innocent, yet head strong

    Give me strength!!!!!!!!!
     
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  2. shawnavery

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    Praying.. I would go straight to the store manager asap.

    John 3:16
     
  3. Gabriel Wade

    Gabriel Wade Pray Faith Live

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    Praying. Very inappropriate indeed. Hopefully God will give her or him a new prospective In this situation
     
  4. StarryEyes

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    Praying for you and your husband for guidance and strength.
    I commend your daughter for being 18 and not having been on a date! Maybe she is responding and liking the attention but that sounds like a terrible situation to be in.
     
  5. christsoccer

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    Praying for you and your daughter
    :prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer::prayer:
     
  6. baileygirl3

    baileygirl3 Junior Member

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    You all are in my prayers
     
  7. Purple Hyacinth

    Purple Hyacinth John 3:16

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    Thank you, so far I have not talked with my daughter yet this morning. I am too upset at her for being so defensive last night and not wanting any of my advice.
    I don't want the wrong words to come out of my mouth right now.

    Trust me, my husband works in management at the Police Dept, and deals with situations like this all the time with his own employees. He knows what to do

    We just want to give her a few days to see what happens.

    Just keep praying...she is being very VERY defensive, and rebellious right now. She is 18 so we have to be careful...don't want her running to this guy and moving in with him or something like that.

    We are being very careful how we handle things, but we are very concerned that she may make a HUGE mistake with him, like letting him take advantage of her.

    Over all she is a sweet, caring girl..We don't know why this man has such control over her feelings
     
  8. shawnavery

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    I do say go to the store manager because 1. your daughter and 2. he might have or is or will do this to others as well. Praying in Christ's name.

    John 3:16
     
  9. Bloved1

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    I will keep you and your family in my prayers as well but I really think that if you force him to go elsewhere it wont solve your problem. I know you arent looking for advice. But is it just the age thing that has you worried? Do you know anything about him (is he married or have you heard rumors about him)? Maybe you could all sit down together and talk about your concerns.
     
  10. Purple Hyacinth

    Purple Hyacinth John 3:16

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    YES, it is the age thing. She is 18 and he is around 35. She is innocent, naive, no experience with men, was never even interested in dating. She always wanted to do her own thing and was never one of those boy crazy girls.
    She is a "trophy" as far as im concerned with a man that age. He is of different culture too. May even be Muslim.

    The whole thing is innappropriate on so many levels!!

    I have to sit down with my husband and her when we are all together this weekend.

    So far, she yelled at me last night to stay out of her life and that she wants to be treated like an adult. So guess what? She is now paying her own bills, cell phone, cooking her own meals and doing her own laundry!

    This wont get very far. It will end one way or another. We are treating her like an adult and if she cannot handle this, she obviously does not have the maturity and we will step in

    At this point, I don't care if she loses her job. She can go to college.
     
  11. singpeace

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    Father God, please give this mother and father wisdom in what they say to their daughter.

    Proverbs 18:21 says, The tongue has the power of life and death. As parents, you have the power to speak life or death to your children and over your children. When you choose to speak the Word of God over your children, you are choosing to speak life over them. Jesus said in John 6:63, The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life. The following are scriptural confessions that you can speak over your children – and as Isaiah 55:11 says – these words will not return to your empty, but will accomplish and achieve the purpose for which they are sent.

    Lord, cause this daughter to be obedient to her parents and to fulfill the purpose You have for her.
    Exodus 20:12 I thank You Father, that my children honor and obey me, therefore, they please the Lord and will live a long life.
    (Also found in Colossians 3:20 and Ephesians 6:2.)

    Psalm 112:2 My children are blessed and will be mighty in the land.

    Psalm 127:3 My children are a reward and gift from the Lord, and I will enjoy them.

    Psalm 138:8 My children will fulfill God’s will and purpose for their lives.

    Lord Jesus, please keep this daughter pure and unblemished, and cause her to be a positive example to her peers.
    Daniel 1:4 My children are children in whom there is no blemish, but they are well favored. They are skillful in wisdom, cunning in knowledge, and understand science. They have the ability to stand in the King’s palace and teach others.

