My husband of 15 years told me one day that he wanted out, that he did not love me anymore. 3 days after these heartbreaking news I discovered that he had already filed for divorce a month ago witjout telling me anything.
While I saw this as a call to action to address and try to fix our situation, he refused any kind of therapy and refused any kind of Christian counselling.
I tried to show him that I could better myself like being more present -because I was working too much and tgat affected my interaction with my family- show him live and respect. I cut my extra curricular activities like teaching gym classes, dropped work and he stayed strong saying he was done. He served me the papers in September and I felt in a horrible depression. I tried to keep myself up but any kind of gain was tinted by why you didn't do this before. I don't know how to feel about you. Day after Thanksgiving I discovered 2 things. One he was going to serve me again more divorce papers while he was gone on a long business trip. 2 he has been contacting other women on date sites. I found one profile of a woman that looked just like me but 7 years younger. I confronted him and he keeled down and felt guilty but never asked for forgiveness. We have a 4 year old boy. He left for his business trip the 4 first days and nigjt he was very talkative and communicative showing us his room to me and my kid. But the 4 night he didn't call I called him and he was nervous, he had removed his wedding ring, he had changed hotels witj a Jacuzzi in his room. When I asked if he was with another woman he hanged up on us. From there for 7 days he said th at his camera on his phone didn't work and his communication was so short. My son asked daddy I want to see your face, he said I love you baby I have to go.
Yesterday he came home he told me not to pick him up from the airport that his mom and dad were picking him up.
He spent the night with them.
He came yesterday in the afternoon asking me begging me to go to his lawyers to sign the papers. That he is willing to work with me. That if I don't agree I will loose big time. I hugged him. Told him I love our family and I forgive him. He said he was not cheating on us. But he stopped loving me 2 years ago and he didn't tell me about it because he was trying but he gave up. I asked him to repent for his sons, to come back to his family. He watched tv for 2 hours witj his son and refused to spend more time and left. Please help with any advice. I am in a very dark place. I cannot believe that my best friend has all this hate in his heart for me.
While I saw this as a call to action to address and try to fix our situation, he refused any kind of therapy and refused any kind of Christian counselling.
I tried to show him that I could better myself like being more present -because I was working too much and tgat affected my interaction with my family- show him live and respect. I cut my extra curricular activities like teaching gym classes, dropped work and he stayed strong saying he was done. He served me the papers in September and I felt in a horrible depression. I tried to keep myself up but any kind of gain was tinted by why you didn't do this before. I don't know how to feel about you. Day after Thanksgiving I discovered 2 things. One he was going to serve me again more divorce papers while he was gone on a long business trip. 2 he has been contacting other women on date sites. I found one profile of a woman that looked just like me but 7 years younger. I confronted him and he keeled down and felt guilty but never asked for forgiveness. We have a 4 year old boy. He left for his business trip the 4 first days and nigjt he was very talkative and communicative showing us his room to me and my kid. But the 4 night he didn't call I called him and he was nervous, he had removed his wedding ring, he had changed hotels witj a Jacuzzi in his room. When I asked if he was with another woman he hanged up on us. From there for 7 days he said th at his camera on his phone didn't work and his communication was so short. My son asked daddy I want to see your face, he said I love you baby I have to go.
Yesterday he came home he told me not to pick him up from the airport that his mom and dad were picking him up.
He spent the night with them.
He came yesterday in the afternoon asking me begging me to go to his lawyers to sign the papers. That he is willing to work with me. That if I don't agree I will loose big time. I hugged him. Told him I love our family and I forgive him. He said he was not cheating on us. But he stopped loving me 2 years ago and he didn't tell me about it because he was trying but he gave up. I asked him to repent for his sons, to come back to his family. He watched tv for 2 hours witj his son and refused to spend more time and left. Please help with any advice. I am in a very dark place. I cannot believe that my best friend has all this hate in his heart for me.