    Romans 12:2 My children are not being conformed to this world’s system, but they are constantly being transformed by the renewing of their mind, that they might know what is the good, acceptable, and perfect will of God for their lives.

    I Corithians 6:18-19 My children will flee from all sexual immorality and impurity in thought, word or deed, and they will realize that their body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

    I Timothy 4:12 My children are examples to others in life, in love, in faith, and in purity.


    Lord, keep this daughter with your Salvation.
    Lord, let salvation spring up within my children, that they may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.
    (Isaiah 45:8; II Timothy 2:10)

    Help her to grow in Grace.
    I pray that they may “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ”.
    (2 Peter 3:18)

    In Jesus name I pray. Amen.
     
  12. Debby 24

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    Praying for the Lords intervention, for wisdom, direction for calm and peace, protection and clarity in this situation.
     
  13. Purple Hyacinth

    Purple Hyacinth John 3:16

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    Thank you...this actually brought me to tears. I will make a copy of this.
     
  14. Gods warrior 1

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    Hello I am praying and have asked some of my friends to pray too. Just a suggestion forgive me if I offend. What do you think about talking to your daughter about why you are concerned eg the age, possible different religion, her being taken advantage of and it's consequences. Just remind her that you and your husband love her so much and don't want her hurt. I am sure you are doing this. Praying
     
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  15. SkyeMist

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    This man should be reported for inappropriate behaviour if this kind of behaviour is not condoned by management.

    Father I pray that you will protect her daughter from this man and those who sought to do her harm. Bless her with maturity and the ability to see through this man's heart. Help her realise that her parents love her very much and they want to protect their child and not because they are trying to control her life. May you heal the rift in this family and that they will become stronger by overcoming this situation.
     
  16. singpeace

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    You are most welcome! God led me straight to those scriptures. It was all him!
     
  17. child630

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    Father God, in Jesus name, stop this from happening. Speak to the managers heart and convict him.
     
  18. Bloved1

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    Im very sorry youre all going through this. :(
    Yes it will end one way or another but you have to remember, she is now an adult and we all have to learn our lessons in life.
    Let me tell you my story,
    There is a man here where I work that is married (his wife actually works here too) and he loves to flirt with the women here. two years ago I was going through a terrible traumatic event and he started to flirt with me as well. I started to flirt with him also (now i realize to my shame). It got to the point where I was starting to go down a bad path that would lead me to a bad place. Suddenly, unexpectedly, he and his family just up and moved to CA with no notice or anything. Praise the Lord! Im so glad. In that year they were gone God taught me so much about life and REAL love. This year they came back and now he's at it again but i sent him an email saying I want him to leave me alone. Im not going through that again, Im going to wait until i meet my future husband.

    God has a plan for everything we go through. He knew this man would come into her life and He knows what will be the outcome. Trust Him, He knows how to protect His daughter. :)

    Blessings to you and your f amily! I will keep you all in prayers.
     
  19. ThyLovingkindness

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    Definitely management needs to be informed, praying!
     
  20. Purple Hyacinth

    Purple Hyacinth John 3:16

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    I am not sure if I am reading your question correct.... We have talked extensively about all of those concerns. She can just be very stubborn sometimes and resistant to guidance. She is very headstrong. However, she is a great girl otherwise and has never hung around the wrong crowd never smoked, drank or done drugs and looks down on all of that, including pre-marital s*x. I think she is just not used the attention she is getting has gotten from the opposite s*x at work.

    This never happened to her in highschool and she may just be totally flattered and a part of her enjoys the attention. She is a beautiful girl (allthough she thinks she's ugly *sigh*) She looks like Angelina Jolie.

    Anyway, yesterday was better. I think she realizes now that she does not want him thinking she is interested and has calmed down and is listening to me and did not have her dinner break with him last night. She seems more reasonable now.

    THis is why I did not want to go flying into management right away. I want to give her a chance to come to her senses and deal with it properly on her own. I don't want to embarrass her or act like a crazy mom!

    Thanks for your prayers, so far so good!
     
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